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In today’s busy world it often feels like there is not enough time to accomplish everything we want to. We may find ourselves wishing there were more hours in the day or pleading for just one more day in the week. What if there were a way to create the time we need in our lives to do it all? You can learn how to use mindfulness techniques to change the speed and nature of your thoughts so that you simply get more done in less time. By changing the nature of your relationship with time, you will become more efficient, more creative and more productive.

It is amazing how creative we can be about not getting on with the task at hand. If you ever find yourself doing something other than what you should be working on, almost certainly there is an underlying fear manifesting. Additionally, our minds tend to run a commentary on what is going on around us – sometimes referred to as ‘inner dialogue or chatter’.

Perhaps your intentions-goals are clear or maybe there are too many choices. I can help you (or a group that you form) release your fears, focus and get to it! – with mindfulness meditation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) via Skype, my Westbury, NY office or your venue.  Contact me for a FREE consult: 516 623 4353

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Clinical EFT is highly effective in reducing depressive symptoms in a variety of populations and settings. EFT was equal or superior to TAU and other active treatment controls. 

The posttest effect size for EFT (d =1.31) was larger than that measured in meta-analyses of antidepressant drug trials and psychotherapy studies. 
EFT produced large treatment effects whether delivered in group or individual format, and participants maintained their gains over time. 
This meta-analysis extends the existing literature through facilitation of a better understanding of the variability and clinical significance of depression improvement subsequent to EFT treatment.
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We all have a dark side – or the voice in your head  – or the egoic mind.   We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it. We believe it because we are programmed to believe our own thoughts, regardless of whether they are true and helpful or not. We tend to take this voice seriously–we believe it, agree with it, and don’t question it.  This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful. It turns out that the voice in our head is not a very good guide to life, and yet we tend to accept what it says and do what it suggests

Much of the time, this voice seems like our own thoughts and voice and sometimes like a parent, other authority figure or friend. We identify with them–we feel they reflect who we are. We don’t tend to question our own thoughts, although we readily question other people’s thoughts, especially if those thoughts are different from ours. But when we stop and examine what this mental voice is saying, we discover a lot of contradictory advice, misinformation, prejudices, judgments, and other negativity. This mental voice is often unkind, belittling, fearful, self-doubting, judgmental, complaining, confused, and unhelpful.
Lifetime programming to pay attention to and believe this aspect of the mind is usually very strong, and it takes not only seeing the truth about it, but also a practice, as in meditation, of not giving our attention to this mental voice before we gain enough distance from it to experience freedom and the joy and peace of our true self and also of EFTtapping  to release negativity and stress and motivation to take positive action.

I am facilitating groups and one to one sessions that address these issues as well as reversing procrastination (always fear based.)  See details and register: www.balanceandpower.com/events.phpanger-m

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Yes, research shows it’s possible! with actively choosing new ways to think, new ways to behave, and new environments that best suit your emotional style.   We can change how the brain responds to emotional stimuli with researched strategies that include:

    • Find out what your “hot buttons” are – what triggers your negative emotions.
    • Observe your emotions in the moment, without labeling good or bad.
    • Investigate emotions by asking yourself questions like, “Why do I feel this way?” or “What are my emotions trying to tell me?” Sometimes there is a logic and pattern of our emotions than we can learn from and improve.
    • Practice responding to emotions in new and constructive ways (for example, dancing, writing, or painting).

I work successfully with clients and groups to do this with Peak Performance Success and Life Coaching that may include stress and anger management, guided meditation and the modality EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping – that speed up this process!

Need help and guidance? FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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Productive, successful and happy people constantly set goals and work to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. Quite often, however, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned.  Life and career often calls us to be flexible – even at short notice, to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye.
The ability to accept what is happening and let go of original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We often have the tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think things or relationships should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn’t comply with that idea. The fact is that life and business is often unpredictable.Below you’ll find 8 things to do when life  – or business – throws you a curveball:

1.Don’t Overgeneralize. Just because something unexpected has temporarily knocked the wind out of you it doesn’t mean that you’ll never achieve the things that you want, or that you’re doomed to fail and struggle for the rest of your days.

2. Find Perspective. You can’t see the future. Would your life have been perfect or even better if you had gotten the contract?  Not lost the partner?  Maybe; but maybe not. What looks like a huge loss at the present could be a blessing in disguise. You don’t know yet.

3. Practice Acceptance. In his book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”  Deepak Chopra explains “The Law of Least Effort”, which is basically the principle of no resistance. One component of this principle is acceptance. You can wish for things to be different in the future, but at this moment in time you have to accept things as they are.

4. Decrease Your Ego’s Involvement.  Even if you feel that you’ve been wronged, you need to stop thinking along the following lines:

§  How dare they do this to me?

§  Don’t they know who I am?

§  They’ll be sorry they did this.

This kind of thinking consumes an enormous amount of energy and doesn’t help you in any way. In “The Art of Dreaming” Don Juan tells Carlos Castaneda the following:

“Most of our energy goes into upholding our importance . . . If we were capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to . . . catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.”

By refusing to identify with your ego and things personally, you will be able to stop linking your sense of self to what happened.  Don Miguel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements” is also a firm believer in  “Don’t Take Anything Personally” – The Second Agreement.  This will free up energy that you can then use to create better circumstances for yourself.

5. Meditate. When you’re stressed, fearful, angry, or anxious—which are feelings that often accompany an event that has a negative impact on your life–, your brain’s rhythm increases and brain activity rises. The more stressed you become, the more rapidly your brain waves vibrate. Meditating slows down your brain’s rhythm, which is conducive to a relaxed state of mind which allows you to generate alternatives, see opportunities, and come up with creative solutions. That is, meditating will help put you in a more resourceful state of mind.

6. Shift Your Focus To the Positive. Instead of dwelling on your loss, shift your focus to the good things that are still in your life.  If you have your health and a good head on your shoulders you have a lot to be grateful for. Focus on that.

7. Focus on the Future. The curveball you were thrown probably set your goals off track.  It makes sense to set new career goals for yourself and start moving toward the new destination that you’ve set for yourself.

8. Focus on What You Can Control. One of the reasons why being thrown a curveball is so incredibly painful is because it makes you feel like you have no control over what happens to you. After all, you did everything right. But the “right” results didn’t materialize, in spite of your efforts and there’s little that you can do about it. Therefore, turn your focus to things you can control and possibly new skills or contacts that will help in reaching your new goals. Whenever you feel helpless or victimized because of something that has happened to you, turn your attention to the things that you can change, or the things that you can do. By doing what you can, with what you have, where you are, you’ll gradually begin to feel like you’re back in control of your life.

Being open with goals and yet unattached to outcome can be difficult to achieve.  I have found this to take much practice –and have always been better at it- and anything, while being centered and grounded.  Next time a curveball comes my way, I will take a deep breath and open my mind to a new opportunity! My hope dear reader, is that you will as well!  I help many to get past curved balls and move on.

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Bullying rates remain higher for children with disabilities, even as they mature.  

Studies point out the necessity for special education programs to teach appropriate response skills to children with disabilities.  I facilitate workshops and trainings for children, families, educators and parents with this topic as well as bullying prevention and anger management

Training Programs & Groups for Adults, Staff Development and ages 12-18 on site and my Westbury, NY office forming now for 2017

    • Anger Management and Stress Release
    • Conflict Resolution and Anger Management: Understanding that bullies usually have low self-esteem and how it is best not to give up our power to these people.
    • Sensitivity Training/Character Education: Curriculum for Teaching Respect, Ethics And Tolerance. Promoting the understanding that self-esteem is not just about feeling good, but more importantly, it is about doing the right thing.
    • Effective Communication: Learn about different styles of communication, and how to be a good communicator. Take the frustration out of communication!

 


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Bullying and cyber-bullying can leave anyone feeling hurt, angry, depressed or overwhelmed. Bullying is an aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or relational. Learn about why some kids bully and why others are bullied, and how to develop the resilience and self-confidence to succeed in life.

The most damaging aspect of bullying is its repetition. Bullies are often relentless, bullying over and over again for long periods of time. Cyber-bullying can be even more painful because it can be witnessed by many more people and continue around the clock.

    • Bullying/Cyber-Bullying Prevention Support Groups: Anti-bullying tactics and Techniques to stay positive, reduce stress and anger, stay focused and build self-esteem!
    • Sensitivity Training/Character Education for Students: Same curriculum as for the Adult Program (*see above with attached website links.)

 


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Strategies for Conflict Resolution/Intervention and Bullying Prevention

Professional to professional, in the workplace, as well as educational facilities. Professional to student; and student to student. Strategies are based on psycho-educational models.

Groups forming now onsite and in my Westbury, Long Island Office

Learn About and Participate in EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques are a great tool for emotional release and stress management. Find out more about EFT: EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques.

The content, length and fees of each program are customized to meet your needs.

SOAR! with Resilience® Training Manual or Balance & Power Inc eBooks accompany the programs and may be purchased at a group discounted fee.

Contact Eileen FREE Phone Consult:  www.balanceandpower.com    516 623 4353

 

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What happens when I think too much?

Overthinking feels helpful at times, but eventually it leads to negative thinking. Therefore, the more I honor my inner cues and take time-outs to relax-recharge, the less I overthink. When we overthink, judgments often become cloudy and stress elevates, causing spending too much time in the negative. It can become difficult to act.

Overthinking is something that can happen to anyone. But if you have a system for dealing with it (see below) you can at least ward off some of the negative, anxious, stressful thinking and turn it into something useful, productive, and effective.

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10 Tips to Stop Overthinking

1. Awareness is the beginning of change.  Any time you find yourself doubting or feeling stressed or anxious, step back and look at the situation and how you’re responding. In that moment of awareness is the seed of the change you want to make.

2. Don’t think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.  In many cases, overthinking is caused by a single emotion: fear. When you focus on all the negative things that might happen, it’s easy to become paralyzed. Next time you sense that you starting to spiral in that direction, stop. Visualize all the things that can go right and keep those thoughts present and up front.

3. Distract yourself into happiness.  Sometimes it’s helpful to have a way to distract yourself with happy, positive, healthy alternatives. Things like meditation, dancing, exercise, learning an instrument, knitting, drawing, and painting can distance you from the issues enough to shut down the overanalysis.

4. Put things into perspective.  It’s always easy to make things bigger and more negative than they need to be. The next time you catch yourself making a mountain out of a molehill, ask yourself how much it will matter in five years. Or, for that matter, next month. Just this simple question, changing up the time frame, can help shut down overthinking.

5. Stop waiting for perfection.  This is a big one. The moment you start thinking “This needs to be perfect” is the moment you need to remind yourself that waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.

6. Change your view of fear.  Whether you’re afraid because you’ve failed in the past, or you’re fearful of trying or overgeneralizing some other failure, remember that just because things did not work out before does not mean that has to be the outcome every time. Remember, every opportunity is a new beginning, a place to start again.

7. Try structured “worry time”.  Set a timer for five minutes about the same time daily and give yourself that time to think, worry, and analyze. Once the timer goes off, spend 10 minutes with a pen and paper, writing down all the things that are worrying you, stressing you, or giving you anxiety. When the 10 minutes is up, throw the paper out and move on–preferably to something fun.

8. Stop worrying!! Only 8% of what we worry about is legitimate. (Read More at the Balance & Power Blog)

9. Accept your best. The fear that grounds overthinking is often based in feeling that you aren’t good enough–not smart enough or hardworking enough or dedicated enough. Once you’ve given an effort your best, accept it as such and know that, while success may depend in part on some things you can’t control, you’ve done what you could do.

10. Be grateful.  You can’t have a regretful thought or feel depressed and a grateful thought at the same time! Make a list of what you are grateful for and review it every morning and evening. Try having a gratitude buddy!

Are you distressed, angry, anxious from the US political campaign news?


The news is 24/7.  This has been called the most volatile and distressing presidential campaign in our country’s history. It may even feel like you don’t want to avoid it…it’s almost like being drawn to a horrific accident that you tell yourself you don’t want to see…yet can’t seem to take your eyes off it.  We may  – as can be expected – feel immense fear, anger, sadness and grief that we can’t easily shake off. Continued Here

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“Researchers at Harvard Medical School have found that women with highly stressful jobs face a 40 percent higher risk of cardiovascular disease. The study defined high stress jobs as ones where the woman felt she had little creativity or power to make decisions, despite being expected to perform tasks quickly. Stress levels were often raised because it is quite common for women have several non workplace tasks, including caring for children and aging relelatives.” (Read the full blog at The Huffington Post)

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