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Research provides evidence that mindfulness practice can transform our lives as individuals, impacting us both personally and professionally. The benefits of mindfulness practice can include:
  • Improved stress management skills
  • Improved cognitive function
  • Increased creativity
  • Improved decision-making
  • Increased focus
  • Improved health
  • Improved wellbeing and life satisfaction
  • Increased resilience
  • And more.
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You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.

Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.  Do you know that only 8% of what we worry about is over legitimate concerns (worry!).
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty-nine years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.

Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.  CONSULT 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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Some people seem to deal with disasters, large and small, and move on. Somehow they handle the pain and disappointment and go on with their lives.
Resilience appears to be an acquired skill, doctors say. It can be learned and used to get through a personal crisis, be it the end of a marriage, a financial disaster, or a death in the family. Understanding how to deal with it won’t make a tough time less painful, but it can make it easier to live through.

Psychologists believe these techniques can help a person acquire resilience:

* Practice taking risks in your life. Make a speech, take dancing lessons, and learn ways to cope with roadblocks and disappointments.

* Be in charge of your life. The victim mentality is deadly, so forget self-pity. Accept pain when it comes: Feel it, take responsibility for your life, and move on.

*The more positive your self-dialog, the better. Dr. Al Siebert, co-author of The Survivor Personality (Berkeley Publishing), suggests listing possible solutions when a problem occurs. Create a game plan to give yourself a sense of control over the situation.

* Ask for help. Froma Walsh, Ph.D., professor at the University of Chicago, says relationships are important. Those who can confide their feelings to others are more resilient. Surround yourself with people who care and talk to them.

* Think positively. People who look on the positive side rebound more quickly. Remind yourself that the sadness will diminish over time. Look for small pleasures and keep your sense of humor.

* Find some meaning in tragedy. Maybe it brought your family closer together, or prompted you to work for a good cause. When you give to others, it is easier to appreciate what you do have.

You will be more resilient when practicing these on a regular basis.

Need encouragement and help being accountable? Consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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Always acknowledge your emotions- even if they’re not positive so that they’re not suppressed-repressed leading to negativity.  When they are acknowledged, only then , can you transform anxiety and stress to well being and success, being resilient!!!

Here are three strategies for being happy in today’s crazy world:

  • Connect With People: Just being around others isn’t enough. Join groups that you share something with. You need to be “in it together” to tackle challenges better than when loneliness is a true emotion.
  • Connect With Your Intrinsic Values: More doing what you love because you love it. Chasing status (including on social media – counting “likes” often) –  places happiness outside your control.  Feeling “out of control” is a true definition of stress.
  • Connect with Nature: Go outside for a reason other than to pick up that box from Amazon.  *Research shows people who exercise in nature are even happier than people who exercise indoors.*  Perhaps you’ll have a personal “reframe” while doing this – without even thinking about the situation!

Please comment below to let me know how this goes.  I’m always available for a free consult via phone.  Sessions in Skype and Uniondale, NY ; also on your site.  

http://www.balanceandpower.com   516 623 4353

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Events Don’t Create Emotions — Your Beliefs Do

Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find more positive alternatives. Perhaps your thoughts go like this: Meetings at work make you bored. Receiving criticism makes you frustrated. Traffic makes you angry. Talking to people you don’t know at a social or business event makes you nervous.

If you want to change your feelings about a situation, you don’t actually have to change the situation itself (which isn’t always possible), or try to avoid it entirely (which can be detrimental).  Instead, you simply have to change your beliefs about it.

How to Reframe for Resilience

So how do you go about changing your beliefs/perspective about something?

Ask yourself: In what context could this be useful?  What else could this mean?

Want to know more about this and how to have optimal happiness and productivity?  Consult: 516 623 4353       www.balanceandpower.com

 

 

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Our Guest: Eileen Lichtenstein

9AM (edt) | Accelerating & Staying Resilient Overcoming Obstacles & Achieving Success

The dictionary does not tell us how to accelerate the resilience process, it only defines it:

1. “springing back into shape, position, etc. after being stretched, bent or compressed”

2. “recovering strength, spirits, etc. quickly”

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key to being happy and successful in all areas of life. Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive. Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times. It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

Join us on WOW Wednesday with special guest, Eileen Lichtenstein, shows us how to maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium when life is unpredictable.

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