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It is best to address negative thoughts as they arise, rather than suppressing-repressing (or pushing them down) only to resurface later, often when we least expect it – sometimes in angry inappropriateness.

 On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to be fully human, honoring all the thoughts, feelings, and moods that pass through us on a given day, we create a more conscious relationship with ourselves. Instead of blocking out thoughts and feelings that we label as negative, we can simply observe them and then let them go. They only get stuck when we react to them negatively, pushing them down and out of sight where they get lodged in our unconscious minds.

TRY:

~Develop a practice of following any negative thought with a positive thought. This works well because positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative thoughts!

~Develop a friendlier attitude toward yourself and trust your inherent goodness.

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Do you believe you are loveable? If you believe you are not loveable, I’m asking you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down on post-its and place in conspicuous-to-you places.  You may also want to keep a  notepad with them handy.
Many attractive, successful single people have some very negative, limiting beliefs that sabotage finding a soul mate or being in a healthy relationship. The list usually goes something like this:

-I’m too old.
-I’m too fat.
-I’m too damaged.
-I have too much baggage.
-I am too successful.
-I am not successful enough.
-All the good ones are taken.
-Nobody I want, wants me.

There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse.
No matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still able to wake up every day and be able to start again.

Perhaps you need some help with this as well as being “accountable” to someone other than yourself.  Perhaps you want to add EFTtapping to your self-help “toolkit.

Call for a consult: 5216 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com

Empowerment Guide
Keep in mind the following strategies to help you stay well and happy:

• Do things to bring you a sense of fulfillment, joy and purpose, that validate your
worth. See your life as your own creation and strive to make it a positive one.
• Pay close and loving attention to yourself, tuning in to your needs on all levels.
Take care of yourself: nourish, support and encourage yourself.
• Release all negative emotions–resentment, envy, fear, sadness, anger. Express
your feelings appropriately; don’t hold onto them.
• Hold positive images and goals in your mind, pictures of what you really want in
your life. When fearful images arise, re-focus on images that evoke feelings of
peace and joy.
• Love yourself and make loving the purpose and primary expression of your life.
• Create fun, loving, honest relationships that allow for the expression and
fulfillment of needs for intimacy and security. Try to heal any wounds in past
relationships and with parents.
• Make a positive contribution to your community, through some form of work or
service that you value and enjoy.
• Make a commitment to health and well being, and develop a belief in the
possibility of total health – physically and emotionally.
• Accept yourself and everything in your life as an opportunity for growth and
learning. Be open to possibilities. Be grateful.
• When you make mistakes, even “bad” ones, forgive yourself, learn what you can
from the experience and move on.
• Keep a sense of humor.

 

 

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Events Don’t Create Emotions — Your Beliefs Do

Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find more positive alternatives. Perhaps your thoughts go like this: Meetings at work make you bored. Receiving criticism makes you frustrated. Traffic makes you angry. Talking to people you don’t know at a social or business event makes you nervous.

If you want to change your feelings about a situation, you don’t actually have to change the situation itself (which isn’t always possible), or try to avoid it entirely (which can be detrimental).  Instead, you simply have to change your beliefs about it.

How to Reframe for Resilience

So how do you go about changing your beliefs/perspective about something?

Ask yourself: In what context could this be useful?  What else could this mean?

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Three personal characteristics to be especially aware of in our fast paced times, especially this Holiday week.  I hope yours are wonderful and a Happy-Productive 2018!!

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https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/12/23/frustration-tipping-point/

https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/07/01/be-assertive-say-no-effectively/

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SOAR! with ResilienceOvercoming Obstacles & Achieving Success”

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This stands for events, plus your response to those events, equals the outcome; the formula is from Jack Canfield.  It’s not what happens to you, but rather what you tell yourself about it that controls how you feel and what you experience.

Instead of letting your ego cause you to perceive every negative situation you encounter as a personal assault and cause you high levels of stress, it’s important to step back and realize that how you deal with bad and often stressful situations can make a huge difference in the outcome.  We all have examples and stories about this – as often it is our own ego that causes us the most anxiety.

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  • Listen to and follow your Intuition.
  • Stay with your Integrity, no matter what!
  • Forgive yourself for mistakes – let go and move on
  • Live, love, laugh and stay healthy!
  • Work-life integration or balance?
  • Take time each day to relax, dream and visualize
  • Be an active listener.
  • Follow-up!
  • Believe in yourself and your goals: The power of affirmations and visualization

 

Ready to Keep Soaring? then STOP WORRYING!!!

Did you know that
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time and energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. Have misperceived

Make a list of things you worry about. Divide your list into categories listed at the top of this outline. How do you want to redirect your focus?  VISUALIZE THIS!
What would happen if we channeled this energy and effort constructively rather than adding “fuel to the fire”? Worrying is like steeping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use energy and don’t go anywhere! EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Meridian Tapping) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  more.. http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

 

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In today’s busy world it often feels like there is not enough time to accomplish everything we want to. We may find ourselves wishing there were more hours in the day or pleading for just one more day in the week. What if there were a way to create the time we need in our lives to do it all? You can learn how to use mindfulness techniques to change the speed and nature of your thoughts so that you simply get more done in less time. By changing the nature of your relationship with time, you will become more efficient, more creative and more productive.

It is amazing how creative we can be about not getting on with the task at hand. If you ever find yourself doing something other than what you should be working on, almost certainly there is an underlying fear manifesting. Additionally, our minds tend to run a commentary on what is going on around us – sometimes referred to as ‘inner dialogue or chatter’.

Perhaps your intentions-goals are clear or maybe there are too many choices. I can help you (or a group that you form) release your fears, focus and get to it! – with mindfulness meditation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) via Skype, my Uniondale, NY office or your venue.  Contact me for a FREE consult: 516 623 4353

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