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There are really five ways you can be happier- there is an  abundance of research on happiness and positive psychology documents this.

Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people.

 A 30 percent increase in one spouse’s happiness boosts the other spouse’s happiness, while a drop in one spouse’s happiness drags the other down.

 Strengths Linked to Happiness

Certain strengths are most closely linked to happiness. They include gratitude, hope, vitality, curiosity, and love. These strengths are so important that they’re worth cultivating and applying in your daily life, even if they don’t come naturally to you.  Research suggests that  these qualities can help you weather the routine ups and downs of life and also build resilience for times of greater difficulty.

 Reap the benefits of your strengths,

 First self awareness is needed to know what they are! Unfortunately, according to a British study, only about one-third of people have a useful understanding of their strengths. If something comes easily, you may take it for granted and not identify it as a strength. If you are not sure of your strengths, you can identify them by asking someone you respect who knows you well, by noticing what people compliment you on, and by thinking about what comes most easily to you.  An additional route to gratitude and boosting happiness is placing your attention on pleasure as it occurs, consciously enjoying the experience as it unfolds.  Multitasking can be the antithesis of this.

Appreciating the treasures in life, big and small, helps build happiness.

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 Yeats:  “We are happy when we are growing.”

 Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?

 Samuel Jackson: “The business of the wise man is to be happy”.

 Research shows that acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel happier.

 Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy, of responsibility.

 At time of financial stress, taking control of your finances- even symbolically- can boost your mood because you’re taking steps to control and improve your situation.

 Gratitude is important to happiness.  Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising.

 Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when you are feeling grateful toward him or her.

 Gratitude connects you to the natural world, because one of the easiest things to feel grateful for is the beauty of nature. 

 Studies show that happier people are more likely to help other people.

Happier people are more interested in social problems.  They do more volunteer work and contribute more to charity.

 One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy.

One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself!

 Publius Syrus: “No man is happy who does not think himself so”

Saint Therese:  I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.”

 A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult- seventeen times. 

Laughter can boost immunity and lower blood pressure and cortisol levels and increases people’s tolerance for pain. 

 Often a laughter response to someone’s  exasperation turns the situation around.  A story from Saint Therese:  p.264 The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

 Tolstoy: ” Nothing, can make our life, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.”

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I’m a co-contributor – author of Contagious Optimism and we did a radio show about this!  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/eileen-lichtenstein/2013/06/24/soar-with-resilience-contagious-optimism

Contagious Optimism (publisher: Viva Editions) is an uplifting book series that helps people look past the tough times they may be experiencing and instead see that there is always something positive ahead of them. We call this “Positive Forward Thinking.” The goal is to help people feel good about themselves and their future regardless of how things are in the present.

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“Don’t worry about a thing,

‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.
-Bob Marley

Growing up and beyond I became disillusioned with this statement, hearing it often from Mom.

I heard “everything will be alright” when it wasn’t going that way at all and looked like no chance of improving.  Later, as a young mom myself, I decided not to make that a recurring theme in our house, to be “realistic” and explore consequences and results of actions in different ways.  Later, when my daughters were into their teens I explained this lack of “pollyana” philosophy as a direct result of disillusionment from Grandma’s statements.

Since then, I’ve explored many philosophies/spiritual teachings/ “self-development” theories and am learning more each day. Patience and tolerance often increase as we mature.  I  find myself resonating with the statement that is repeated several times in the movie “The Marigold Hotel:

“Everything will be alright in the end…and trust me, if it’s not all right, it’s not the end.” 

It’s about hope and faith added into the mix.  I understand now that is what Mom and Bob Marley really meant… behind the simplicity of the words.


The unicorn became the most important imaginary animal of the Middle Ages and Renaissance when it was commonly described as  a symbol of purity and grace. In the encyclopedia its horn was said to have the power to render poisoned water potable and to heal sickness.

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When we hold hope or sadness, pathways appear in the brain to support that sadness or hope; that’s been documented. The same thing happens at a cellular level. When we consistently hold an emotion, a large amount of related hormones are released to every cell. In other words, your brain and every cell of your body support you in the feelings that you consistently hold and leave no space for the other emotions. So, hold hope!


If you are not happy with your holdings, then you can change that! It takes a while to rebuild, and here are three tips to changing the emotion which changes the chemistry and becomes a cycle:

1. Pay attention to your thoughts and attitude. If you find negativity or sadness, pause and breathe.

2. Learn and practice EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) to create self-acceptance and compassionate change.

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An article published in today’s Sunday April 9 Newsday written by Rabbi Marc Gellman of the “God Squad” titled “Finding your purpose on life’s solitary journey” included a few powerful inspirational quotes that I will share with you here:

“Lonliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”
– Mother Teresa

“Many persons have the wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness.  It is not attained through self-gratification but thtough fidelity to a worthy purpose.”   – Helen Keller

“You never find happiness until you stop looking for it.”  – Chuanf Tzu, the 5th century BCE Chinese Philosopher

“Happiness is having having a large, loving, close knot family- in another city.”   – George Burns

“For there is hope of a tree.  If it be cut down,that it wqill sprout again, and its tender branches will not die.  If it’s roots are old in the earth, even if the trunk dies in the ground, at the first scent of water it will bud and bring forth boughs like a plant.”    – Job (14:7-9)

“God is the healer of shattered hearts.”  -Rabbinic teaching

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 We had a lovely apartment with a great view of the town & sea. We went to a secluded beach yesterday, hiking down one mile to the shore..Xabi & Steve walked up to get the car and drive us up- no parking allowed on that road.
Lot’s of sun; the mediteranean was too cold to go in and good waves to my surprise..  We went on a route with beautiful vistas mountains-sea. Some of the mountain roads were extremely curvy-not well paved with no guardrails; Steve & I agree Costa Rica beats them for most treacherous. Frigliliana is a charming town and had some cute diorama-puppet art/entertainment in windows for a coin and also we said hello to a Enrique, a cute chiuhuanhua in a window whose elderly owner was so happy to hear we are American and that Obama is a world leader now to “give the world hope.”  Onto  Sayalonga, on the “Sun & Wine Route” with a yummy menu el dia at 3PM (lunch) complete with liquor de yerbes (chamomile) apertif. London next; sayonora!

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“The 3 essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love
and something to hope for.”
– Helen Keller

We can “die of boredom” if we lack the above. People who are deeply depressed have no hope, and are often immobilized. I was depressed for a period of time: I got help, and also “helped myself” which I continue to do on a regular basis, though no longer depressed.

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