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Clinical EFT is highly effective in reducing depressive symptoms in a variety of populations and settings. EFT was equal or superior to TAU and other active treatment controls. 

The posttest effect size for EFT (d =1.31) was larger than that measured in meta-analyses of antidepressant drug trials and psychotherapy studies. 
EFT produced large treatment effects whether delivered in group or individual format, and participants maintained their gains over time. 
This meta-analysis extends the existing literature through facilitation of a better understanding of the variability and clinical significance of depression improvement subsequent to EFT treatment.
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We all have a dark side – or the voice in your head  – or the egoic mind.   We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it. We believe it because we are programmed to believe our own thoughts, regardless of whether they are true and helpful or not. We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it.  This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful. It turns out that the voice in our head is not a very good guide to life, and yet we tend to accept what it says and do what it suggests

Much of the time, this voice seems like our own thoughts and voice and sometimes like a parent, other authority figure or friend. We identify with them–we feel they reflect who we are. We don’t tend to question our own thoughts, although we readily question other people’s thoughts, especially if those thoughts are different from ours. But when we stop and examine what this mental voice is saying, we discover a lot of contradictory advice, misinformation, prejudices, judgments, and other negativity. This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful.
Lifetime programming to pay attention to and believe this aspect of the mind is usually very strong, and it takes not only seeing the truth about it, but also a practice, as in meditation, of not giving our attention to this mental voice before we gain enough distance from it to experience freedom and the joy and peace of our true self and also of EFTtapping  to release negativity and stress and motivation to take positive action.

I am facilitating groups and one to one sessions that address these issues as well as reversing procrastination (always fear based.)  See details and register: www.balanceandpower.com/events.phpanger-m

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Affirmations to Release Shame – Fear – Negativity – Stress – Anger and to EMPOWER

I see life as a process ever unfolding
I release my fear and resistance to change as appropriate
I release and forgive everyone who didn’t support my changes
I release and heal all the changes that caused me pain
I forgive myself for making changes that didn’t work
I forgive myself for not making changes that would have worked
I dissolve all past agreements that no longer serve me
I create new agreements that serve my new directions
I release all distress and worry
I release all negative thoughts and feelings
I release all fear and anxiety
I release all stress and tension
I am flexible and easygoing
I am in a state of ease and flow
I am relaxed and calm
I am serene and peaceful

I control my responses to stressful situations

I dissolve negative responses to stressful situations
I respond to stressful situations in healthy and healing ways
I replace stress with calming thoughts
I replace stress with peaceful feelings
I replace stress with healthy habits
I am at peace whether or not I am in control
I am tranquil whether or not I know the future
I am calm whether or not things are going my way
I face every situation clear, free and unafraid
I am now willing to move beyond my past
I release and forgive who I have been in the past
I release and forgive each person for who they have been in my past
I grieve for my past as appropriate
I am safe and protected when I acknowledge all things in my life
I process my anger in healthy and healing ways
I release my depression quickly in grace
I move to acceptance in powerful new ways
I release my past and live in my present
I release and forgive everyone who created chaos in my life
I forgive myself for creating chaos
I have faith in my future and  myself
I move boldly forward with complete trust and faith
I dissolve all blocks to communicating clearly
I speak up for myself at the right times about the right things
I release and forgive everyone who put me down when I spoke up
I increase in assertiveness daily
I say what I mean and I mean what I say

I dissolve my aggressive characteristics as appropriate
I increase in effective listening daily
I am open and honest about my feelings and express them well
I recognize and acknowledge when I am feeling anger
I dissolve all confusion around what I want and need
I am honest about what I want and need and I ask for it simply and clearly
I forgive everyone  (to some extent if not completely) who didn’t meet my needs
I take responsibility for my own needs
I make meaningful agreements and I keep them
I set appropriate limits and boundaries and I keep them
I put my needs first as appropriate
I ask for what I want and need simply and clearly
I balance my needs with the needs of others in perfect ways
I make meaningful agreements and I keep them
I accept myself completely without qualifiers
I have a solid sense of self-identity
I find deep inner peace with myself as I am
All my false images of myself from the past are dissolved
I love and accept all parts of myself
I love and accept all of my thoughts and feelings
I have positive self-esteem apart from others thoughts and criticisms
I love and approve myself without pleasing others
I accept, honor and value myself completely as I am, though I recognize areas for improvement.

I maintain my self-confidence in all times and places

I forgive myself for any and all past mistakes
I dissolve all fear around making mistakes
My self-confidence is in who I am not what I do
I move forward, feeling self-confidence every step of the way
I open my heart to allow love in at all times
I reclaim my childlike ability to love without fear
I dissolve all guard and shields I have around my heart
I surround myself with people with open, loving hearts
I accept myself completely as an imperfect person
I recognize criticism for what it is and I acknowledge it
Being criticized and feeling attacked and inadequate are separate for me now
I am assertive and clear when I handle criticism
I remain calm, centered and balanced while I handle criticism

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The dictionary does not tell us how to accelerate the resilience process, it only defines it:

1.  “springing back into shape, position, etc. after being stretched, bent or compressed.”

2.  “recovering strength, spirits, etc. quickly.”

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key  to being happy and successful in all areas of life.  Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive.  Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times.  It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

So, you may be asking yourself, how does one maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium and resiliency when things can be unpredictable and often in crisis mode? How can we accelerate the resilience process?  It’s not easy, and takes some work. It’s easy to create positive patterns and habits when life is going smoothly.  It can be quite challenging while being swept away by negative forces.  A good mentor/coach and practice is important, and the practice will create a “spill-over” effect into life situations.

Many people, including myself, have learned how to be more resilient.  There are skill sets of meditation, relaxation breathing, visualization and “tapping” (EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques) that all add into helping an individual maintain focus and be positive. Exercising, eating healthfully and being in healthy relationships are naturally fortifying. Most people are not born resilient, but do have the capacity to learn how to be this way.  Here are a few tips to accelerate the process:
• Think of possibilities from different perspectives.
• Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminate the words nothing and never from self talk.
• Set specific goals that are attainable.
• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.
• Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event
• Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture.
• Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes.
• Surround yourself with positive people
• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.
• Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings.
• Cultivate generosity and gratitude.
You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar!

Author of “SOAR! with Resilience”, Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.ED.,EFT-ADV is President of www.balanceandpower.com.  She offers complimentary coaching consultations via telephone and Skype and  empowers individuals and groups to facilitate optimal levels of productivity and happiness. Contact Eileen: eileen@balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

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Affirmations have been shown to improve education, health and relationship outcomes, with benefits that sometimes persist for months and years. Here are some I’ve created; what are yours?

Empowering Affirmations

I am passionate about my goals.

My passion drives me forward to live the life of my dreams.

I know what I want in life and I set goals to get me there. I know that each goal I achieve brings me in union with what I desire.

Meeting a goal, no matter how big or small, strengthens my confidence and self-esteem.

Setting and achieving goals is a never-ending circle of positivity that fuels my passion even more.

My passion enables my success. I use tools to ignite and refuel my passion on a daily basis, even when I face challenges that try to smother it.

My tools include affirmations to transform negative thoughts into positive ones, meditation to relax and rejuvenate my energy, and notes and pictures to inspire and remind me of my goals.

Today, I choose to feel inspired by my passions and let the excitement propel me forward to achieve my goals, regardless of any challenges that may arise

People notice their anger levels lowering when feelings of empowerment and self esteem rise.   It feels great knowing you are “in charge” of your response; the opposite of feeling “overwhelmed” or highly stressed, which contributes to high levels of frustration and can easily lead to anger. Anger is a natural human emotion – we all get angry- and that’s okay- it’s about coping with it before it becomes inappropriate. Learning to how to be more flexible in how we deal with the frustrations and stresses of our lives has many advantages. Stress and anger are not good to our immune system and can cause conditions and disease. Effective relationships are based on good communication without inappropriate anger coming through; a feeling of empowerment from the communicator is necessary for that to occur.

We’ve all heard people say “My friends tell me I am just too hard on myself”, ”I’m such a loser”, or “I’m so stupid to make these mistakes.” This negative self-talk can and needs to be turned around to eradicate feelings of shame, which may stem from childhood- perhaps a parent, teacher or peers saying these negative statements. An important tool in dealing with angry feelings and growing feelings of empowerment is that of eliminating that negative conversation with yourself. An alternate response when someone “puts you down” is not to take it personally – difficult to do and very attainable. It takes conscious effort and practice. Don Miguel Ruiz discusses this strategy in his self-help book “The Four Agreements”.
Holding a grudge, against another or yourself, is letting the offender (or your “dark side”) live rent free in your head. Making the decision to “let go” (while still creating a protective shield/filter for ourselves) is often a process of forgiveness—or at least acceptance—and is a major step toward anger control, increased self-esteem and empowerment.

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Webcast: Workplace Bullying Prevention & Anger Managementanger mangement long island

When: September 17, 2014 at 11:00 – 12:00 PM ET
Cost: Free

Webcast at Hr.com by Eileen Lichtenstein, Peak Performance Success Coach-Trainer-Speaker-Author

No one should ever make you feel uncomfortable at work. A workplace bully may be your boss or your co-worker. Don’t allow the bully to intimidate you or make you feel bad about yourself. You know your true worth. Don’t forget what that is. Do your job and do it well. The workplace bully wants you to fail and when you don’t, he or she will be defeated.

Who Should Participate:
HR, Managers and Employees

What You Will Learn:

    • effective communication and assertiveness skills

 

    • anger management basic strategies, release and reduction techniques

 

    • implementing the philosophy of not taking anything “personally” (easier said than done!) and logging stress and anger responses to triggering circumstances

 

    • understanding the common ground between “bullies” and “victims” : (confidence and self-esteem) and providing opportunities for individuals to feel good about themselves within the workplace

 

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Rose, black or somewhere in the middle. Bullies, criminals and folks with extremely low self esteem possibly clinically depressed are dark glasses. I have helped many turn that around…sometimes while meds and seeing additional professionals, sometimes not. Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction and EFT are extremely powerful tools to help change/reframe  perceptions  together with peak performance coaching for your life and career.

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