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Always acknowledge your emotions- even if they’re not positive so that they’re not suppressed-repressed leading to negativity.  When they are acknowledged, only then , can you transform anxiety and stress to well being and success, being resilient!!!

Here are three strategies for being happy in today’s crazy world:

  • Connect With People: Just being around others isn’t enough. Join groups that you share something with. You need to be “in it together” to tackle challenges better than when loneliness is a true emotion.
  • Connect With Your Intrinsic Values: More doing what you love because you love it. Chasing status (including on social media – counting “likes” often) –  places happiness outside your control.  Feeling “out of control” is a true definition of stress.
  • Connect with Nature: Go outside for a reason other than to pick up that box from Amazon.  *Research shows people who exercise in nature are even happier than people who exercise indoors.*  Perhaps you’ll have a personal “reframe” while doing this – without even thinking about the situation!

Please comment below to let me know how this goes.  I’m always available for a free consult via phone.  Sessions in Skype and Uniondale, NY ; also on your site.  

http://www.balanceandpower.com   516 623 4353

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Events Don’t Create Emotions — Your Beliefs Do

Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find more positive alternatives. Perhaps your thoughts go like this: Meetings at work make you bored. Receiving criticism makes you frustrated. Traffic makes you angry. Talking to people you don’t know at a social or business event makes you nervous.

If you want to change your feelings about a situation, you don’t actually have to change the situation itself (which isn’t always possible), or try to avoid it entirely (which can be detrimental).  Instead, you simply have to change your beliefs about it.

How to Reframe for Resilience

So how do you go about changing your beliefs/perspective about something?

Ask yourself: In what context could this be useful?  What else could this mean?

Want to know more about this and how to have optimal happiness and productivity?  Consult: 516 623 4353       www.balanceandpower.com

 

 

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It might help to practice being in the present moment If you want to feel more positive. Notice when your attention wanders to thoughts about the past or anticipation of the future, and try redirecting your attention back one thing:  your breath, your body, or something in your immediate surroundings. Turn an everyday action into a tool for mindfulness by practicing during one specific activity, like while eating the first three bites of lunch.    Enjoy these quotes by a master of Zen Mindfulness Meditation for the Western World: Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn

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Weds. July 19, 26  7-8PM  Turn of the Corkscrew
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Clinical EFT is highly effective in reducing depressive symptoms in a variety of populations and settings. EFT was equal or superior to TAU and other active treatment controls. 

The posttest effect size for EFT (d =1.31) was larger than that measured in meta-analyses of antidepressant drug trials and psychotherapy studies. 
EFT produced large treatment effects whether delivered in group or individual format, and participants maintained their gains over time. 
This meta-analysis extends the existing literature through facilitation of a better understanding of the variability and clinical significance of depression improvement subsequent to EFT treatment.
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We all have a dark side – or the voice in your head  – or the egoic mind.   We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it. We believe it because we are programmed to believe our own thoughts, regardless of whether they are true and helpful or not. We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it.  This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful. It turns out that the voice in our head is not a very good guide to life, and yet we tend to accept what it says and do what it suggests

Much of the time, this voice seems like our own thoughts and voice and sometimes like a parent, other authority figure or friend. We identify with them–we feel they reflect who we are. We don’t tend to question our own thoughts, although we readily question other people’s thoughts, especially if those thoughts are different from ours. But when we stop and examine what this mental voice is saying, we discover a lot of contradictory advice, misinformation, prejudices, judgments, and other negativity. This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful.
Lifetime programming to pay attention to and believe this aspect of the mind is usually very strong, and it takes not only seeing the truth about it, but also a practice, as in meditation, of not giving our attention to this mental voice before we gain enough distance from it to experience freedom and the joy and peace of our true self and also of EFTtapping  to release negativity and stress and motivation to take positive action.

I am facilitating groups and one to one sessions that address these issues as well as reversing procrastination (always fear based.)  See details and register: www.balanceandpower.com/events.phpanger-m

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The dictionary does not tell us how to accelerate the resilience process, it only defines it:

1.  “springing back into shape, position, etc. after being stretched, bent or compressed.”

2.  “recovering strength, spirits, etc. quickly.”

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key  to being happy and successful in all areas of life.  Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive.  Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times.  It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

So, you may be asking yourself, how does one maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium and resiliency when things can be unpredictable and often in crisis mode? How can we accelerate the resilience process?  It’s not easy, and takes some work. It’s easy to create positive patterns and habits when life is going smoothly.  It can be quite challenging while being swept away by negative forces.  A good mentor/coach and practice is important, and the practice will create a “spill-over” effect into life situations.

Many people, including myself, have learned how to be more resilient.  There are skill sets of meditation, relaxation breathing, visualization and “tapping” (EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques) that all add into helping an individual maintain focus and be positive. Exercising, eating healthfully and being in healthy relationships are naturally fortifying. Most people are not born resilient, but do have the capacity to learn how to be this way.  Here are a few tips to accelerate the process:
• Think of possibilities from different perspectives.
• Stop talking in absolutes. Eliminate the words nothing and never from self talk.
• Set specific goals that are attainable.
• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths.
• Lower the stakes, not the standards: Don’t have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event
• Savor small triumphs, steps leading to the bigger picture.
• Set aside self blame and learn from your mistakes.
• Surround yourself with positive people
• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.
• Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your feelings.
• Cultivate generosity and gratitude.
You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar!

Author of “SOAR! with Resilience”, Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.ED.,EFT-ADV is President of www.balanceandpower.com.  She offers complimentary coaching consultations via telephone and Skype and  empowers individuals and groups to facilitate optimal levels of productivity and happiness. Contact Eileen: eileen@balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

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 To be successful, you need to have a positive mental attitude, or PMA.
We need to continually feed our  mind with positive thoughts to create success.
Creating this sort of attitude could be one of your most important habits that you end up incorporating on a daily basis!  Most successful people have experienced failure and are resilient – pick themselves up and start over or continue.
 When you constantly strive to become a better person, refine your skill set and invest in your future daily, you become more as an individual. When you become more as an individual, your value increases.  The more your value increases, the more successful you will become.  Make PMA your #1 habit!
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