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We are the only ones who can control our attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing our potential, we can take calculated risks and overcome challenges.

• Optimism is not about sugar coating the truth. Lying gets you into trouble- even with yourself!

• Think of possibilities from different perspectives.

• Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminates the words nothing and never from self talk.

• Set specific goals that are attainable.• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.

• Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event

• Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture.

• Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes.

• Surround yourself with positive people

• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.

• Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings.

• Cultivate generosity and gratitude.Image (155) (1)

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Kerry Flynn Moeykens, my Co-Author in the collaborative collection
CONTAGIOUS OPTIMISM! www.contagiousoptimism.net (publisher Viva Editions) has “hit the nail on the head” re the commonality between bullies and victims: shame and low self-esteem. We hope this helps break the chain!! She sent me her short piece below that I’m happy to share:
 

 Something Happened at School

Billy came home from school one day

He was feeling very sad

His mom asked if he was ok

He said he didn’t feel that bad

 

By the time his dad got home

He was in a better mood

And by the time dinner rolled around

He was ready for some food

 

The dinner conversation was the usual

“How was your day, dear?”

But Billy sat in silence

Didn’t think they’d want to hear

 

He didn’t have the nerve to say

“Hey, things aren’t go so well.

There’s a couple kids who are mean to me.”

No, not him, he wasn’t gonna tell

 

About those thoughts “You’re a loser”

It really would hurt their pride

If they knew for just one moment

How he really felt inside

 

His grades are slipping

He did it to himself

The coach won’t let him play this season

He can leave his cleats up on the shelf

 

There’s a girl he likes, Mary

He thinks she’s smart and cool

His friends don’t like her, not at all

They call her names like “Tool”

 

He ate his dinner quietly

He barely spoke a word

Then he noticed a voice inside him

And this is what he heard:

 

 

“Bill, don’t be afraid

I need for you to see

The strength you have inside yourself

The person you’re meant to be”

 

He closed his eyes

his head was reeling

and without thought his breath gave life

to all the hurt he was feeling

 

The way they’d been threatening him

If he ever thought of telling

The way they followed him around

And the things he saw them selling

 

His parents listened closely

So they could understand

And then they worked together

To come up with a plan

 

All his friends knew his grades were bad

His parents weren’t thrilled

he needed a reason for them to go to school

And his grades fit the bill

 

Billy went to bed that night

He finally got some rest

He didn’t feel the weight of worry

He got his secrets off his chest

 

Billy’s classes went by quickly

And he was almost having fun

That is, until he noticed

Those boys had disappeared one-by-one

 

By lunchtime everybody knew

That someone must have told

And as that thought crossed Billy’s mind

A chill made him run cold

 

They know it’s me

They know I’m to blame

And all of the pride he built up inside

Felt more and more like shame

 

But there was that voice again

And it shouted louder and louder:

“You stood up and did the right thing

No one could be prouder”

 

The voice had given him courage

It made him feel strong

He knew he had made the right choice

It was those boys who were wrong

 

Billy pretended to be fascinated with his lunch

Which was usually quite dull

He looked up at one point

When the conversation lulled

 

Across from him stood Mary

Still with tray in hand

She asked Billy if she could sit with him

And he said, “Unless you’d rather stand.”

 

His friends just stared at Billy

he quickly said, “I mean, sure, have a seat.”

Then the whole group laughed

Billy’s heart skipped a beat

 

Billy didn’t think himself a hero

But to many he would have been

His school was a safer place that day

And all because of him

 

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Strategies for Conflict Resolution/Intervention and Bullying Prevention

bullying prevention Long Island

  • Applications: Professional to professional, in the workplace, as well as educational facilities. Professional to student; and student to student. Strategies are based on psycho-educational models.

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I’m a co-contributor – author of Contagious Optimism and we did a radio show about this!  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/eileen-lichtenstein/2013/06/24/soar-with-resilience-contagious-optimism

Contagious Optimism (publisher: Viva Editions) is an uplifting book series that helps people look past the tough times they may be experiencing and instead see that there is always something positive ahead of them. We call this “Positive Forward Thinking.” The goal is to help people feel good about themselves and their future regardless of how things are in the present.

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Many of you know that I’ve just become a grandma to baby boy! All are doing well in London and I’m happy to share the joy and love.  I’ve been told (on Facebook) that I’ve just joined one of the best clubs in the world 🙂 – grandparents.  Happy Father’s Day to all who celebrate!

Today is “National Smile Day” and it makes me smile simply to read that.  I know this fact since  “Contagious Optimism”  a book I’m a contributing author of has been launched today!

 

Contagious Optimism Book Signing with Eileen

 

Eileen will be book signing for Contagious Optimism! – She is a contributor with her chapter “Resilience”

When: Sunday, July 14th at 2pm

Location: Barnes and Noble Fresh Meadows
(Utopia Center 176-60 Union Turnpike, Fresh Meadows, NY 113660) 

More Info at Balance & Power Media 

More Information Contagious Optimism 

Contagious Optimism Website


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My chapter is “Resilience” and it’s about bouncing back from my extreme feelings of being empty-nested circa 9/11 re London mom you’ve just read about who decided to live there after meeting her guy while in graduate school –  and her sister going to Madrid to study and work (she’s living happily in Amsterdam now with her man, teaching English and doing English-Spanish translations).   This story is also in my publication along with numerous strategies and success stories to help you achieve success & happiness in your life and career.

 

SOAR! with Resilience® the Interactive Book for Overcoming Obstacles & Achieving Success”    Buy it on Amazon.com    

 


Also Available: SOAR! with Resilience® the Interactive Book for Overcoming Obstacles & Achieving Success” 
[Kindle Edition]
 

 

***The main message on the subject of  “empty nestedness” is  that the most important single thing for a parent’s happiness is that her(his)  child is well and happy.  You may hear me expand on this on a recent radio show: “The Simple methods for Overcoming Separation Anxiety*** (and anxiety in general :))

 

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“Don’t worry about a thing,

‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.
-Bob Marley

Growing up and beyond I became disillusioned with this statement, hearing it often from Mom.

I heard “everything will be alright” when it wasn’t going that way at all and looked like no chance of improving.  Later, as a young mom myself, I decided not to make that a recurring theme in our house, to be “realistic” and explore consequences and results of actions in different ways.  Later, when my daughters were into their teens I explained this lack of “pollyana” philosophy as a direct result of disillusionment from Grandma’s statements.

Since then, I’ve explored many philosophies/spiritual teachings/ “self-development” theories and am learning more each day. Patience and tolerance often increase as we mature.  I  find myself resonating with the statement that is repeated several times in the movie “The Marigold Hotel:

“Everything will be alright in the end…and trust me, if it’s not all right, it’s not the end.” 

It’s about hope and faith added into the mix.  I understand now that is what Mom and Bob Marley really meant… behind the simplicity of the words.

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1. Take a small action that is a positive for your health- Drink more water, take a walk, meditate.

2. Call someone you love and trust and share your fears — getting fears out of your head will help.

3. Take a break– even if you are looking for work you need to unplug and rest to gain perspective.

4. Play with children or pets.

5. Have a cup of tea with the most positive person you know.

6. Help someone who needs support.

7. Write down three things you are grateful for.

8. Take a day off from news reports.

9.Breathe

10. Smile at yourself in the mirror.

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According to a US News and World Report poll, sixty percent of Americans said that President Obama’s inauguration made them feel “more hopeful about the next four years.” Even though the economy’s growth charts are hitting bottom, various news outlets are reporting a surge in spirit.

So, what’s going on? Is optimism an unwise strategy leaving us unprepared? Is it really safe to be an optimist through doom and gloom? Optimism is about working creatively with potential, not being limited by the challenges. It’s about the glass half full and not deluding ourselves that the glass is filled with champagne. The key to optimism is tuning in to how we interpret the events playing out in our own lives. Are we looking for the opportunities and making predictions that we can realize with our own actions? The choice is ours. It’s about thinking accurately, making calculated risks and when things go wrong, seeing the setbacks as temporary. It’s about being innovative, flexible and resilient and being able to move forward from a fall. Optimism is the mindset that encourages sound and practical ingenuity and shines a light: for yourself and others.

Twelve Tips to Safely “Go Optimistic”:

• Optimism is not about sugar coating the truth. Lying gets you into trouble- even with yourself!
• Think of possibilities from different perspectives.
• Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminates the words nothing and never from self talk.
• Set specific goals that are attainable.
• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.
• Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event
• Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture.
• Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes.
• Surround yourself with positive people
• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.
• Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings.
• Cultivate generosity and gratitude.

We are the only ones who can control our attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing our potential, we can take calculated risks and overcome challenges.

If you need help with this, I recommend personal coaching: http://www.balanceandpower.com/coaching.php and meeting regularly with like minded folks. Check out The Balance and Power™ Network and other group offerings on http://www.balanceandpower.com/events.php Eileen may be contacted at 516 623 4353 (office), 516 547 5486 (cell) and eileen@balanceandpower.com

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