Authored by Rich Feller
You already know the value of coaching, if you stop to think about it. You’ve seen coaches huddle on the sideline with their players, right? An athlete rarely succeeds without the strategy and encouragement a great coach offers, or the accountability a coach demands.
Wondering whether you’d like to have a coach in your corner? Here are 10 critical things a coach can do for you.
- Assess and Take Stock: Coaches ask what’s next for you in key areas of life, like work, relationships and well-being. They’re looking for areas where you’re in action and your strengths shine. Coaches listen for gaps between where you are and where you want to be. A coach can help align your goals, values, desired impact and purpose.
- Focus:By shining a spotlight on the future, a coach helps you clarify a vision. Your coach will work with you to articulate your goals, then plan and gather resources. Your coach will bring you back to the original focus when you stray (everyone does!).
- Motivate:We all get distracted, drifting away from even the best of plans. Your coach will help you tap into your deep reservoirs of motivation, often by reminding you of your long-range vision. Your coach will affirm and champion you. Your coach will nudge you to reflect, connect, explore, choose, repack and act.
- Optimize:At the heart of coaching is this question: What would it take to be your best in all dimensions of your life? A coach works alongside you to ensure that your performance matches your potential and is driven by your purpose. Your purpose is your GPS. Everyone is an experiment of one…growing, learning and making choices.
- Encourage:There are moments when it’s tempting to quit, and that’s when your coach becomes your best support. Your coach can serve as part of your sounding board and a haven of emotional safety.6
- Shift Perspective: Coaches are trained to be powerful listeners, ferretting out blind spots, pointing out alternative perspectives, and freeing you to see things in a different way. By reframing your view of a struggle, a question like, “In five years, how will you view this situation?” can lead to insight, motivation and action.
- Probe:One of a coach’s most effective tools is a powerful question: “What do you want?” “How is that connected to your purpose?” A provocative question can startle you, lead to insight and cause you to rethink a habit. A coach will challenge you to ask and answer difficult questions without analyzing intentions or probing into your past.
- Build Structure: A coach provides the environment for you to translate your desires into action—nonjudgmental listening and supportive accountability. If you know your coach is going to ask you whether you’ve accomplished the objectives you outlined in a previous session, you’re very likely to come to the session prepared.
- Clear Hurdles: What if you don’t accomplish what you’ve committed to? Your coach can help you recognize why you’re not following through and craft a plan for eliminating barriers to your goal.
- Celebrate:In the busy whirl of our lives, time with a coach can create a pause when you recognize what you’ve accomplished. When was the last time you gave yourself time for reflection and celebration? When have you recognized your own growth and learning? It’s important to create time to integrate new behaviors and make them daily habits.
Imagine huddling with your coach to reflect, build a structure for exploring, and create connections that propel you to act. Go ahead. Set up a session with a coach to move toward what you want to create in your life.
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Posted in career strategies, emowerment, lifestyle, stress management tips, stress resilience, success, time management, work-life balance, work-life integration, tagged career telesummit, glass ceiling, life-empowering on June 6, 2014|
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The Breaking Through the Glass Ceiling Telesummit has been awesome and it has been wonderful to be a Speaker in this Women’s career empowerment movement.
Here is your last chance to join this remarkable fre*e series for Replay Weekend to discover the career promoting strategies, you’ve been seeking.
The host, Debbi Lewis has been blown away with the Telesummit series going viral with women registering every day. The feedback has been overwhelming positive which is why she decided to replay ALL the speakers interviews THIS weekend.
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Breaking Through the Glass Ceiling Telesummit, is a life-empowering event fully committed to your professional growth and assisting you in breaking down the barriers so that you get the position you want.
Listen to my interview and other speakers who are well known and highly regarded names in the women career empowerment movement; including, Host, Debbi Lewis who adds her insight and laughter, the interviews have been lively and fun.
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Posted in balance, happy, health, Uncategorized, work-life balance, work-life integration, tagged connect to nature, family, health, work- life balance, work-life integration, workweek on February 16, 2013|
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Can you disconnect from technology, from work related stuff for an hour, a half day, weekend, week? We must usually plan to do that. It’s not always easy to make happen.
It’s good for our health, and often gives us the opportunity to reconnect with nature, with family, and to our inner quiet. Fun can go into that equation too!
I’m not talking about the four hour workweek here- just a few hours or longer.
Try it and enjoy- without guilt:)
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Posted in entrepreneurs, lifestyle, long island, Long Island Networking, networking, positive energy, prioritizing, Uncategorized, vacation tips, work-life balance, tagged acupuncture, entrepreneurs, Europe, family fun, jetlag, overload, small business, time off, vacation on October 11, 2012|
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What makes you happy?
When you discover that equation then I know you will get lots of compliments re: you’re looking great! and I hope you can say “thanks!” – like I’ve been doing since I’ve been in the semi-public eye for 3 days since my return from fun-family vacationing and adventures in Europe.
What’s different? I’ve been noticing all day today here in Long Island, NY that my work load is lighter (since I’ve given myself time to catch up) and that I’m not in a hurry to complete something or get somewhere. I’ve had extreme patience (for me) at MD’s office’s and bank business. That’s really different…
I’ve not attended any evening events (due to jetlag). Jetlag is gone now (speeded up with acupuncture and light treatments:))
and I’ve really been able to catch up. Many lessons here…
Sometimes as entrepreneurs/small biz owners we must be on overload, even when we do not realize it. This week has shown me, once again, how important it is to take an extended time off.
Just do it- it’s good for you- and you’ll look great!
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Posted in abundance, choice, faith, happy, health, spiritual and emotional health, work-life balance, tagged emotional and spiritual health, faith, family values, God, happiness, higher power, joy, The Internet, work life balance on September 13, 2012|
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a Guest Post:
Imagine the Internet without the gazillion articles and blog posts about how to make money, how to be happy, how to lose weight, or how to win back your girlfriend or boyfriend. The above scenario would never exist because as humans, we are constantly searching for ways to feel good. The web is a mirror held to humanity, and the endless self-help content is a reflection of our perceived desires as humans. Whether or not we follow the advice and work toward what we want is another thing. Basic needs, of course, are essential to happiness, but many of the desires are artificial. Focusing on excessive details of success like making millions of dollars or having a flawless body is only a distraction.
There’s no doubt that happiness is tied to more than just emotional and spiritual health. Physical and financial health are absolutely essential to health and well being. Things go wrong, however, when there’s more emphasis on one type of health than the other types. We should also analyze our “wants”, and ask ourselves whether they are leading us into an endless pursuit of “more, more, more”, or toward true, lasting happiness.
Pastor, author and relationship guru Ed Young has an interesting outlook in his book “Outrageous, Contagious Joy: Five Big Questions to Help You Discover One Great Life”. Instead of uncovering ways to improve your life like saving money, working out or eating right (which many self-help books address), Ed Young opts for a different strategy in the 352 pages of his book. He encourages you to ask questions first.
What I find to be one of the more interesting questions, as listed on his book description on his website, is “Does God want you to be happy?” Whether you believe in any kind of higher power whether it’s the religious notion of God, or “the universe as one” or anything really, it would seem intuitive that a higher power would want us to succeed, flourish and be happy. To think that we should feel guilty, ashamed or that we should not take full advantage of the happiness that our lives can bring us seems quite foolish. However, the truth is, many people carry around this false guilt all through out their lives. They punish themselves with their addiction to negativity and emotional chaos. Breaking down assumptions and preconceived notions of what this life is “all about” is something Young does in “Outrageous, Contagious Joy” which outlines the search for real happiness. Some of the other questions he asks his readers are “Why are you here?” and “What are you working for?”
Ed Young of Grapevine, Texas is a pastor at Fellowship Church. He is also a New York Times best selling author with 14 books under his belt, including Sexperiment, The Marriage Mirror and Kid CEO. His charismatic presence has led to speak at conferences around the world about relationships, sex and marriage, happiness and life. Young, a non-typical pastor, is heavily praised and considered hip and progressive for his relaxed and youthful style of communication.
Asking yourself important questions can force you to take a hard look at the path of life you are on. It’s possible that your current process is holding you back from being truly happy. For example, you want to spend more time with your wife and kids, but you’re also staying late every day at work in the hopes of a promotion. You want to satisfy your wife and kids with more money to spend on groceries and but you’re sacrificing quality time with them by not coming home for dinner each night. Is it possible that the time spent with your loved ones is more important than being able to reward them with more of their favorite food items or that trip to Seaworld? Prioritizing your basic needs and wants is a must if you are searching for. Often times, the solution is simpler than it seems, but you need to get away from your daily patterns and slip into deconstruction mode to see it more clearly.
Authored By: Bryan Ferguson Bryan has worked with several celebrity entertainment blogs and sources, making him an expert on entertainment news. He also enjoys lacrosse and recently learned how to swim.
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Posted in dance, emowerment, fun, happiness, happy, health, lifestyle, stress, stress management tips, stress release, stress resilience, Uncategorized, work-life balance, tagged frustration, fun, happiness, inner child, insecurity, self esteem, stress, stress reduction, work-life balance on August 3, 2012|
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Do you have enough fun and play?
I’m not talking about video games- or sex. When you play tennis, golf, scrabble, bike, walk, ball, surf are you having fun? Are you smiling and laughing along with laser focus or perhaps no thoughts at all?
Give yourself permission to have fun. It’s healthy, and well, yeah, fun!
Access your inner child and see what happens! Being happier is always an asset.
Do you know what frees you? It’s dancing for me. I’ve come to peace with physical modifications for myself in dancing and exercising. Additionally, I’ve placed the concept of “dancing” into an intellectual-emotional realm of possibility: creativity for the soul. I encourage you to take time to pursue your fun passion and create new possibilities.
There is no such thing as having “life balance” or “work-life balance” all the time.
There are, however, individual tolerations if the balance is tipped too far.
Be smart- stay in balance most of the time! This will keep you healthy and less stressed.
If you are experiencing stress, frustration or insecurity due to challenges you are currently facing, contact me for a complimentary consult/strategy session: 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com
Here are some quick and easy suggestions to reduce stress right now:
- Pay attention to your body, feelings, thoughts and intuitive self
- Acknowledge personal stress cues and symptoms
- Recognize your tolerance
- Pause! Breathe! Detach! Relax! Take a mini-vacation!
- Change your internal environment
- Connect with Nature
- Physically release and focus: dance, walk, yoga, work-out, etc.
- Conduct internal “traffic control” several times a day
- Meditate and center yourself
- Embrace your personal power and spiritual connection
Time to Recharge!
Face Your Fear and Be Powerful!
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