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Productive, successful and happy people constantly set goals and work to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. Quite often, however, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned.  Life and career often calls us to be flexible – even at short notice, to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye.
The ability to accept what is happening and let go of original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We often have the tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think things or relationships should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn’t comply with that idea. The fact is that life and business is often unpredictable.Below you’ll find 8 things to do when life  – or business – throws you a curveball:

1.Don’t Overgeneralize. Just because something unexpected has temporarily knocked the wind out of you it doesn’t mean that you’ll never achieve the things that you want, or that you’re doomed to fail and struggle for the rest of your days.

2. Find Perspective. You can’t see the future. Would your life have been perfect or even better if you had gotten the contract?  Not lost the partner?  Maybe; but maybe not. What looks like a huge loss at the present could be a blessing in disguise. You don’t know yet.

3. Practice Acceptance. In his book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”  Deepak Chopra explains “The Law of Least Effort”, which is basically the principle of no resistance. One component of this principle is acceptance. You can wish for things to be different in the future, but at this moment in time you have to accept things as they are.

4. Decrease Your Ego’s Involvement.  Even if you feel that you’ve been wronged, you need to stop thinking along the following lines:

§  How dare they do this to me?

§  Don’t they know who I am?

§  They’ll be sorry they did this.

This kind of thinking consumes an enormous amount of energy and doesn’t help you in any way. In “The Art of Dreaming” Don Juan tells Carlos Castaneda the following:

“Most of our energy goes into upholding our importance . . . If we were capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to . . . catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.”

By refusing to identify with your ego and things personally, you will be able to stop linking your sense of self to what happened.  Don Miguel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements” is also a firm believer in  “Don’t Take Anything Personally” – The Second Agreement.  This will free up energy that you can then use to create better circumstances for yourself.

5. Meditate. When you’re stressed, fearful, angry, or anxious—which are feelings that often accompany an event that has a negative impact on your life–, your brain’s rhythm increases and brain activity rises. The more stressed you become, the more rapidly your brain waves vibrate. Meditating slows down your brain’s rhythm, which is conducive to a relaxed state of mind which allows you to generate alternatives, see opportunities, and come up with creative solutions. That is, meditating will help put you in a more resourceful state of mind.

6. Shift Your Focus To the Positive. Instead of dwelling on your loss, shift your focus to the good things that are still in your life.  If you have your health and a good head on your shoulders you have a lot to be grateful for. Focus on that.

7. Focus on the Future. The curveball you were thrown probably set your goals off track.  It makes sense to set new career goals for yourself and start moving toward the new destination that you’ve set for yourself.

8. Focus on What You Can Control. One of the reasons why being thrown a curveball is so incredibly painful is because it makes you feel like you have no control over what happens to you. After all, you did everything right. But the “right” results didn’t materialize, in spite of your efforts and there’s little that you can do about it. Therefore, turn your focus to things you can control and possibly new skills or contacts that will help in reaching your new goals. Whenever you feel helpless or victimized because of something that has happened to you, turn your attention to the things that you can change, or the things that you can do. By doing what you can, with what you have, where you are, you’ll gradually begin to feel like you’re back in control of your life.

Being open with goals and yet unattached to outcome can be difficult to achieve.  I have found this to take much practice –and have always been better at it- and anything, while being centered and grounded.  Next time a curveball comes my way, I will take a deep breath and open my mind to a new opportunity! My hope dear reader, is that you will as well!  I help many to get past curved balls and move on.

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Are you taking time away?

It’s always wonderful to come home after a vacation –no matter what the weather returning to – feeling refreshed and recharged – so that no matter what stormy weather or circumstances you may encounter upon your return, your self confidence, belief in convictions and ability to cope/reasoning skills have been fortified.

Just back from Panama! The beach scenes are from lovely Playa Blanca; the others from Panama City old section:

Managing Emails on Vacation

From newsday.com by JAMIE HERZLICH

It’s hard enough managing the deluge of emails that comes in on a daily basis, but it’s an even heftier task dealing with it while on vacation. For most entrepreneurs, it’s almost impossible to totally disconnect from email for any long period of time.

With 59 percent of entrepreneurs planning to take at least one full week off this summer, according to an American Express OPEN survey, they’ll need to prioritize and set boundaries so they don’t become slaves to their inboxes.

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Women View Vacations as Priority

From The Balance & Power Blog

I recently came across this on the internet- I am a firm believer in the importance of vacations.

A new survey finds that when it comes to women, the emotional rewards of a vacation are often key drivers in where they choose to spend their holiday getaways.

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Balance & Power Events

ODNLI March Panel: Increasing Productivity By Managing Stress


When: Tuesday March 7th,
5:30 PM to 8:00 PM

Where: Clearvision Optical, 425 Rabro Drive East, Suite 2, Hauppauge, NY 11788

The Organizational Development Network of LI presents a new program Increasing Productivity By Managing Stress

Eileen will be a panelist on Increasing Productivity By Managing Stress Other panelists include Bill Solz an LCSW, Marc Miller and Dan Schaefer both Ph. D’s.

More Info coming soon.

New 4 Week Course:
Release Your Anxiety & Stress with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping)


When: Please save the dates, Thursdays, March 9, 16, 23 and 30th, Time: 7:30 – 9pm

Where: Port Washington Continuing Ed Course
52 Campus Drive, Room 105, Port Washington, NY

Cost: Only $60 (plus small fee for non-Port residents) for the full 4-week course!

Register: Please contact Carol Leitner for more info and to register for the Comprehensive Holistic Health Course: 516.242.8270 or at carolleitner1@gmail.com

Terrific speakers that are chock-full of cutting edge information that will help you to maintain optimal physical, emotional and spiritual health!

Eileen Lichtenstein will be teaching her EFT class: Release Your Anxiety & Stress with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping)

As you may know and most of the medical industry is now discovering, when we have physical problems they are almost always connected with our emotions. Emotional Freedom Technique comes to the rescue and is showing astounding results; in many cases after one or two sessions. Amazing Energy Meridian Tapping Techniques combined with Intuitive Language Can Help Eradicate & Relieve Your Physical and Emotional Negative Symptoms!

You will have the opportunity to address and release personal stress – anxiety – anger – betrayal – fear with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) with guided relaxation-visualization and learn how to integrate tapping into everyday routines-circumstances. Come to the class ready to tackle your most challenging issue – and leave the class symptom free! Continued tapping daily will (almost) guarantee long lasting success!

Participants will receive Eileen’s eBook: Gain Clarity & Confidence with EFT
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Anger Management Group
3 Hrs

(*Accepted by Courts)

Saturday, February 4  Time: 10am – 1pm
Saturday, March 18  Time: 9am – 12pm

3 Hour Anger Management Completion Certificates accepted by the courts will be given if requested. Advance Registration only.

Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590

Cost: $150 [Small groups, Limited seating ]

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels.

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Register Now

Eileen is a regular contributor to these publications:

Real Talk Magazine


The Huffington Post


Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key to being happy and successful in all areas of life.
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The dictionary does not tell us how to accelerate the resilience process, it only defines it:

1.  “springing back into shape, position, etc. after being stretched, bent or compressed.”

2.  “recovering strength, spirits, etc. quickly.”

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key  to being happy and successful in all areas of life.  Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive.  Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times.  It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

So, you may be asking yourself, how does one maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium and resiliency when things can be unpredictable and often in crisis mode? How can we accelerate the resilience process?  It’s not easy, and takes some work. It’s easy to create positive patterns and habits when life is going smoothly.  It can be quite challenging while being swept away by negative forces.  A good mentor/coach and practice is important, and the practice will create a “spill-over” effect into life situations.

Many people, including myself, have learned how to be more resilient.  There are skill sets of meditation, relaxation breathing, visualization and “tapping” (EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques) that all add into helping an individual maintain focus and be positive. Exercising, eating healthfully and being in healthy relationships are naturally fortifying. Most people are not born resilient, but do have the capacity to learn how to be this way.  Here are a few tips to accelerate the process:
• Think of possibilities from different perspectives.
• Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminate the words nothing and never from self talk.
• Set specific goals that are attainable.
• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.
• Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event
• Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture.
• Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes.
• Surround yourself with positive people
• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.
• Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings.
• Cultivate generosity and gratitude.
You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar!

Author of “SOAR! with Resilience”, Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.ED.,EFT-ADV is President of www.balanceandpower.com.  She offers complimentary coaching consultations via telephone and Skype and  empowers individuals and groups to facilitate optimal levels of productivity and happiness. Contact Eileen: eileen@balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

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anger management Wantagh

Saturday, January 7th, 2:00pm – 3:00 pm

Where: 103.9 FM

Radio Jobline

Scott Passeser is one of Long Island’s most respected business leaders and currently hosts Radio Jobline. Scott has been leading discussions and helping Long Islanders find jobs and achieve success in their careers.

Join him as he interviews Eileen speaking about “Keeping Your New Year’s Resolution – Tips Regarding Spending more Time with Family and Friends” for Radio Jobline on 103.9 FM.

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Halfway through 2016! New Year’s resolutions long gone – it’s time to regroup – reprioritize, evaluate, and move into action! Perhaps new strategies need to be put in place. Often it’s time for some coaching, mentoring and accountability to someone in addition to yourself.  Always a free phone consult for personal – couples and small groups in my office (Westbury) or Skype sessions.

Often we find answers by turning inward for a short time.

 Relax & Recharge – Enjoy Summer!

I’ll be presenting locally in Long Island 6/16 and am available to present this and related topics on your site…

It’s Time to SOAR!
Create Inner Calm in a Chaotic World

by Eileen Lichtenstein

When: Thurs, June 16th, 6:00pm – 8:00pm
Cost: Free for Members $15 for non-members

Join Us!

Eileen will share strategies for self calming, positivity and guided relaxation. More onStress Management & Balance & Power Workshops.
Find out more: www.balanceandpower.com

SOAR! with Resilience®:
The Interactive Book for Overcoming Obstacles & Achieving Success”

[Available as Hard Copy, PDF and Kindle]

This powerful interactive book will change your life! At last there is a book that interactively takes you through all the components of success. Eileen Lichtenstein takes you through her personal journey of accomplishment while showing how you too can achieve the same peace and balance she has achieved in her own life.
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Keep SOARing!

Eileen Lichtenstein
CEO, Balance & Power, Inc

FREE 20 Minute Phone Consultation/”Strategy Session”
(516) 623-4353
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Anger Management Group 3 Hrs
(*Accepted by Courts)

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Saturday, May 14  Time: 10am – 1pm
Saturday, June 11  Time: 10am – 1pm
Saturday, July16  Time: 10am – 1pm

3 Hour Anger Management Completion Certificates accepted by the courts will be given if requested. *Pre registration only through noon Thursday before date of group.

Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590

Cost: $150 each [Small groups, Limited seating ]

Register with Paypal   Credit Cards accepted via telephone.

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. 

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
516 623 4353               eileen@balanceandpower.com

10% discount for Veterans and their families
Register Now: *Credit Cards accepted via telephone. (516) 623-4
**Pre registration only through noon Thursday before date of group.

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1. Choose a belief to release and write it.  You may want to consider: What was its old purpose? Who in your life used to say it, or imply it? What made their statements true for you at that time? How has that “truth” affected your life? Just be sure to stay present, looking at your old belief with compassion for yourself.

2. Challenge your belief! Write down, and take time to acknowledge, all the life experiences that you have had that actually PROVE your old belief is not true. This may be in the form of compliments that you have received, promotions at work, loving relationships, etc.
3. Identify your desired outcome.  Write down all your desired outcomes relating to replacing the old belief. Choose one outcome that most powerfully represents who you would be if you had that outcome.

4. Ask yourself: “What am I willing to do to make these changes?” You can always get ideas and reinforcement from professional guidance and support in one-on-one sessions or group programs. You really don’t have to go it alone in your life, and the belief that “you should” is in itself a disempowering belief!

5. Learn EFT and “tap on it”.  ebook-cover-eft-web

Love, respect yourself and believe you deserve…and  the challenges will actually help you learn and grow, not wear you down. Remember, you are lovable, capable and worthwhile.  You are enough!

FREE 20 minute phone consult: 516 623 4353   eileen@balanceandpower.com 

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