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Procrastination is driven by a series of negative beliefs and feelings

Procrastination is a behavioral tendency that results when beliefs and feelings such as the following take over:
1. The fear of failure.
2. The fear of success.
3. The fear of rejection.
4. The belief that one is inadequate.
5. The belief that one is not good enough.
6. The belief that one is unworthy or undeserving.
7. The belief that one’s success will be envied and/or taken away by others.
8. The fear of envy.
9. Feelings of low self confidence.
10. The fear of attracting negative attention.
11. The fear of taking responsibility for one’s self.
12. The need to be taken care of.
13. Feelings of anger and resentment towards others.
14. The need to get revenge in passive aggressive ways.

And so on.

When one is stuck in the inertia so commonly felt with procrastination there is a sense of powerlessness, immobility, confusion, vague feelings of depression, low self worth and self-esteem, a sense of purposelessness, self-doubt, agitation, boredom, and loss of passion or enthusiasm etc.

What is not seen however are the underlying drivers, the beliefs and feelings mentioned above lying below the conscious state in your subconcious mind, often causing free will to shut down.

The only way to release oneself from this state is to become conscious of those programs and erase/delete/release them from within once and for all.  I’ve successfully guided many groups and individuals to do this with EFT!

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Do you make these statements often?:   “not the right time now”   “why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”

Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing techniques and the intention to do just that!

 If these kind of things keep happening to you, you have a problem:

  • If you’ve experienced painful consequences as a result of putting things off or not finishing projects.
  • If you are sick and tired of being late with deadlines
  • If your friends, coworkers or loved ones get upset with you because you don’t follow through with projects or promises.

The following are common phrases/excuses people often use when they are procrastinating:

The task is:

“too boring”

“too time consuming”

“I just don’t feel like it”

“I just don’t want to”.

Good news!  Here are some tips to Reverse Procrastination: 

  • Step back and reframe the situation; visualize the action as a positive outcome.
  • Outline the steps needed to complete the project.
  • Create realistic timelines and write short and long term goals; breaking down the task into reasonable “time chunks”.
  • Allow new ideas to “percolate”.
  • Learn The EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), wonderfully successful in  reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  This technique is described below.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique  to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward!  When you use EFT (Emotional Freedom technique, Tapping) and stimulate specific acupressure points the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdala, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, including set-up phrases (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.  You can use EFT to tap away feelings of guilt, shame or rebellion surrounding your fear factor.  Some of the “have-to’s” turn into choose to’s!  Use EFT to eradicate the roadblocks of doubt that keep you from moving forward!  Before you do the EFT, “take your temperature “on the issue- what is your level of distress with the procrastination or the level of procrastination itself, 10 being the highest.  After completing 3 rounds of EFT, see your score.  Tap on the specific issue daily, until it gets done or you decide to toss it.

Here are a few EFT “set up phrases” that can be helpful in working with procrastination:

  • “Even though I am procrastinating about…, I know it’s important and I can get it done.”
  • “Even though I keep putting off doing…I choose to get started today.”
  • “Even though I am resisting..I know I can do it.”

The set-up phrase is said as you tap on the karate chop point or the “sore spot”.

Each additional point gets tapped on 6-8 times as the practitioner and eventually you says something about your issue.  More about Tapping       eft long islandDownload: EFT Tapping Points (pdf)

After completing three rounds of tapping, sit back, take several relaxation breaths (in through the nose, out through the nose or mouth abdomen expanding before your chest) and visualize the completed outcome of your task. Write down realistic, measurable step into goals.  Decide when you will take the first action step and stay with your plan.  When the task is completed, reward yourself!!

Positive results after several rounds of tapping need to be followed up.  Check in with yourself.  Be honest.  There’s no such thing as too much tapping, too much visualization or too much relaxation breathing (happening in a safe and healthy environmentJ).

Short term challenge:  Continue tapping on your current procrastination issue daily until you are satisfied with your action steps.

Long Term Challenge: Take time every day to go over your goals and reprioritize when necessary.  Notice if any there is anything new being procrastinated about and tap on that for several days until you are satisfied with the results.

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Wheel of Life (2)Personal balance is different for everyone. It has to do with where you are starting and where you want to be…It depends on what your responsibilities (or perceived ones) are and the time and energy you need to allow for that and for simple and more complex pleasures.  It’s not about having equal pieces of the “wheel of life” in the chart above; it’s about giving each piece the time and energy it needs. Most of us have evaluated our success and not meeting goals for the past year and have goals and action plans in mind for this year.  It’s important to take action now.  Are you ready? Now is the time!

If you need help with prioritizing, goal setting and/or overcoming procrastination, you may contact me for a FREE consult. www.balanceandpower.com

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  1. Learn EFT to overcome obstacles and discover what they may be if you do not know.Image
  2. Prioritize and set a realistic time limit for tasks to be completed relatively in the near future.     Work  backwards from  the deadline  date.
  3. Tackle least favorite tasks first. You will feel more focused, accomplished and  a burden lifted.
  4. Ask for assistance or even delegate it if you can.  Asking for assistance a sign of accountability, a very desirable trait in the workplace.
  5. Release any tendency towards perfectionism.  Collaborate with others (e.g., boss, friends, family) to get different perspective. 

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Is there something(s) you’ve been procrastinating about? EFT is a lifesaver- see more about it here and if you’re in the area join me for a FREE EFT Reverse Procrastination Now interactive workshop at Long Beach Public Library in Long Beach,NY   Tues. 11/12 7:30PM.Image

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