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Next time you get angry or frustrated, don’t focus on your circumstances. Ask yourself what belief about the circumstances you are clinging to. And think about how that might be incorrect or not useful. Everyone sees things from their own lens… you may want to try to reframe and learn EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping to release the old beliefs fully.

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Do you make these statements often?:   “not the right time now”   “why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”

Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing techniques and the intention to do just that!

 If these kind of things keep happening to you, you have a problem:

  • If you’ve experienced painful consequences as a result of putting things off or not finishing projects.
  • If you are sick and tired of being late with deadlines
  • If your friends, coworkers or loved ones get upset with you because you don’t follow through with projects or promises.

The following are common phrases/excuses people often use when they are procrastinating:

The task is:

“too boring”

“too time consuming”

“I just don’t feel like it”

“I just don’t want to”.

Good news!  Here are some tips to Reverse Procrastination: 

  • Step back and reframe the situation; visualize the action as a positive outcome.
  • Outline the steps needed to complete the project.
  • Create realistic timelines and write short and long term goals; breaking down the task into reasonable “time chunks”.
  • Allow new ideas to “percolate”.
  • Learn The EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), wonderfully successful in  reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  This technique is described below.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique  to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward!  When you use EFT (Emotional Freedom technique, Tapping) and stimulate specific acupressure points the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdala, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, including set-up phrases (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.  You can use EFT to tap away feelings of guilt, shame or rebellion surrounding your fear factor.  Some of the “have-to’s” turn into choose to’s!  Use EFT to eradicate the roadblocks of doubt that keep you from moving forward!  Before you do the EFT, “take your temperature “on the issue- what is your level of distress with the procrastination or the level of procrastination itself, 10 being the highest.  After completing 3 rounds of EFT, see your score.  Tap on the specific issue daily, until it gets done or you decide to toss it.

Here are a few EFT “set up phrases” that can be helpful in working with procrastination:

  • “Even though I am procrastinating about…, I know it’s important and I can get it done.”
  • “Even though I keep putting off doing…I choose to get started today.”
  • “Even though I am resisting..I know I can do it.”

The set-up phrase is said as you tap on the karate chop point or the “sore spot”.

Each additional point gets tapped on 6-8 times as the practitioner and eventually you says something about your issue.  More about Tapping       eft long islandDownload: EFT Tapping Points (pdf)

After completing three rounds of tapping, sit back, take several relaxation breaths (in through the nose, out through the nose or mouth abdomen expanding before your chest) and visualize the completed outcome of your task. Write down realistic, measurable step into goals.  Decide when you will take the first action step and stay with your plan.  When the task is completed, reward yourself!!

Positive results after several rounds of tapping need to be followed up.  Check in with yourself.  Be honest.  There’s no such thing as too much tapping, too much visualization or too much relaxation breathing (happening in a safe and healthy environmentJ).

Short term challenge:  Continue tapping on your current procrastination issue daily until you are satisfied with your action steps.

Long Term Challenge: Take time every day to go over your goals and reprioritize when necessary.  Notice if any there is anything new being procrastinated about and tap on that for several days until you are satisfied with the results.

More about EFT here

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 When you’re feeling down, you can often turn things around with a few tips and tricks for thinking about things differently.   Here are 8 suggestions to “reframe” or place your “stuff” in different perspective and feel happier:

  1. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and visualize things working out.
  2. Give yourself a quick pep talk.
  3. Get in front of a mirror and practice smiling. While working your grin, take a minute to acknowledge your looks and appreciate your favorite part of your face.
  4. Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to remind yourself that you’re awesome.
  5. Call a friend and tell her you’re feeling down. Sometimes just admitting you’re not feeling great makes things better instantly.
  6. Make a coffee date with a good friend and ask her what she likes about you.
  7. Take a deep breath, acknowledge things aren’t going your way, and move on with your day.
  8. Stop with negative self talk. Switch the thoughts of negativity to positive mantras, such as “I am a strong woman (man)!”


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My colleague, the unstoppable Frankie Picasso has an amazing inspirational interview below with Fran Silverman; enjoy!:

Q  – Roughly 10 years ago you lived through a horrific motorcycle accident where you sustained breaks to both of your femurs, hip, pelvis tibula and fibula. During your 5-1/2 months in the hospital you worried about your three children, lost your job in a corporate restructuring, went through a marital divorce and lost your beloved dog.

Yet you didn’t let anything stop you. You picked yourself up, got on your laptop and worked toward an online certificate in coaching. You always maintained a positive outlook.

Was this certificate your dream before the accident?

No Fran, coaching wasn’t even a career that I had even heard of although unbeknownst to me, I have always done it. I had wanted to become a Spiritual Psychotherapist but after seeing one, she convinced me that Coaching was the NEW Career path I needed to take, so I took her advice. It certainly “FIT” felt like I was home.

The average person would be depressed from what you went through. Yet you turned your negative into a positive. Not everyone is able to get over their heartbreaks as you have done. What is your secret?

Let’s rephrase that Fran , shall we? I think that EVERY ONE has the capability of overcoming much more than they think they can, but until we are put to the test, none of us really know our limits. I have always been an optimist, and a dreamer and somehow have always had the confidence in my ability to create whatever I vision. Perhaps what others are lacking is just the skill set and role models I have been fortunate to have had in my life. Specifically my father. He is a survivor and that is something I suppose I get from him but also something I really admire in him. In fact, I have just started a new Radio show titled Crazy Good Radio that I call a Negative Intervention. It is all Positive News, Guests, stories, music..etc. I want to show listeners HOW to pay Positive Attention and have a Positive Intention. It means you will have to look at the world in a different way, through a different lense. Being Positive is a CHOICE that I make. It is a disservice to waste ANY of the amazing time we have here on Earth wallowing in self pity or negativity. We can do that later when we are dead.( but we won’t).

You state that your past is not your potential for potential has no bounds. “Choose to break from your self-imposed limits,” you urge. “Use your imagination to create a life of Endless possibility.” Well, for some of us without imagination and self-imposed limits it’s harder to do. What do you suggest?


Great Question. When you cannot ‘vision’ your way to a new or different lifestyle or situation, that is when you hire need to hire an expert like a Coach. Life Coach’s don’t tell people what to do or how to live their lives. What they DO offer is really GREAT questions that will help an individual remember and or/ reframe what they really want in their life. How they want to live and how to get there. Sometimes all we need is someone to listen to us, Champion us, dream with us and keep pushing us to the other side. Most of us live with self imposed limits. Society has set us up that way. We are socialized to act and think in a certain way from the time we are born. Either we are good little girls and boys or we are bad. Children who are often told NO, they aren’t good at something (whether right or wrong) find that those labels go deep into their subconscious, affecting their self esteem and self image. Family, Teachers, Friends and Lovers all have had their influence on us. The good news is that we can change and repair any damage starting with acknowledging that is what you want to do.  The Chinese have two characters for Change. One is Danger , the other Opportunity.  I love this because it is so true. We cannot have the wonderful things we want without leaving our comfort zone, IE The DANGER. But if we do, we get the REWARD- Opportunity.

You are the founder of an organization designed to bring together the resources necessary for positive change throughout the world. Your words say it all: “I believe that often we bring limited thinking and negativity to problem solving. There are always solutions but sometimes they call for a bit more effort, knowledge and creative thinking than we are willing or able to expend.”



Frankie was interviewed by Francine Silverman, editor of Book Promotion Newsletter,
an on-line publicist, compiler of 16 ebooks of talk radio shows and host of a weekly
radio show, Fraternizing with Fran – where interesting people come to chat.
http://www.talkradioadvocate.com and http://talkradioadvocate.blogpot.com






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You will encounter obstacles when you want to achieve greater success, and you can be unstoppable!Getting laid off, losing a key contract to a competitor, receiving a rejection letter, facing a serious illness, losing your home in a natural disaster, experiencing the heartache of having a romantic relationship end are just a tiny handful of the obstacles you could encounter.

What matters is how you approach these obstacles; how you react and cope.

Sadly, most people regard obstacles as the end to their dreams or a serious impediment to their happiness.

And while it’s normal and okay to experience sadness, frustration and even anger at the obstacles you face, you can’t let obstacles stop you or drag you down.

That’s why  you can be unstopable and achieve your goals when adversity presents itself with my help: contact me now to arrange  a complimentary consult via phone or Skype. we’ll discuss the proven ways successful people tackle obstacles …so you become an unstoppable success!

*I can help and empower you to SOAR! to your greatest heights of happiness, productivity and success!  interactive manual: New-Soar-for-Amazon.JPG
  •  Re-frame adversity … so you can grow and benefit from every experience
  •  Cope with obstacles (most people stop when they hit a roadblock … but successful people have 3 proven ways for achieving success despite the obstacles they encounter)
  • Create ideas for maintaining a positive attitude even when nothing seems to be going your way
  •  Plow through the overwhelming obstacles you are facing  and relate stories of others to help you gain perspective
  • And much more!

I look forward to hearing you  from you for a complimentary consult via telephone or skype~

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