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Gratitude has been getting a lot of press in self-help/development curriculums because it is essential to acknowledge personal gratefuluness in several categories to help up your forgivess quotient and helps transition you into the happiness realm! Try this: Sit back, close your eyes and visualize everything you are grateful for including several of these categories:

  • personal attributes and abilities
  • people in your life
  • material things in your life
  • a lifestyle
  • environment

Let it free flow and then write them down in columns.  Review this whenever you are feeling down, first thing in the morning and before bed.

Gratitude, Forgiveness, Happiness and Stress, Anger, Depression  

Forgiveness of one’s self for wrong doings and poor attitudes is necessary before you can forgive others, as loving oneself must happen before you are able to love others.    Forgiveness of heinous crimes is not possible for most people and not necessary. You do not need to let go of 100% anger/guilt to let go and move on.  Try forgiving a percentage, and “work on it” through EFT,  guided imagery and de-sensitization techniques, hypnosis, life coaching  to get the percentage higher.  It can be helpful in acknowledging that those in question may have been doing the best they knew how or were capable of (due to personal history, mental capacity, mental illness).

Depression is almost always  supressed, repressed, not communicated (or communicated partially) anger, with or without genetic tendencies.Balance and Power - Eileen Lichtenstein - HALF

Anger expressed at over-the-top levels results in socially unacceptable aggressive behavior that steps over physical and/or emotional  boundaries (hitting-pushing-punching-pulling, property damage including throwing things, slamming doors and name calling, cursing-yelling. Health related symptoms of high anger and stress levels include high blood pressure, headaches, racing pulse, difficulty breathing, tight muscles.

Stress levels elevate when feeling out of control or “overwhelmed” and may cause someone to exhibit angrily acting out or be irritable.  The flip side is a depressive episode.

It is important to remember that human beings are not perfect and we all “mess-up” at times.  If you or someone you are close to  experience any of the above on an ongoing basis or regularly, it is time to get help!  Often learning simple coping strategies and techniques as well as how to  communicate effectively is all you need to do- in conjunction with a practitioner you feel comfortable with and can create a trusting relationship with.

I am a certified Anger Management Specialist, EFT Practitioner, Peak Performance Success Coach and (former) biofeedback  practitioner (this training includes relaxation techniques, de-sensitization techniques, guided imagery and self-trance).  I work with individuals and groups  via telephone, skype and face to face in Wantagh, Long Island  and go on site for corporate and organizational trainings.  Currently, a hot topic (unfortunately) is Workplace Bullying.

FREE PHONE CONSULT 516 623 4353   www.balanceandpower.com 

 

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DeStress Tip: Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to…

DeStress Tip: Emotional eating-stress a vicious cycle. You have the power to stop it!

DeStress Tip: Listen well instead of reacting in anger.

DeStress Tip: Be grateful always!!

DeStress Tip: Make your Goals Realistic & Reachable!

DeStress Tip: Exercise! Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life can have an overall negative effect on

DeStress Tip: Exercise and you will feel better about yourself and the more likely you are to live a healthy…

De-Stress Tip: Stop emotional eating! Feel confident, healthy & in control.

DeStress Tip: If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of life every now and then, things won’t seem…

DeStress Tip: Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and reassures us that when all is…

DeStress Tip: We need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit!…

DeStress Tip: Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy.

DeStress Tip: Laugh More!: A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult-…

DeStress Tip: Acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel…

DeStress Tip: Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute.

DeStress Tip: Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?

DeStress Tip: Self-love is the one most important thing to create your best life.

DeStress Tip: Focus is a skill you can develop. Do you know you can rewire negative patterns??
DeStress Tip: Transition = Opportunities

DeStress Tip: Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity and productivity. You don’t even have to be creating…

DeStress Tip: “Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” – Bob Proctor

DeStress Tip: A great appreciation of nature and our connection to it enhances our spirit and helps to connect us…

DeStress Tip: Meditating can help develop the art of patience.

DeStress Tip: Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed rather than jumping in with your…

DeStress Tip: Take time to access what you have in front of you, take a break and re-evaluate.

DeStress Tip:  Stop Smoking with EFT!  DeStress Tip: Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it.

~Want to discuss any of these, or need help,? Call me for a FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353~ www.balanceandpower.com 

 

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P1020142“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”
~ Albert Einstein

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness”
~ Robert Muller

“Life is no “brief candle” for me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
~ Margaret Mead

“Gratitude improves your attitude.” -James Taylor

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The Charles Schulz Philosophy
The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the ‘Peanuts’
comic strip.  You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.
Just read the e-mail straight through, and you’ll get the point.
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for
best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners.
How did you do?
The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.  But the applause dies ..Awards
tarnish … Achievements are forgotten.  Accolades
and certificates are buried with their owners.
 
Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through
school.
2.
Name three friends who havehelped you through a
difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something
worthwhile.
 4. Think of a few people who have made you feel
appreciated and special.
 5.
Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
Easier?
 The lesson:
 The people who make a difference in your life are not the
ones with the most credentials, the most money … or the most
awards.
 They simply are the ones who care the most
 Pass this on to those people whom you keep close in
your heart.
 “Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s
already tomorrow in Australia !”
 
Hope this brightened up your day/night wherever you may be!

Keep SOARing!

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. CEO, Balance & Power, Inc. 
Peak Performance Success Coach for Your Life and Career!
(516) 623-4353  C: (516) 547-5485 

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ebook-cover-angerForgiveness has been said to be an antidote to anger  in your life because every time you remember the injustice, and you will remember it since forgiving is NOT forgetting, you choose to release the perpetrator from the debt that she/he owes you.  You may read about the Biehl’s amazing journey here:

http://thejourneyofhope.blogspot.ca/2009/03/amy-biehl-and-improbable-tale-of.html

And…The Mayo Clinic Staff reports that researchers are claiming that, in addition to improving your spiritual health, forgiveness may have benefits for your physical health, too.  This is definitely something that warrants our attention!  It is being said that “letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace, and that forgiveness can lead to:

  •  Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse”

Well, this helps explain the statement I’ve heard and read again and again that if you experience a high level of gratitude you cannot be depressed.  This makes sense since depression is anger suppressed.  Imagine a line with frustration in the middle.  It can go either way- one end is depression(extremely suppressed anger) and the other is a high anger level – often in an inappropriate, aggressive way.

The University of Maryland School of Medicine  is researching the connection between anger and  “unforgiveness”. Anger is a component of unforgiveness and anger is a health risk.  Then is unforgiveness  a health risk  as well? Included in the research are studies with aids patients.  Knowing more about the nature and course of anger expression in the context of unforgiveness will ultimately help define and clarify this area of research.

Now I’ll share a few important points that can be helpful in letting go of anger- something I’ve learned as an Advanced EFTtapping  (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Certified Practitioner in a training I attended and has been reinforced in my trainings to facilitate Anger Management.

  • As the victim, it’s OK to forgive only a small percent.
  • Perhaps the other’s behavior was impacted by a chemical/emotional imbalance
  • *** The other was doing what he/she knew how to do – perhaps learned – no matter.
  • It’s possible that the action was not meant “personally” – it was simply an “M.O.”
  • It’s impossible to change another person’s way of dealing; only your own.

If you or someone you love gets help with managing anger and/or letting it go as a victim, then stress is automatically addressed and therefore health will improve too!

 Balance & Power, Inc. has been addressing stress and anger management issues for two decades, corporately and  in the educational and private sectors, and is now facilitating Workplace Bullying Prevention trainings.

Download: Workplace Bullying Prevention Programs (pdf)

Bullying in the workplace, the schools and at home has reached epidemic proportions – it is our goal to help eliminate these type of situations. I believe inner strength and being centered are keys to optimal productivity and happiness. I’m a Certified Anger Management Specialist accepted by the US courts, a former Biofeedback Practitioner and faculty member Hofstra University. My office is in Westbury, NY, the telephone, Video Skype or on your site.  

When you’re having difficulties with forgiveness or anger, success and career coaching, anger and stress management strategies, & EFT can turn it around!  I’m a certified Anger Management Specialist-1 Fellow accepted by the courts.

Call me for a complimentary consult: 516 623 4353   http://www.balanceandpower.com/anger.php 

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The Holidays have begun for Americans: Ads for Black Friday.  Sales at midnight.

Turkey, sweet potatoes, stuffing and pie, yum!!  We are grateful and most of us are happy to be at this table.  I’d like to say a bit more about grateful. and reducing Holiday Stress.

There is a huge correlation between gratefulness-forgiveness-happiness.  Research has documented it and everyday I affirm this for myself and with clients.  I recommend  every evening going over a few things-people-circumstances that you are grateful for; perhaps journaling them.  Here are some of mine:

I am grateful for my supportive and loving family.

I am grateful for my home and surroundings.

I am grateful that I can thrive amidst world chaos.

I am grateful for my health and positive attitude.

I am grateful for my friends.

I am grateful for knowing all of you- my friends and colleagues.

I am grateful that I help so many people in my work and that I love doing that.

Whether you are hosting a family dinner or traveling to one, you may find yourself experiencing some feelings of anxiety or apprehension in preparation for the holiday gathering.  Visualize positive outcomes and

Try EFT tapping everyday to overcome Holiday Stress- Anxiety.  http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

Call me for a FREE consult 516 623 4353 today and we can get started  via Video Sktpe!   

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Travel is conducive to gaining perspective! I’ve traveled extensively since my late teens and have always found it’s great to return home and back to the US and now, yes, work- since I enjoy helping people improve their lives, be happier and more successful…and am good at it!  http://www.balanceandpower.com/testimonials.php 

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While traveling sometimes the grass seems greener…yet as Americans most of us  have a lot to be thankful for! Sometimes it’s simply a good mattress and comfortable pillow.

great segue for Thanksgiving :)-

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