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My colleague, the unstoppable Frankie Picasso has an amazing inspirational interview below with Fran Silverman; enjoy!:

Q  – Roughly 10 years ago you lived through a horrific motorcycle accident where you sustained breaks to both of your femurs, hip, pelvis tibula and fibula. During your 5-1/2 months in the hospital you worried about your three children, lost your job in a corporate restructuring, went through a marital divorce and lost your beloved dog.

Yet you didn’t let anything stop you. You picked yourself up, got on your laptop and worked toward an online certificate in coaching. You always maintained a positive outlook.

Was this certificate your dream before the accident?

No Fran, coaching wasn’t even a career that I had even heard of although unbeknownst to me, I have always done it. I had wanted to become a Spiritual Psychotherapist but after seeing one, she convinced me that Coaching was the NEW Career path I needed to take, so I took her advice. It certainly “FIT” felt like I was home.

The average person would be depressed from what you went through. Yet you turned your negative into a positive. Not everyone is able to get over their heartbreaks as you have done. What is your secret?

Let’s rephrase that Fran , shall we? I think that EVERY ONE has the capability of overcoming much more than they think they can, but until we are put to the test, none of us really know our limits. I have always been an optimist, and a dreamer and somehow have always had the confidence in my ability to create whatever I vision. Perhaps what others are lacking is just the skill set and role models I have been fortunate to have had in my life. Specifically my father. He is a survivor and that is something I suppose I get from him but also something I really admire in him. In fact, I have just started a new Radio show titled Crazy Good Radio that I call a Negative Intervention. It is all Positive News, Guests, stories, music..etc. I want to show listeners HOW to pay Positive Attention and have a Positive Intention. It means you will have to look at the world in a different way, through a different lense. Being Positive is a CHOICE that I make. It is a disservice to waste ANY of the amazing time we have here on Earth wallowing in self pity or negativity. We can do that later when we are dead.( but we won’t).

You state that your past is not your potential for potential has no bounds. “Choose to break from your self-imposed limits,” you urge. “Use your imagination to create a life of Endless possibility.” Well, for some of us without imagination and self-imposed limits it’s harder to do. What do you suggest?

 

Great Question. When you cannot ‘vision’ your way to a new or different lifestyle or situation, that is when you hire need to hire an expert like a Coach. Life Coach’s don’t tell people what to do or how to live their lives. What they DO offer is really GREAT questions that will help an individual remember and or/ reframe what they really want in their life. How they want to live and how to get there. Sometimes all we need is someone to listen to us, Champion us, dream with us and keep pushing us to the other side. Most of us live with self imposed limits. Society has set us up that way. We are socialized to act and think in a certain way from the time we are born. Either we are good little girls and boys or we are bad. Children who are often told NO, they aren’t good at something (whether right or wrong) find that those labels go deep into their subconscious, affecting their self esteem and self image. Family, Teachers, Friends and Lovers all have had their influence on us. The good news is that we can change and repair any damage starting with acknowledging that is what you want to do.  The Chinese have two characters for Change. One is Danger , the other Opportunity.  I love this because it is so true. We cannot have the wonderful things we want without leaving our comfort zone, IE The DANGER. But if we do, we get the REWARD- Opportunity.

You are the founder of an organization designed to bring together the resources necessary for positive change throughout the world. Your words say it all: “I believe that often we bring limited thinking and negativity to problem solving. There are always solutions but sometimes they call for a bit more effort, knowledge and creative thinking than we are willing or able to expend.”

 

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Frankie was interviewed by Francine Silverman, editor of Book Promotion Newsletter,
an on-line publicist, compiler of 16 ebooks of talk radio shows and host of a weekly
radio show, Fraternizing with Fran – where interesting people come to chat.
http://www.talkradioadvocate.com and http://talkradioadvocate.blogpot.com

 

 

 

 

 

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We always have a choice.  When fear faces you, you can either run – or take take action!

 “Fear is the single greatest obstacle to success. You overcome your fear by looking it straight on in the face, and then taking action – immediately! Procrastination leads only to more doubt and fear.” ~Napoleon Hill 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) reverses fear, including procrastination, which is always fear based.  It seems easy sometimes, to do nothing or something else.  When that happens, try visualizing the positive action result.  Try tapping (EFT).  If you’re still not convinced it’s time to  move, then perhaps “it” need to be tossed.  It’s you’re choice; listen to your intuition ’cause you’re (almost) always right!

 Want to learn and succeed with  EFT? A few video skype sessions does it!

FREE consult! 516 623 4353  eileen@balanceandpower.com

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image008You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.
Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta: This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit. Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.  CONSULT 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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Have you ever tried a “personal mantra” or “positive trigger phrase”  when things aren’t going your way?  When you feel yourself slipping into a negative zone you can say “I choose to be happy” and focus on what that brings up in order to transition to a positive mind set.   Challenging times can be difficult and negative thought patterns may be long ingrained.  This can be changed by choosing to be happy and focusing on abundance and joy.  It takes at least 21 days to create new habits-patterns.  We can choose to retrain our minds to think positively even as we experience setbacks and challenges and in doing so empower ourselves with the ability to see the bright side of most situations.  And the positive cycle continues and perpetuates itself as we begin to attract more of what we want and positive people into our lives.

Let me know how it works out!   If you need help, I am available via skype, phone and in Westbury,  Long Island, NY.  FREE phone consult:

516 623 4353                     www.balanceandpower.com

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I was on the airplane 3 nights ago, a return flight from European family fun and travels- and found myself contemplating how growing up in Brooklyn near Coney Island may have been a blessing in disguise-

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.

Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:

•Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

  • Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!
  • Para sailing Puerto Vallarta: This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.
  • Riding a bicycle in Amsterdam last week.  Steve and I were visiting our daughter who lives there with her Spanish boyfriend. The city is really set up for cycling but I convinced myself it would be tough, it’s difficult enough being a pedestrian there- ‘cause of all the bicycles! My daughter went off riding with my husband and after a while came back to get me- they knew I would love it and it was only a few blocks to Vondel Park. Steve and I visited that city 40 years ago and rode our bikes around that we bought in Italy.
  • Back on the trip forty years ago- we rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.

I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.

• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.

  • Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.  Be present. Be happy. Be resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.

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A big shout-out Thank You! to Barbara Kent, publisher of “The Long Island Corrider” magazine of the area who organized and hosted a luncheon to honor Long Island Authors and gave us the opportunity to talk about our books and lives.

 

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10 Tips to Get Out of Your Own Way and Be Fearless!

There are easy-to-do tips here.

I do them all with outstanding results!  Let me know how they go for you- or what are already your favs :)-

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Finding the balance of spontaneity with intuition helps us make choices that benefit our lives. Notice when you are feeling impulsive or spontaneous and then ask yourself, “Will this really benefit me?”  The answer comes in the form of a verbal response or simply an instinctual feeling. Try to pay attention to your feeling; that is your intuition guiding you to make the right choices. It is important to remember that making spontaneous decisions doesn’t necessarily mean being hasty. Acting with energy and spontaneity is a wonderful way to live our lives, as it means we are being in the moment. However, it can lead us to make decisions that may not be the best for us  and may lead to stress, frustration, anger, anxiety, depression.  I know my that SOAR! with Resilience™ Book can help with these issues and challenges.

A must read for anyone struggling to take their personal or professional life to a higher level of success and satisfaction.
 A high level of energy may leave you feeling stimulated and not completely aware of the effects of the choices you make.  This may be a good time to work on balancing your spontaneity with intuition.Taking a moment or two to think about the effects of our choices, we are still acting on the spur-of-the-moment, but we also act using our intuition as a guide. This prevents us from making decisions we may later regret. We respect and pay attention to both our desire for the unstructured and our natural instincts.   Be attuned to your intuition! Balancing spontaneity with intuition is your best manifestor.Need help with this? You may contact me  516 623 4353

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