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It is fairly common to experience a number of irritating situations in a single day. And if we don’t know what to do with our irritation, annoyance, or frustration, it blossoms into the oh-too-common ‘power struggle’.

Wherever anger arises in your life, it is always in relationship to something or someone: your boss, partner, children, computer, the internet, driving in rush hour traffic, sales clerks when shopping, or waiting on the phone in the hope you’ll finally get through to an actual person. Your ability to transform anger and its accompanying urge to argue, rests in the relationship you create between you and these kinds of events. This is the key to your freedom from HAVING to express your powerful life energy in bursts of negativity. You can dramatically increase your joy in living when you know the secret of redirecting anger toward a positive and graceful communication filled with your presence, awareness, acceptance, and love.

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Stress is cumulative.  Stressful situations that last over a long period of time can create an ongoing low-level stress that puts continual pressure on the nervous system, increasing activity, and can cause the overproduction of hormones. The extra stress hormones over an extended period of time may wear out the body’s reserves, lead to fatigue, depression, a weakened immune system, and a host of serious physical and psychological ailments.

Some signs of stress overload include:

– anxiety or panic attacks
– feelings of constant pressure, hassled and hurried
– irritability and moodiness
– physical symptoms such as stomach problems, headaches, or even chest pain
– allergic reactions, such as eczema or asthma
– problems sleeping
– overindulgence in food, alcohol, smoking, or drugs
– sadness or depression

increased anger and impatience

Stress is often the cause of illness and the deterioration of health. Finding a release valve for your stress can help you stay healthy. According to research, stress, frustration, and unresolved anger can play an important part in throwing the immune system off and allowing pathogens to affect the body.

While it isn’t always possible to remove the external forces causing stress, the ability to effectively deal with stress is a choice. Take time for yourself to cultivate the energy you need to handle your stress more skillfully and effectively.

EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, is often described as the tapping technique and is a powerful stress reduction tool that is proving to be extremely effective in a wide variety of conditions in which stress can be a causative or aggravating factor.

Research continues to expand its evidence of effectiveness for conditions as anxiety, PTSD, phobias, suppression of cravings and more. EFT is an approach that incorporates multiples aspects of the mind and body through the stimulation of the meridian energy system that has been utilized in Chinese Medicine and acupuncture for thousands of years.
Some of the benefits that EFT deals with include:

Typically, EFT is facilitated with a practitioner for several sessions, while the individual is tapping on their own every day. EFT is especially effective when integrated with Peak Performance Success Coaching.  Clients are successfully guided to release fear and completely reverse phobias and pursue positive action!

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Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. CEO, Balance & Power, Inc  is a  Peak Performance Success Coach for Your Life & Career and a Certified Anger Management Specialist and EFT Practitioner with an office in Uniondale, NY and Skype.

Complimentary phone consult: 516 623 4353

 

 

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Three personal characteristics to be especially aware of in our fast-paced times, especially this Holiday week.

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https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/12/23/frustration-tipping-point/

https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/07/01/be-assertive-say-no-effectively/

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How do you feel when an understanding friend quietly listens to you with love and sincere interest? This may be the polarity of how it felt when you were really upset about something, began to share, and the “listener” shut you off or interrupted to give you suggestions.  A person who listens with loving interest and respect helps us process our emotions.  When another accepts our emotions (without judgment) it has the effect of giving us permission to accept our own emotions and feeling empowered to process and resolve the issue.

Active listening is a gift of time and love.  Active listening is actually reflecting back the content or emotions of what is being said., and truly listening with interested silence when not doing that.  This applies to children and teens too!  Read more here   https://wordpress.com/post/balanceandpowerblog.com/3541

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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

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Your employees, managers and admin staff need to communicate effectively to avoid conflict and for optimal productivity.  Perhaps your organization can benefit with having a Sensitivity Training, Communicating Effectively in the Workplace, or Anger Management and Bullying Prevention in the Workplace.  Each training is customized and may be presented on your site or conference rooms in my Uniondale office.  Call for a  consult! http://www.balanceandpower.com  516 623 4353

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Be an active listener – while being patient (waiting with a positive attitude) and when what is said by the other has offended you, if you feel is an untruth and/or feel bullied, do not react. If possible, respond calmly without blaming, or walk away.  Easier said than done; especially for highly sensitive people (often an extremely positive quality).  If you need help with effective communication and managing emotions, call me for a free consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 
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“The silent treatment” is the most common form of withholding and encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings, including an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

When you are feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space and get some help…

Take time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.   If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. ~ and can take time.

Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking in safe places.  Praise those you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become.    

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Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

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There’s lots of research out there and I do resonate with most of it -based on my personal experiences, professional trainings and working with couples or one of a relationship in trouble.

If you want to stay together below are few of insights and tips that work if you work them- and that may be you are the only one working them – so after some time passage, it may be necessary to reevaluate and reprioritize goals – perhaps while seeing a relationship coach.  Did you know that an unhappy marriage can increase your chances of getting sick by roughly 35% and even shorten your life by an average of four years.

  • Major differences of opinion don’t destroy marriages, it’s how a couple deals with them.
  • Believing and being OK with you can’t change the other person.
  • Really knowing each other is vital:  Be deeply familiar with each other’s world…and allow your awareness to include your spouse’s world change.
  • When fighting, do your best to avoid using the word you and try to use the word I. This makes it much easier to express feelings and much harder to attack the other person.

Need help with this? FREE phone consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com     Client sessions in Westbury, NY and video Skype.

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