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This week I’ve been especially introspective and contemplative with my undertaking Jack Canfield’s fully revised and updated “The Success Principles”  and coinciding with Rosh Hashonah and next week Yom Kippur – the 10 days now in between are named “Days of Awe” or the Days of Repentance. This is a time for serious introspection, a time to consider the sins of the previous year and repent before Yom Kippur.

Key to Jack C’s teaching is the formula E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome”).

Key to making this formula work is taking responsibility for your everything without complaining, blaming or excuses. Well, with that said I’ve made a bunch of my own “resolutions” apologies and taken a few words and phrases out of my vocabulary (a work in progress…it takes at least 21 days to change a habit). I’m also EFT tapping everyday for reinforcement and I’ve taken time to review my long and short-term goals. Having taken this on and reviewing personal development material with my commitment to take one hour daily for reading, listening, writing and the inherent happiness and beginnings with a new year (Rosh Hashonah), I am passing on the good feelings to you, my dear reader. It’s always good to review principles that resonate!

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Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. CEO, Balance & Power, Inc.

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Be an active listener – while being patient (waiting with a positive attitude) and when what is said by the other has offended you, if you feel is an untruth and/or feel bullied, do not react. If possible, respond calmly without blaming, or walk away.  Easier said than done; especially for highly sensitive people (often an extremely positive quality).  If you need help with effective communication and managing emotions, call me for a free consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 
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Perhaps you experience unease regarding the speed of your progress, which could be a sign that you need to cultivate awareness within yourself and learn to move with the flow rather than against it.  Nothing is placed in your path that you are incapable of handling, so you can rest assured that you are ready to grow into your new situation.

 

Often people to feel that life is progressing too slowly or too quickly. We draft carefully composed plans only to find that they fall into place when we least expect.When delays in our progress create disappointment or the pace of life seems overwhelming, peace can be found in the simple belief that we are exactly where we need to be at this moment.

Every person fulfills their purpose when the time is right. If you have fast-tracked to success, you may become deeply frustrated if you discover you can no longer satisfy your desires as quickly as you might like. Yet the delays that disappoint you may be laying the foundation for future accomplishments that you have not yet conceived. What you deem a postponement of progress may actually represent an auspicious opportunity to prepare for what is yet to come. Or maybe feel things are moving too quickly forward.

We all enjoy the major milestones in our lives at the appropriate time–some realize their dreams as youngsters while others flourish only in old age. If you take pride in your many accomplishments and make the most of every circumstance in which you find yourself, your time will come.

It can be helpful to talk with a coach about this!  Call for a free consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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In today’s busy world it often feels like there is not enough time to accomplish everything we want to. We may find ourselves wishing there were more hours in the day or pleading for just one more day in the week. What if there were a way to create the time we need in our lives to do it all? You can learn how to use mindfulness techniques to change the speed and nature of your thoughts so that you simply get more done in less time. By changing the nature of your relationship with time, you will become more efficient, more creative and more productive.

It is amazing how creative we can be about not getting on with the task at hand. If you ever find yourself doing something other than what you should be working on, almost certainly there is an underlying fear manifesting. Additionally, our minds tend to run a commentary on what is going on around us – sometimes referred to as ‘inner dialogue or chatter’.

Perhaps your intentions-goals are clear or maybe there are too many choices. I can help you (or a group that you form) release your fears, focus and get to it! – with mindfulness meditation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) via Skype, my Westbury, NY office or your venue.  Contact me for a FREE consult: 516 623 4353

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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

study in the Journal of Consumer Research by Professor Patrick and Henrik Hagtvedt found that saying “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t” allowed participants to extract themselves from unwanted commitments.  While “I can’t” sounds like an excuse that’s up for debate, “I don’t” implies you’ve established certain rules for yourself, suggesting conviction and stability and are more effective in getting your point across.

There are a few other ways you can get more comfortable with saying no.

It’s a lot easier to be assertive with a stranger selling you something than it is when, say, your pleading co-worker asks for a ride to the airport. Get comfortable with your assertiveness when it’s easy so you’ll be prepared when there’s more pressure.

 It’s easier to say no when you know exactly how to say it, so come up with a few anchor phrases for different situations. “No, I don’t buy from solicitors” for door-to-door salespeople, for example. “No, I don’t go out during the week” for co-workers who want to go on a drinking binge on a Monday night.

When you have these phrases ready, you don’t have to waste time wavering over an excuse. And you start to develop a reflexive behavior of saying no.

Still, sometimes we’re afraid to say no because we fear missing out. We want to take on new opportunities and adventures, so we say yes to everything instead.  But all of those yeses can lead to burnout.

It can help to understand your own long-term goals This way, you can say yes to opportunities that most reflect your values. Second, try to build free time in your schedule so there’s room for new, interesting opportunities you might otherwise overlook.

Some worry that your no might seem threatening.  Research from Columbia University found that our perceptions of our own assertiveness are often unreliable. In mock negotiations, people who thought they were adequately assertive or even over-assertive were seen by others as under-assertive. So if you feel confrontational, there’s a good chance the other party doesn’t see you that way. It’s about operating at the most optimal level.  For most of us, that means living a happier and less stressful life, which is easier to do from the driver’s seat.

Being assertive is a core communication skill. Being assertive means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and earn others’ respect.  
Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills.  Do you need help learning assertive behavior and communication? 
FREE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  one to one, group sessions in Westbury, NY. and Skype
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Clinical EFT is highly effective in reducing depressive symptoms in a variety of populations and settings. EFT was equal or superior to TAU and other active treatment controls. 

The posttest effect size for EFT (d =1.31) was larger than that measured in meta-analyses of antidepressant drug trials and psychotherapy studies. 
EFT produced large treatment effects whether delivered in group or individual format, and participants maintained their gains over time. 
This meta-analysis extends the existing literature through facilitation of a better understanding of the variability and clinical significance of depression improvement subsequent to EFT treatment.
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Yes, research shows it’s possible! with actively choosing new ways to think, new ways to behave, and new environments that best suit your emotional style.   We can change how the brain responds to emotional stimuli with researched strategies that include:

    • Find out what your “hot buttons” are – what triggers your negative emotions.
    • Observe your emotions in the moment, without labeling good or bad.
    • Investigate emotions by asking yourself questions like, “Why do I feel this way?” or “What are my emotions trying to tell me?” Sometimes there is a logic and pattern of our emotions than we can learn from and improve.
    • Practice responding to emotions in new and constructive ways (for example, dancing, writing, or painting).

I work successfully with clients and groups to do this with Peak Performance Success and Life Coaching that may include stress and anger management, guided meditation and the modality EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping – that speed up this process!

Need help and guidance? FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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