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You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.

Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.  Do you know that only 8% of what we worry about is over legitimate concerns (worry!).
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty-nine years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.

Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
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“Don’t worry about a thing,

‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.
-Bob Marley

Growing up and beyond I became disillusioned with this statement, hearing it often from Mom.

I heard “everything will be alright” when it wasn’t going that way at all and looked like no chance of improving.  Later, as a young mom myself, I decided not to make that a recurring theme in our house, to be “realistic” and explore consequences and results of actions in different ways.  Later, when my daughters were into their teens I explained this lack of “pollyana” philosophy as a direct result of disillusionment from Grandma’s statements.

Since then, I’ve explored many philosophies/spiritual teachings/ “self-development” theories and am learning more each day. Patience and tolerance often increase as we mature.  I  find myself resonating with the statement that is repeated several times in the movie “The Marigold Hotel:

“Everything will be alright in the end…and trust me, if it’s not all right, it’s not the end.” 

It’s about hope and faith added into the mix.  I understand now that is what Mom and Bob Marley really meant… behind the simplicity of the words.

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We know that was Alfred E. Newman from “Mad Magazine” and everyone went around saying it.
The thing is- worrying is an energy vampire- and we are human- so many of us are “worriers” even when we know better.. below are some stats to back that up; did you know that:
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time and energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. We have misperceptions about

Worrying is like stepping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use energy and don’t go anywhere! EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  Learn more about EFT: http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php and my NEW! Summer Series in Baldwin for July-August and one:one trainings http://www.balanceandpower.com/events.  If you have a group at your location, I will be happy to facilitate there.  I’ve just returned from a wonderful EFT-ADV continuing education training in Nyack, NY, and am excited to share new techniques and reliable tried and true ones!  I know that I’m a “worrier” and that EFT is miraculous!  as are other techniques that I combine with Peak Performance Success Coaching in my venues.
Even if you’ve had worry role models all your life, and/or a genetic predisposition towards anxiety, you can reset your M.O. and create new mind-body patterns with repetition and practice and a good teacher-coach.  It’s never too late!

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Did you know that
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time an energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. Have misperceived

Make a list of things you worry about. Divide your list intocategories listed at the top of this outline. How do you want to redirect your focus?
What would happen if we channeled this energy and effort contructively rather than adding “fuel to the fire”? Worrying is like steeping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use op energy and don’t go anywhere!

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Meridian Tapping) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  more.. http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

Did you know that all procrastination is fear based?

my upcoming teleclass: Transform Procrastination into Action: http://www.balanceandpower.com/events.php

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