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New! Parenting Skills Program to Reverse High Stress Parenting

Facilitated by Eileen Lichtenstein, M.S. Ed., Certified Anger Management Specialist

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It’s easy for parents to feel overwhelmed, especially in today’s world. This program shares stress and anger management strategies and how to become proficient Active Listeners and Conflict Resolution Practitioners essential in our busy home lives today.

Balance & Power Parenting Skills Program:
Learn Strategies/Techniques to Reduce and Cope with Anger

  • Learn Relaxation Exercises to reduce stress and tension
  • Learn Strategies to increase Frustration Tolerance
  • Learn Methods to project positive authority, discipline and limit setting
  • Learn about Age Appropriate Punishment-Warning, time to calm down, timeout, grounded, losing privileges
  • Learn how to handle children when they express frustration through anger and tantrums.
  • Learn how to set Healthy Boundaries, identify and promote respectful behavior.

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Parenting does not always come easy and many parents sometimes need some extra support and guidance. These Parenting Classes / Sessions are created out of a desire to help parents discover and practice what is best for their child and for themselves as a parent.

  • This course is perfect for parents, teachers, social workers, nurses, doctors, daycare providers and anybody who interacts with children.
  • Skills to Communicate Effectively, End Conflict, and Manage Stress and Anger
  • Eileen Lichtenstein is committed to helping parents enjoy the benefits of positive results.

 
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Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
Ph: 516 623 4353  Email: eileen@balanceandpower.com

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Mindful Parenting Skills, Conscious Parenting, Empowered Parenting Skills, Positive Parenting Classes:

Get the help you need to feel EMPOWERED and PROUD at how you handle anything parenthood throws your way, and raise strong, respectful, considerate, and even HELPFUL children. Real-world parenting skills solutions you can implement IMMEDIATELY to create a happier home.

shutterstock-mom-daughter“Conscious” Parenting Skills: As “conscious” parents, we all desire to be an integral part of our child’s life and to witness and assist them in building the foundation to become and remain happy, healthy, independent and productive adults.

These parenting classes / sessions will empower you to communicate much more clearly and effectively, to become a more present parent and to maintain inner balance in the most stressful of times.

Mindful parenting involves decoding and addressing the deeper needs of our children, rather than getting mindlessly caught up in and reactive to surface behaviors. As parents, perhaps the most precious thing we can give our children is the gift of our full presence, in the moment.

Mindful Parenting Skills: The cultivation of self-compassion/love, healthy self-acceptance and self-awareness are essential components of skillful and effective mindful parenting. Mindful parenting involves the “inner work” of coming home to oneself as an authentic human being for the benefit of all.

Mindful Parenting Classes: Through both daily formal and informal practices, mindful parenting focuses on managing strong emotions, reactivity and stress, improving mindful communication, honoring sovereignty, recognizing and actively reshaping one’s maladaptive mental patterns, as well as cultivating compassion, loving kindness and self-care.

Contact Eileen to start your Parenting Skills Course Now

 


 

 

Court Approved Parenting Classes Long Island NY

Eileen also offers Court Approved Parenting Classes in Long Island NY.

  • Letters accepted by the courts.
  • One to one, sliding scale fee, 6 sessions paid in advance.
  • Letter, certificate is given upon completion and letter when starting if needed.
  • Court Approved Parenting Class
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“The silent treatment” is the most common form of withholding and encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings, including an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

When you are feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space and get some help…

Take time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.   If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. ~ and can take time.

Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking in safe places.  Praise those you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become.    

FREE consult: 516623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com  

Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

Download The 10 Tips to Building a Strong Relationship (pdf)

Contact Eileen today for a Free Consultaion.

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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

study in the Journal of Consumer Research by Professor Patrick and Henrik Hagtvedt found that saying “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t” allowed participants to extract themselves from unwanted commitments.  While “I can’t” sounds like an excuse that’s up for debate, “I don’t” implies you’ve established certain rules for yourself, suggesting conviction and stability and are more effective in getting your point across.

There are a few other ways you can get more comfortable with saying no.

It’s a lot easier to be assertive with a stranger selling you something than it is when, say, your pleading co-worker asks for a ride to the airport. Get comfortable with your assertiveness when it’s easy so you’ll be prepared when there’s more pressure.

 It’s easier to say no when you know exactly how to say it, so come up with a few anchor phrases for different situations. “No, I don’t buy from solicitors” for door-to-door salespeople, for example. “No, I don’t go out during the week” for co-workers who want to go on a drinking binge on a Monday night.

When you have these phrases ready, you don’t have to waste time wavering over an excuse. And you start to develop a reflexive behavior of saying no.

Still, sometimes we’re afraid to say no because we fear missing out. We want to take on new opportunities and adventures, so we say yes to everything instead.  But all of those yeses can lead to burnout.

It can help to understand your own long-term goals This way, you can say yes to opportunities that most reflect your values. Second, try to build free time in your schedule so there’s room for new, interesting opportunities you might otherwise overlook.

Some worry that your no might seem threatening.  Research from Columbia University found that our perceptions of our own assertiveness are often unreliable. In mock negotiations, people who thought they were adequately assertive or even over-assertive were seen by others as under-assertive. So if you feel confrontational, there’s a good chance the other party doesn’t see you that way. It’s about operating at the most optimal level.  For most of us, that means living a happier and less stressful life, which is easier to do from the driver’s seat.

Being assertive is a core communication skill. Being assertive means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and earn others’ respect.  
Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills.  Do you need help learning assertive behavior and communication? 
FREE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  one to one, group sessions in Westbury, NY. and Skype
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Procrastination is driven by a series of negative beliefs and feelings

Procrastination is a behavioral tendency that results when beliefs and feelings such as the following take over:
1. The fear of failure.
2. The fear of success.
3. The fear of rejection.
4. The belief that one is inadequate.
5. The belief that one is not good enough.
6. The belief that one is unworthy or undeserving.
7. The belief that one’s success will be envied and/or taken away by others.
8. The fear of envy.
9. Feelings of low self confidence.
10. The fear of attracting negative attention.
11. The fear of taking responsibility for one’s self.
12. The need to be taken care of.
13. Feelings of anger and resentment towards others.
14. The need to get revenge in passive aggressive ways.

And so on.

When one is stuck in the inertia so commonly felt with procrastination there is a sense of powerlessness, immobility, confusion, vague feelings of depression, low self worth and self-esteem, a sense of purposelessness, self-doubt, agitation, boredom, and loss of passion or enthusiasm etc.

What is not seen however are the underlying drivers, the beliefs and feelings mentioned above lying below the conscious state in your subconcious mind, often causing free will to shut down.

The only way to release oneself from this state is to become conscious of those programs and erase/delete/release them from within once and for all.  I’ve successfully guided many groups and individuals to do this with EFT!

Call for a free consult 516 623 4353 and find out about summer groups in Long Island.

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There’s lots of research out there and I do resonate with most of it -based on my personal experiences, professional trainings and working with couples or one of a relationship in trouble.

If you want to stay together below are few of insights and tips that work if you work them- and that may be you are the only one working them – so after some time passage, it may be necessary to reevaluate and reprioritize goals – perhaps while seeing a relationship coach.  Did you know that an unhappy marriage can increase your chances of getting sick by roughly 35% and even shorten your life by an average of four years.

  • Major differences of opinion don’t destroy marriages, it’s how a couple deals with them.
  • Believing and being OK with you can’t change the other person.
  • Really knowing each other is vital:  Be deeply familiar with each other’s world…and allow your awareness to include your spouse’s world change.
  • When fighting, do your best to avoid using the word you and try to use the word I. This makes it much easier to express feelings and much harder to attack the other person.

Need help with this? FREE phone consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com     Client sessions in Westbury, NY and video Skype.

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Studies show that the amygdala and the hippocampus, two brain areas in the limbic system, are known to play a major role in laughter. The limbic system is a primitive part of the brain that regulates emotions . . . and helps us with basic functions necessary for survival.

 Laughter is a signal that lets everyone know that you’re part of the group. Your laughter indicates positive interaction and acceptance.

When you joyfully laugh, it acknowledges the listener by setting an emotional tone for the conversation and further interactions and intentions. (This undoubtedly helped primitive humans survive back in the day.)

Further research proves laughter boosts your immune system. It’s also known to reduce stress and improve memory function.

When was the last time you had a good laugh? Laughter has a huge effect on creating a positive mental attitude and physical well-being. And a positive mental attitude and healthy body are crucial to achieving success! Additionally, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, Tapping) has the same positive effects and sends serotonin, a feel-good hormone to the amygdala. 

CALL 516 623 4353 or email me for a FREE phone consult!

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ALL THE DAD’S OUT THERE!!

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As a normal part of life, stress enables us to get things done. If left unmanaged, stress can lead to emotional, psychological, and even physical problems. Stress causes a disruption in the flow of vital energy through the body. These energetic imbalances can throw off the immune system or cause symptoms of pain, sleep disturbances, abnormal digestion, headaches, menstrual irregularities, aggravation of already troublesome health conditions and, over time, more serious illnesses can develop.

Stress is cumulative.  Stressful situations that last over a long period of time can create an ongoing low-level stress that puts continual pressure on the nervous system, increasing activity, and can cause the overproduction of hormones. The extra stress hormones over an extended period of time may wear out the body’s reserves, lead to fatigue, depression, a weakened immune system, and a host of serious physical and psychological ailments.

Some signs of stress overload include:

– anxiety or panic attacks
– feelings of constant pressure, hassled and hurried
– irritability and moodiness
– physical symptoms such as stomach problems, headaches, or even chest pain
– allergic reactions, such as eczema or asthma
– problems sleeping
– overindulgence in food, alcohol, smoking, or drugs
– sadness or depression

increased anger and impatience

Stress is often the cause of illness and the deterioration of health. Finding a release valve for your stress can help you stay healthy. According to research, stress, frustration, and unresolved anger can play an important part in throwing the immune system off and allowing pathogens to affect the body.

While it isn’t always possible to remove the external forces causing stress, the ability to effectively deal with stress is a choice. Take time for yourself to cultivate the energy you need to handle your stress more skillfully and effectively.

EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, is often described as the tapping technique and is a powerful stress reduction tool that is proving to be extremely effective in a wide variety of conditions in which stress can be a causative or aggravating factor.

Research continues to expand its evidence of effectiveness for conditions as anxiety, PTSD, phobias, suppression of cravings and more. EFT is an approach that incorporates multiples aspects of the mind and body through the stimulation of the meridian energy system that has been utilized in Chinese Medicine and acupuncture for thousands of years.


Some of the benefits that EFT deals with include:


Typically, EFT is facilitated with a practitioner for several sessions, while the individual is tapping on their own every day. EFT is especially effective when integrated with Peak Performance Success Coaching.  Clients are successfully guided to release fear and completely reverse phobias and pursue positive action!

EFT and meditation combo small group sessions in June, July in Nassau County.ebook-cover-eft

~ Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. CEO, Balance & Power, Inc  is a  Peak Performance Success Coach for Your Life & Career and a Certified Anger Management Specialist and EFT Practitioner with an office in Westbury, NY and Skype. FREE phone consult: 516 623 4353

 

 

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