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ebook-cover-angerForgiveness has been said to be an antidote to anger  in your life because every time you remember the injustice, and you will remember it since forgiving is NOT forgetting, you choose to release the perpetrator from the debt that she/he owes you.  You may read about the Biehl’s amazing journey here:

http://thejourneyofhope.blogspot.ca/2009/03/amy-biehl-and-improbable-tale-of.html

And…The Mayo Clinic Staff reports that researchers are claiming that, in addition to improving your spiritual health, forgiveness may have benefits for your physical health, too.  This is definitely something that warrants our attention!  It is being said that “letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace, and that forgiveness can lead to:

  •  Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse”

Well, this helps explain the statement I’ve heard and read again and again that if you experience a high level of gratitude you cannot be depressed.  This makes sense since depression is anger suppressed.  Imagine a line with frustration in the middle.  It can go either way- one end is depression(extremely suppressed anger) and the other is a high anger level – often in an inappropriate, aggressive way.

The University of Maryland School of Medicine  is researching the connection between anger and  “unforgiveness”. Anger is a component of unforgiveness and anger is a health risk.  Then is unforgiveness  a health risk  as well? Included in the research are studies with aids patients.  Knowing more about the nature and course of anger expression in the context of unforgiveness will ultimately help define and clarify this area of research.

Now I’ll share a few important points that can be helpful in letting go of anger- something I’ve learned as an Advanced EFTtapping  (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Certified Practitioner in a training I attended and has been reinforced in my trainings to facilitate Anger Management.

  • As the victim, it’s OK to forgive only a small percent.
  • Perhaps the other’s behavior was impacted by a chemical/emotional imbalance
  • *** The other was doing what he/she knew how to do – perhaps learned – no matter.
  • It’s possible that the action was not meant “personally” – it was simply an “M.O.”
  • It’s impossible to change another person’s way of dealing; only your own.

If you or someone you love gets help with managing anger and/or letting it go as a victim, then stress is automatically addressed and therefore health will improve too!

 Balance & Power, Inc. has been addressing stress and anger management issues for two decades, corporately and  in the educational and private sectors, and is now facilitating Workplace Bullying Prevention trainings.

Download: Workplace Bullying Prevention Programs (pdf)

Bullying in the workplace, the schools and at home has reached epidemic proportions – it is our goal to help eliminate these type of situations. I believe inner strength and being centered are keys to optimal productivity and happiness. I’m a Certified Anger Management Specialist accepted by the US courts, a former Biofeedback Practitioner and faculty member Hofstra University. My office is in Westbury, NY, the telephone, Video Skype or on your site.  

When you’re having difficulties with forgiveness or anger, success and career coaching, anger and stress management strategies, & EFT can turn it around!  I’m a certified Anger Management Specialist-1 Fellow accepted by the courts.

Call me for a complimentary consult: 516 623 4353   http://www.balanceandpower.com/anger.php 

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The Holidays have begun for Americans: Ads for Black Friday.  Sales at midnight.

Turkey, sweet potatoes, stuffing and pie, yum!!  We are grateful and most of us are happy to be at this table.  I’d like to say a bit more about grateful. and reducing Holiday Stress.

There is a huge correlation between gratefulness-forgiveness-happiness.  Research has documented it and everyday I affirm this for myself and with clients.  I recommend  every evening going over a few things-people-circumstances that you are grateful for; perhaps journaling them.  Here are some of mine:

I am grateful for my supportive and loving family.

I am grateful for my home and surroundings.

I am grateful that I can thrive amidst world chaos.

I am grateful for my health and positive attitude.

I am grateful for my friends.

I am grateful for knowing all of you- my friends and colleagues.

I am grateful that I help so many people in my work and that I love doing that.

Whether you are hosting a family dinner or traveling to one, you may find yourself experiencing some feelings of anxiety or apprehension in preparation for the holiday gathering.  Visualize positive outcomes and

Try EFT tapping everyday to overcome Holiday Stress- Anxiety.  http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

Call me for a FREE consult 516 623 4353 today and we can get started  via Video Sktpe!   

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We’re so often engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that it’s easy to forget our inner value and the happiness that can be felt just being al;ive!

Here are links to a few blogs I’ve written on the subject of happiness ~ enjoy!

Happiness and Gratitude: Research, Thoughts and Inspirational Quotes

 

How to Create an Attitude of Gratitude and Be Happier!

 

 The Happiness Connection

 

I offer a FREE phone consult 516 623 4353   http://www.balanceandpower.com

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There is an abundance of research on happiness and gratitude.

I’ve made a personal study of it and here are some of my favorite facts and inspirational thoughts on happiness and gratitude.  Enjoy!:

Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people.

 A 30 percent increase in one spouse’s happiness boosts the other spouse’s happiness, while a drop in one spouse’s happiness drags the other down.

 Yeats:  “We are happy when we are growing.”

 Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?

 Samuel Jackson: “The business of the wise man is to be happy”.

 Research shows that acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel happier.

 Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy, of responsibility.

 At time of financial stress, taking control of your finances- even symbolically- can boost your mood because you’re taking steps to control and improve your situation.

 Gratitude is important to happiness.  Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising.

 Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when you are feeling grateful toward him or her.

 Gratitude connects you to the natural world, because one of the easiest things to feel grateful for is the beauty of nature. 

 Studies show that happier people are more likely to help other people.

Happier people are more interested in social problems.  They do more volunteer work and contribute more to charity.

 One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy.

One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself!

 Publius Syrus: “No man is happy who does not think himself so”

Saint Therese:  I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.”

 A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult- seventeen times. 

Laughter can boost immunity and lower blood pressure and cortisol levels and increases people’s tolerance for pain. 

 Often a laughter response to someone’s  exasperation turns the situation around.  A story from Saint Therese:  p.264 The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

 Tolstoy: ” Nothing, can make our life, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.”

I am a peak performance success coach empowering individuals and organizations  and I’ll be happy to help you and your group!  FREE consult:   www.balanceandpower.com  516 623 4353  eileen@balanceandpower.com       

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On this Thanksgiving Eve in the US and first night Hannukah for my family and many of you, I’ve compiled several of my blogs on the topic of “gratitude”.  As you will see, and may alreadyn know, gratitude is a necessary component of happiness.  Enjoy!

Gratitude is important to happiness.  Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising. It’s impossible to feel stressed or angry in the same moment that you feel grateful! Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when […]

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Are you ready to live a life full of joy?  Transform your, relationships, finances, health, body, career… Join Us in this one of a kind event to Get Your Gratitude on & Infuse your life with Happiness When: Friday December 7, 2012 at 2pm (EST) More Info: http://youtu.be/dVD9AM2iKy0 What can you expect? Three interviews a week with […]

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There is an abundance of research on happiness and gratitude.. I’ve made a personal study of it and here are some of my favorite facts  on happiness and gratitude.  Enjoy!: Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people. A 30 percent increase […]

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On the Hebrew Calender, in the Jewish religion, Yom Kippur, a day of atonement and fasting concludes the week starting with Rosh Hashanah , the Jewish New Year.  It is a week of prayer and celebration, introspection, forgiveness and gratitude the last day of a week of introspection, forgiveness and gratitude concluding with  fasting and […]

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“..The Whale… If you read a recent front page story of the San Francisco Chronicle, you would have read about a female humpback whale who had become entangled in a spider web of crab traps and lines. She was weighted down by hundreds of pounds of traps that caused her to struggle to stay afloat. She […]

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Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people.

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“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”  – Brian Tracy Gratitude has been getting a lot of press in self-help/development curriculums because it is essential to acknowledge personal gratefuluness in several […]

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Gratitude is important to happiness.  Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising.

  • It’s impossible to feel stressed or angry in the same moment that you feel grateful!
  • Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when you are feeling grateful toward him or her.
  • Gratitude connects you to the natural world, because one of the easiest things to feel grateful for is the beauty of nature.

 

Things to do:

Keep a gratitude journal-lists . Add to it each eve and read before you close your eyes at night.

Walk and be grateful. You can create a “mantra” of gratefulness as you walk.

-Inhale (4 counts while stepping 4) a sentence of gratitude- personal or to do with natural setting

-Exhale negativity and fear

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There are really five ways you can be happier- there is an  abundance of research on happiness and positive psychology documents this.

Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people.

 A 30 percent increase in one spouse’s happiness boosts the other spouse’s happiness, while a drop in one spouse’s happiness drags the other down.

 Strengths Linked to Happiness

Certain strengths are most closely linked to happiness. They include gratitude, hope, vitality, curiosity, and love. These strengths are so important that they’re worth cultivating and applying in your daily life, even if they don’t come naturally to you.  Research suggests that  these qualities can help you weather the routine ups and downs of life and also build resilience for times of greater difficulty.

 Reap the benefits of your strengths,

 First self awareness is needed to know what they are! Unfortunately, according to a British study, only about one-third of people have a useful understanding of their strengths. If something comes easily, you may take it for granted and not identify it as a strength. If you are not sure of your strengths, you can identify them by asking someone you respect who knows you well, by noticing what people compliment you on, and by thinking about what comes most easily to you.  An additional route to gratitude and boosting happiness is placing your attention on pleasure as it occurs, consciously enjoying the experience as it unfolds.  Multitasking can be the antithesis of this.

Appreciating the treasures in life, big and small, helps build happiness.

Need help figuring it out? FREE phone 15 minute consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

 

 Yeats:  “We are happy when we are growing.”

 Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?

 Samuel Jackson: “The business of the wise man is to be happy”.

 Research shows that acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel happier.

 Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy, of responsibility.

 At time of financial stress, taking control of your finances- even symbolically- can boost your mood because you’re taking steps to control and improve your situation.

 Gratitude is important to happiness.  Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising.

 Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when you are feeling grateful toward him or her.

 Gratitude connects you to the natural world, because one of the easiest things to feel grateful for is the beauty of nature. 

 Studies show that happier people are more likely to help other people.

Happier people are more interested in social problems.  They do more volunteer work and contribute more to charity.

 One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy.

One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself!

 Publius Syrus: “No man is happy who does not think himself so”

Saint Therese:  I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.”

 A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult- seventeen times. 

Laughter can boost immunity and lower blood pressure and cortisol levels and increases people’s tolerance for pain. 

 Often a laughter response to someone’s  exasperation turns the situation around.  A story from Saint Therese:  p.264 The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

 Tolstoy: ” Nothing, can make our life, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.”

I am a peak performance success coach empowering individuals and organizations SOAR! to their highest levels of happiness and success.

I’ll be happy to help you with this- call me for a FREE consult:  
            516 623 4353        

 

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