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You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.

Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.  Do you know that only 8% of what we worry about is over legitimate concerns (worry!).
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty-nine years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.

Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
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  • Listen to and follow your Intuition.
  • Stay with your Integrity, no matter what!
  • Forgive yourself for mistakes – let go and move on
  • Live, love, laugh and stay healthy!
  • Work-life integration or balance?
  • Take time each day to relax, dream and visualize
  • Be an active listener.
  • Follow-up!
  • Believe in yourself and your goals: The power of affirmations and visualization

 

Ready to Keep Soaring? then STOP WORRYING!!!

Did you know that
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time and energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. Have misperceived

Make a list of things you worry about. Divide your list into categories listed at the top of this outline. How do you want to redirect your focus?  VISUALIZE THIS!
What would happen if we channeled this energy and effort constructively rather than adding “fuel to the fire”? Worrying is like steeping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use energy and don’t go anywhere! EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Meridian Tapping) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  more.. http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

 

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Mindfulness is defined as paying attention and being fully in the moment.  Multi-tasking cannot be included in this definition, as most people cannot fully focus on more than one thing at a time.  The influence of technology in our fast paced world has often caused the problem of lack of focus on a particular task.  This has translated into the modern workplace, especially those who are not used to the fastest paced technology. Those used to it, mostly millennials, often inadvertently miss important details. In our modern often chaotic world, frustration levels rise quickly, giving way to stress and anger.  Impatience and frustration often go hand-in-hand.  A workplace culture of mindfulness, geared to all generations and cultures can be beneficial to all.

Another tool that is helpful in focusing as well as to reduce stress and anger is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), also known as tapping.  It is recognized in the field of Energy Psychology and has become globally popular.  The physical tapping on meridian points releases cortisol, a stress hormone and sends serotonin – a feel good hormone – to the section of the brain dealing with emotions, the amygdala. Most of us are not born with the recommended amount of serotonin for optimal functioning and it may be found as an ingredient in some anti-depressants.

Here are a few additional tips to help focus in the workplace:

  • Stay on task by not reading emails throughout the day; have two specific times to check and designate some to be addressed at a future time
  • Keep cell phone sound off
  • Take frequent stretch breaks, being “mindful of physical toll of computer and phones.
  • Keep a “worry list” to address late afternoon each day for ten minutes.

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Did you know that
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time an energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. Have misperceived

Make a list of things you worry about. Divide your list intocategories listed at the top of this outline. How do you want to redirect your focus?
What would happen if we channeled this energy and effort contructively rather than adding “fuel to the fire”? Worrying is like steeping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use op energy and don’t go anywhere!

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Meridian Tapping) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  more..http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

Did you know that all procrastination is fear based?

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Life throws many curved balls – meant to be intercepted . I’ve been hearing the term often lately, from clients and background summer sounds of TV baseball announcers…

Successful interception of life’s curve balls takes clear vision, focus, intention and correct action. When curved balls are directed at you (or it simply feels that way) you may need extra help-guidance and new strategies to go in a different direction, become unstuck, release tension, let go of past mistakes and foster forgiveness (to yourself as well as others), sometimes within a short timeline. EFT Emotional Freedom Technique is a forerunner in this field and when combined with Stress Management – a homerun!

 

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These are tried & true “tips” with links related to blogs and/or photos.  Enjoy!

  • Surround yourself with positive thinkers and shun those who are excessively negative. It’s a… fb.me/6uUkPgkYk
  • Look back at your actions and see what you can do to improve your performances instead of… fb.me/21jdLyihn
  • Are you part of 80% of people who procrastinate from time to time?
    Or of the other 20% who procrastinate ALL… fb.me/2UQmUCTI7
  • Tapping reduces stress from everyday issues that may cause you to turn to food to soothe anxious… fb.me/1ieTzPCmZ
  • Get out of your comfort zone and feel invigorated!fb.me/1fq18Yyqx
  • Good relationships correlate with happiness and productivity. ow.ly/u9Pl8fb.me/2Hsdx5lJr
  • EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a magnificant tool to overcome fear. ow.ly/u9P4i
  • Be kind and helpful. People appreciating you will make you feel better about yourself.
  • Believe in the power of animal therapy – lots of smiles 🙂fb.me/2rpzV7z1V
  • Proven methods for enhancing happiness are nurturing relationships, writing in a gratitude… fb.me/2T3zeV7OS
  • Practice relaxation and/or meditation on a regular basis ow.ly/i/4LsfD ow.ly/i/4LsgE
  • (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) can help remove blocks, release frustrations and… fb.me/6nWk5KUVu
  • You can change your definition of happiness- maybe want less or differently 🙂 ow.ly/u8IXv fb.me/3s9p8zTy9
  • Helping others may be the most direct route to happiness.ow.ly/u8sxt
  • Balance is about developing a relationship with ourselves,expectations for daily… fb.me/11y57B9K2
  • Cultivate patience and tolerance for those less talented, passionate or knowledgeable. ow.ly/ubC5X
  • Take yourself a bit less seriously 🙂
  • Write your goal in positive language. The more positive instructions you give yourself, the more positive results you get!
  • Lifestyles and stress levels can be changed with impressive results! FREE consult ow.ly/ubwlK
  • Harmony vs. Work/Life Balance ow.ly/uQkzC  read my article here! fb.me/2qkDXugRNProtective white light energy around you so inappropriate negativity directed at you bounces… fb.me/2GazA5zqx
  • List all of your positive traits and characteristics and review often! ow.ly/u9NO1 fb.me/6tAdECoBG

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Change can be stressful and stress can look like this:

 

Mind

  • Trouble concentrating
  • Preoccupation with the negative circumstances
  • Recurring nightmares
  • Phobias and health concerns

 

 

Heart

  • Anxiety or fearfulness
  • Depression or sadness
  • Irritability, anger, resentfulness
  • Despair, hopelessness, feelings of guilt
  • Questioning spiritual beliefs

 

Body

  • Fatigue
  • Increase of medical problems
  • Physical complaints with no physical cause
  • Headaches, stomaches

 

Behavior

  • Increased conflicts
  • Isolation
  • Sleep problems
  • Social withdrawal
  • Change in appetite
  • Crying easily

 

If you or a loved one is feeling “overwhelmed” and is “symptomatic” then get help!

 

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