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Productive, successful and happy people constantly set goals and work to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. Quite often, however, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned.  Life and career often calls us to be flexible – even at short notice, to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye.
The ability to accept what is happening and let go of original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We often have the tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think things or relationships should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn’t comply with that idea. The fact is that life and business is often unpredictable.Below you’ll find 8 things to do when life  – or business – throws you a curveball:

1.Don’t Overgeneralize. Just because something unexpected has temporarily knocked the wind out of you it doesn’t mean that you’ll never achieve the things that you want, or that you’re doomed to fail and struggle for the rest of your days.

2. Find Perspective. You can’t see the future. Would your life have been perfect or even better if you had gotten the contract?  Not lost the partner?  Maybe; but maybe not. What looks like a huge loss at the present could be a blessing in disguise. You don’t know yet.

3. Practice Acceptance. In his book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”  Deepak Chopra explains “The Law of Least Effort”, which is basically the principle of no resistance. One component of this principle is acceptance. You can wish for things to be different in the future, but at this moment in time you have to accept things as they are.

4. Decrease Your Ego’s Involvement.  Even if you feel that you’ve been wronged, you need to stop thinking along the following lines:

§  How dare they do this to me?

§  Don’t they know who I am?

§  They’ll be sorry they did this.

This kind of thinking consumes an enormous amount of energy and doesn’t help you in any way. In “The Art of Dreaming” Don Juan tells Carlos Castaneda the following:

“Most of our energy goes into upholding our importance . . . If we were capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to . . . catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.”

By refusing to identify with your ego and things personally, you will be able to stop linking your sense of self to what happened.  Don Miguel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements” is also a firm believer in  “Don’t Take Anything Personally” – The Second Agreement.  This will free up energy that you can then use to create better circumstances for yourself.

5. Meditate. When you’re stressed, fearful, angry, or anxious—which are feelings that often accompany an event that has a negative impact on your life–, your brain’s rhythm increases and brain activity rises. The more stressed you become, the more rapidly your brain waves vibrate. Meditating slows down your brain’s rhythm, which is conducive to a relaxed state of mind which allows you to generate alternatives, see opportunities, and come up with creative solutions. That is, meditating will help put you in a more resourceful state of mind.

6. Shift Your Focus To the Positive. Instead of dwelling on your loss, shift your focus to the good things that are still in your life.  If you have your health and a good head on your shoulders you have a lot to be grateful for. Focus on that.

7. Focus on the Future. The curveball you were thrown probably set your goals off track.  It makes sense to set new career goals for yourself and start moving toward the new destination that you’ve set for yourself.

8. Focus on What You Can Control. One of the reasons why being thrown a curveball is so incredibly painful is because it makes you feel like you have no control over what happens to you. After all, you did everything right. But the “right” results didn’t materialize, in spite of your efforts and there’s little that you can do about it. Therefore, turn your focus to things you can control and possibly new skills or contacts that will help in reaching your new goals. Whenever you feel helpless or victimized because of something that has happened to you, turn your attention to the things that you can change, or the things that you can do. By doing what you can, with what you have, where you are, you’ll gradually begin to feel like you’re back in control of your life.

Being open with goals and yet unattached to outcome can be difficult to achieve.  I have found this to take much practice –and have always been better at it- and anything, while being centered and grounded.  Next time a curveball comes my way, I will take a deep breath and open my mind to a new opportunity! My hope dear reader, is that you will as well!  I help many to get past curved balls and move on.

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Bullying rates remain higher for children with disabilities, even as they mature.  

Studies point out the necessity for special education programs to teach appropriate response skills to children with disabilities.  I facilitate workshops and trainings for children, families, educators and parents with this topic as well as bullying prevention and anger management

Training Programs & Groups for Adults, Staff Development and ages 12-18 on site and my Westbury, NY office forming now for 2017

    • Anger Management and Stress Release
    • Conflict Resolution and Anger Management: Understanding that bullies usually have low self-esteem and how it is best not to give up our power to these people.
    • Sensitivity Training/Character Education: Curriculum for Teaching Respect, Ethics And Tolerance. Promoting the understanding that self-esteem is not just about feeling good, but more importantly, it is about doing the right thing.
    • Effective Communication: Learn about different styles of communication, and how to be a good communicator. Take the frustration out of communication!

 


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Bullying and cyber-bullying can leave anyone feeling hurt, angry, depressed or overwhelmed. Bullying is an aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or relational. Learn about why some kids bully and why others are bullied, and how to develop the resilience and self-confidence to succeed in life.

The most damaging aspect of bullying is its repetition. Bullies are often relentless, bullying over and over again for long periods of time. Cyber-bullying can be even more painful because it can be witnessed by many more people and continue around the clock.

    • Bullying/Cyber-Bullying Prevention Support Groups: Anti-bullying tactics and Techniques to stay positive, reduce stress and anger, stay focused and build self-esteem!
    • Sensitivity Training/Character Education for Students: Same curriculum as for the Adult Program (*see above with attached website links.)

 


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Professional to professional, in the workplace, as well as educational facilities. Professional to student; and student to student. Strategies are based on psycho-educational models.

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What happens when I think too much?

Overthinking feels helpful at times, but eventually it leads to negative thinking. Therefore, the more I honor my inner cues and take time-outs to relax-recharge, the less I overthink. When we overthink, judgments often become cloudy and stress elevates, causing spending too much time in the negative. It can become difficult to act.

Overthinking is something that can happen to anyone. But if you have a system for dealing with it (see below) you can at least ward off some of the negative, anxious, stressful thinking and turn it into something useful, productive, and effective.

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1. Awareness is the beginning of change.  Any time you find yourself doubting or feeling stressed or anxious, step back and look at the situation and how you’re responding. In that moment of awareness is the seed of the change you want to make.

2. Don’t think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.  In many cases, overthinking is caused by a single emotion: fear. When you focus on all the negative things that might happen, it’s easy to become paralyzed. Next time you sense that you starting to spiral in that direction, stop. Visualize all the things that can go right and keep those thoughts present and up front.

3. Distract yourself into happiness.  Sometimes it’s helpful to have a way to distract yourself with happy, positive, healthy alternatives. Things like meditation, dancing, exercise, learning an instrument, knitting, drawing, and painting can distance you from the issues enough to shut down the overanalysis.

4. Put things into perspective.  It’s always easy to make things bigger and more negative than they need to be. The next time you catch yourself making a mountain out of a molehill, ask yourself how much it will matter in five years. Or, for that matter, next month. Just this simple question, changing up the time frame, can help shut down overthinking.

5. Stop waiting for perfection.  This is a big one. The moment you start thinking “This needs to be perfect” is the moment you need to remind yourself that waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.

6. Change your view of fear.  Whether you’re afraid because you’ve failed in the past, or you’re fearful of trying or overgeneralizing some other failure, remember that just because things did not work out before does not mean that has to be the outcome every time. Remember, every opportunity is a new beginning, a place to start again.

7. Try structured “worry time”.  Set a timer for five minutes about the same time daily and give yourself that time to think, worry, and analyze. Once the timer goes off, spend 10 minutes with a pen and paper, writing down all the things that are worrying you, stressing you, or giving you anxiety. When the 10 minutes is up, throw the paper out and move on–preferably to something fun.

8. Stop worrying!! Only 8% of what we worry about is legitimate. (Read More at the Balance & Power Blog)

9. Accept your best. The fear that grounds overthinking is often based in feeling that you aren’t good enough–not smart enough or hardworking enough or dedicated enough. Once you’ve given an effort your best, accept it as such and know that, while success may depend in part on some things you can’t control, you’ve done what you could do.

10. Be grateful.  You can’t have a regretful thought or feel depressed and a grateful thought at the same time! Make a list of what you are grateful for and review it every morning and evening. Try having a gratitude buddy!

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The news is 24/7.  This has been called the most volatile and distressing presidential campaign in our country’s history. It may even feel like you don’t want to avoid it…it’s almost like being drawn to a horrific accident that you tell yourself you don’t want to see…yet can’t seem to take your eyes off it.  We may  – as can be expected – feel immense fear, anger, sadness and grief that we can’t easily shake off. Continued Here

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“Researchers at Harvard Medical School have found that women with highly stressful jobs face a 40 percent higher risk of cardiovascular disease. The study defined high stress jobs as ones where the woman felt she had little creativity or power to make decisions, despite being expected to perform tasks quickly. Stress levels were often raised because it is quite common for women have several non workplace tasks, including caring for children and aging relelatives.” (Read the full blog at The Huffington Post)

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Taking advantage of when your brain is prepared to give you the best ideas is something successful people have been doing for hundreds of years.  Great thinkers have understood that the early “nodding off” stage of sleep, when theta waves predominate in the brain, is the best time to let the creative juices flow as well as while awakening before  getting out of bed  and doing stuff. Running through the day’s challenges early in the morning while you are still in this state (or even at night as you start to fall asleep) can yield amazing results! Theta waves are present during these times -and it takes takes some practice do do this easily and be in the positive habit that may take your productivity to new levels!!

Just as you start to become conscious in the morning, but while your eyes are closed and your brain’s still dreamy, think of the most immediate problem or task you have to face this day. Maybe it’s having a tricky conversation, writing a report, or creating a new marketing campaign. Choose only one and let the brain ruminate.If it morning, quickly record key words or write in smart phone. At night,use  pen and paper to quickly record your ideas, so that the electronic light doesn’t disturb your sleep.

Happy problem solving!

When you practice deep meditation theta waves are involved as well. I help clients learn meditation and they are accountable to me as their coach.

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This one hour program consists of instructional voice-over jazz guiding you step-by-step through the
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Track 1-4 Active section includes warm-up stretches and instruction in relaxation breathing. Original fluid upper body movements are then added along with visualizations and positive imagery. This program can be used with walking, running, skating, exercise bike, aquacise and seated exercise. It can also be used as a warm-up/cool down for a power walking or running program.

Track 5-  Relaxation section includes progressive muscle relaxation, gentle stretches, and equipped meditative sequences.

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Mindfulness is about living in the moment and being fully aware of what is going on at all times.  When we “practice” this while mindfully meditating – following the breath and not allowing any thoughts in…letting them float by like clouds on a windy sky…then there is a “spillover effect” into everyday life: being able to be mindful while doing (almost) anything and having clearer focus, greater calm and enhanced creativity-productivity!

It’s easy to forget to live in the moment while keeping the big picture in sight.  It’s helpful to remember that life is transient;  many “unfortunate” or “worrisome”  things are temporary and that the only time that truly exists ever is right now. RIGHT NOW is the ONLY time you can do or change anything in your life. And NOW is the only time you have. There are few of us that live in the present, we are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.

I’ve been trained in the practice of mindfulness by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn and co-facilitated  MBSR groups with a local medical doctor.  Mindfulness is in the curriculum for Anger Management, and is highly effective in helping to create good choices in all areas of life and career.  Corporate and organizational seminars and classes onsite are available.

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At your core is a reservoir of very positive energy, a world of quiet and stillness, and innate qualities of goodness, peace and love. This is your true inner self.  Through this time of global turmoil, it is helpful to retreat into your inner sanctuary several times a day when possible or at least once daily.   We can’t always go to the ocean or a forest, but can always go to the oasis of peace inside of ourselves. This creates well being, and lets go of a sense of overwhelm and helplessness that many are feeling.  Instead, you can feel calm, focused and empowered.  When any situations come, just go deep into your inner sanctuary, your reservoir of quiet and stillness  – an oasis of peace.  No matter how you feel, you can change simply by shifting into inner focus.

Notice that thoughts are slowing down as you move deeper into quietness and stillness in the guided meditation below.  Nothing to fear.  No worries.  Let thoughts just dissolve into space, as you move deeper and deeper into your inner being of quietness, stillness, peace.  This is your inner sanctuary.  

So…now get comfortable in your chair or lying down. Relax your body while staying alert.  Take a deep breath in through nose, belly expanding before chest. Exhale nose or mouth, belly deflating last.  Take another long slow deep breath,  paying attention to this feeling for a few moments.  When thoughts pop up, just gently bring the mind back to the breath, letting the thoughts go. Picture them just floating away on a cloud or down a stream.  If it is an important thought, just gently tell yourself to put it aside for now and that you’ll give it full attention after meditation. 

Release any tension in your body,  envisioning each part of your body, one at a time, starting with toes, and first tighten and tense, and then relax and let go of each muscle, all the up to your jaw and eyes. Take a deep breath and let out a loud sigh. 

And now relax your mind and let go of tense feelings and worry, beginning to feel light and calm. Envision a beautiful healing white light of positive energy entering your whole body as you breathe in, and the darkness of any tension, irritation, disappointment, or any negativity, being blown out and disappearing as you exhale.  Let everything of the day, the past, the future, just go.  When thoughts come, acknowledge them, and then watch them float by, and come back to your breath and to relaxing your body.  Breathe in relaxation – breathe out tension…letting all stress just slip away.

 Now, very slowly, prepare to return back to the awareness of your body, the chair you’re sitting on, the room. You feel very calm – relaxed and filled with peace.  Cherish and hold on to this feeling throughout the day.  

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