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What happens when I think too much?

Overthinking feels helpful at times, but eventually it leads to negative thinking. Therefore, the more I honor my inner cues and take time-outs to relax-recharge, the less I overthink. When we overthink, judgments often become cloudy and stress elevates, causing spending too much time in the negative. It can become difficult to act.

Overthinking is something that can happen to anyone. But if you have a system for dealing with it (see below) you can at least ward off some of the negative, anxious, stressful thinking and turn it into something useful, productive, and effective.

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10 Tips to Stop Overthinking

1. Awareness is the beginning of change.  Any time you find yourself doubting or feeling stressed or anxious, step back and look at the situation and how you’re responding. In that moment of awareness is the seed of the change you want to make.

2. Don’t think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.  In many cases, overthinking is caused by a single emotion: fear. When you focus on all the negative things that might happen, it’s easy to become paralyzed. Next time you sense that you starting to spiral in that direction, stop. Visualize all the things that can go right and keep those thoughts present and up front.

3. Distract yourself into happiness.  Sometimes it’s helpful to have a way to distract yourself with happy, positive, healthy alternatives. Things like meditation, dancing, exercise, learning an instrument, knitting, drawing, and painting can distance you from the issues enough to shut down the overanalysis.

4. Put things into perspective.  It’s always easy to make things bigger and more negative than they need to be. The next time you catch yourself making a mountain out of a molehill, ask yourself how much it will matter in five years. Or, for that matter, next month. Just this simple question, changing up the time frame, can help shut down overthinking.

5. Stop waiting for perfection.  This is a big one. The moment you start thinking “This needs to be perfect” is the moment you need to remind yourself that waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.

6. Change your view of fear.  Whether you’re afraid because you’ve failed in the past, or you’re fearful of trying or overgeneralizing some other failure, remember that just because things did not work out before does not mean that has to be the outcome every time. Remember, every opportunity is a new beginning, a place to start again.

7. Try structured “worry time”.  Set a timer for five minutes about the same time daily and give yourself that time to think, worry, and analyze. Once the timer goes off, spend 10 minutes with a pen and paper, writing down all the things that are worrying you, stressing you, or giving you anxiety. When the 10 minutes is up, throw the paper out and move on–preferably to something fun.

8. Stop worrying!! Only 8% of what we worry about is legitimate. (Read More at the Balance & Power Blog)

9. Accept your best. The fear that grounds overthinking is often based in feeling that you aren’t good enough–not smart enough or hardworking enough or dedicated enough. Once you’ve given an effort your best, accept it as such and know that, while success may depend in part on some things you can’t control, you’ve done what you could do.

10. Be grateful.  You can’t have a regretful thought or feel depressed and a grateful thought at the same time! Make a list of what you are grateful for and review it every morning and evening. Try having a gratitude buddy!

Are you distressed, angry, anxious from the US political campaign news?


The news is 24/7.  This has been called the most volatile and distressing presidential campaign in our country’s history. It may even feel like you don’t want to avoid it…it’s almost like being drawn to a horrific accident that you tell yourself you don’t want to see…yet can’t seem to take your eyes off it.  We may  – as can be expected – feel immense fear, anger, sadness and grief that we can’t easily shake off. Continued Here

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“Researchers at Harvard Medical School have found that women with highly stressful jobs face a 40 percent higher risk of cardiovascular disease. The study defined high stress jobs as ones where the woman felt she had little creativity or power to make decisions, despite being expected to perform tasks quickly. Stress levels were often raised because it is quite common for women have several non workplace tasks, including caring for children and aging relelatives.” (Read the full blog at The Huffington Post)

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DeStress Tips III by Eileen Lichtenstein, CEO www.balanceandpower.com 

~Want to discuss any of these, or need help,? Call me for a FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353~

DeStress Tip: Honor your boundaries and say no~ ow.ly/xgBS5

DeStress Tip: Hold Hope ow.ly/xgBaV fb.me/346z3XGXc

DeStress Tip: Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success! ow.ly/xgCsZ fb.me/2d1K8H98k

DeStress Tip: Be fearless!~! ow.ly/xgBmd fb.me/31nXwCSsV

DeStress Tip: Disconnect from technology, from work related stuff for an hour, a half day, weekend, week… fb.me/6TIlRfRqR

DeStress Tip: Stop second guessing! ow.ly/xgAwD fb.me/2OBt465UV

DeStress Tip: See the whole chessboard when u play chess! ie: Don’t lose your temp[er on the road!~… fb.me/455zqB7Nu

DeStress Tip: “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that… fb.me/2UDm0FAhQ

DeStress Tip: Get in front of a mirror and practice smiling. While working your grin, take a minute to… fb.me/3C1AWxonO

DeStress Tip: Stop negative self talk. Switch the thoughts of negativity to positive mantras, such as “I am a strong woman (man)!”

DeStress Tip: Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to… fb.me/3h1nJWuiQ

DeStress Tip: Emotional eating-stress a vicious cycle. You have the power to stop it! ow.ly/xf4Pc fb.me/3sk80z8Oj

DeStress Tip: Listen well instead of reacting in anger. ow.ly/xf4uBfb.me/1b10oe99r

DeStress Tip: Be grateful always!! It’s more important ever on this day of rememberance- ow.ly/xf4Iv fb.me/35VD7TKcc

DeStress Tip: Make your Goals Realistic & Reachable! ow.ly/wXQAXfb.me/3tNCZ4vY1

DeStress Tip: Exercise! Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life can have an overall negative effect on… fb.me/3imdJ7YUT

DeStress Tip: Exercise and you will feel better about yourself and the more likely you are to live a healthy… fb.me/3tuGlB7S1

De-Stress Tip: Stop emotional eating! Feel confident, healthy & in control. 🙂ow.ly/wXPWj fb.me/18dYfHsOH

DeStress Tip: If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of life every now and then, things won’t seem…

DeStress Tip: Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and reassures us that when all is… fb.me/3ILcRMkSn

DeStress Tip: We need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit!…

DeStress Tip: Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy.

DeStress Tip: Laugh More!: A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult-… fb.me/2SuM58kiI

DeStress Tip: Acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel… fb.me/3ShSe4ZAe

DeStress Tip: Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute. fb.me/1tKKZilEF

DeStress Tip: Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?ow.ly/wHgMO fb.me/2BGHJEHj9

DeStress Tip:  8 Tips for Feeling Happier wp.me/poyvn-PN

DeStress Tip: Self-love is the one most important thing to create your best life. ow.ly/wHgyM fb.me/2nJvGczED

DeStress Tip: Focus is a skill you can develop. Do you know you can rewire negative patterns??
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DeStress Tip: 10 Tips to Stop Self-Sabotage fb.me/1iORMVSRd

DeStress Tip: Transition = Opportunities ow.ly/ws5oa

DeStress Tip: Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity and productivity. You don’t even have to be creating… fb.me/6LtLacATj

De-Stress Tip: “Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” – Bob… fb.me/6TjurOU0a

DeStress Tip: A great appreciation of nature and our connection to it enhances our spirit and helps to connect us… fb.me/3rBKOuWdn

DeStress Tip: Meditating can help develop the art of patience.

DeStress Tip: Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed rather than jumping in with your… fb.me/1bz1T3ZuL

DeStress Tip: Take time to access what you have in front of you, take a break and re-evaluate. ow.ly/wdrSX

DeStress Tip:  Stop Smoking with EFT! ow.ly/wdt0u

DeStress Tip: Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it.

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These are tried & true “tips” with links related to blogs and/or photos.  Enjoy!

  • Surround yourself with positive thinkers and shun those who are excessively negative. It’s a… fb.me/6uUkPgkYk
  • Look back at your actions and see what you can do to improve your performances instead of… fb.me/21jdLyihn
  • Are you part of 80% of people who procrastinate from time to time?
    Or of the other 20% who procrastinate ALL… fb.me/2UQmUCTI7
  • Tapping reduces stress from everyday issues that may cause you to turn to food to soothe anxious… fb.me/1ieTzPCmZ
  • Get out of your comfort zone and feel invigorated!fb.me/1fq18Yyqx
  • Good relationships correlate with happiness and productivity. ow.ly/u9Pl8fb.me/2Hsdx5lJr
  • EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a magnificant tool to overcome fear. ow.ly/u9P4i
  • Be kind and helpful. People appreciating you will make you feel better about yourself.
  • Believe in the power of animal therapy – lots of smiles 🙂fb.me/2rpzV7z1V
  • Proven methods for enhancing happiness are nurturing relationships, writing in a gratitude… fb.me/2T3zeV7OS
  • Practice relaxation and/or meditation on a regular basis ow.ly/i/4LsfD ow.ly/i/4LsgE
  • (Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping) can help remove blocks, release frustrations and… fb.me/6nWk5KUVu
  • You can change your definition of happiness- maybe want less or differently 🙂 ow.ly/u8IXv fb.me/3s9p8zTy9
  • Helping others may be the most direct route to happiness.ow.ly/u8sxt
  • Balance is about developing a relationship with ourselves,expectations for daily… fb.me/11y57B9K2
  • Cultivate patience and tolerance for those less talented, passionate or knowledgeable. ow.ly/ubC5X
  • Take yourself a bit less seriously 🙂
  • Write your goal in positive language. The more positive instructions you give yourself, the more positive results you get!
  • Lifestyles and stress levels can be changed with impressive results! FREE consult ow.ly/ubwlK
  • Harmony vs. Work/Life Balance ow.ly/uQkzC  read my article here! fb.me/2qkDXugRNProtective white light energy around you so inappropriate negativity directed at you bounces… fb.me/2GazA5zqx
  • List all of your positive traits and characteristics and review often! ow.ly/u9NO1 fb.me/6tAdECoBG

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De-Stress, Focus and SOAR! with Resilience™”         

Eileen Lichtenstein, M.S. Ed. CEO

Balance & Power, Inc

 Experience Simple Techniques and Learn Strategies to:

  • Reduce/ release stress
  • Focus your energy on taking action with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)

 

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 To all my friends recently touched by destruction and dire circumstances, as our collective prayers, thoughts and actions aid recovery from Superstorm Sandy, and to all of my friends not  in the New York Metro area, let’s remember we can always accelerate resilience in spirit with these simple steps:

• Set specific goals that are attainable.  Take baby steps to get there when necessary.
• When you are feeling down due to personal circumstances, take stock of your strengths and positive circumstances and BE GRATEFUL!!
• Surround yourself with positive people as much as possible.
• Do not read, watch or listen to the news if you become “too upset”.

You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges .

 

It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities.

 

They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar!!

 

Gratefulness to Overcome Overwhelm Post Sandy

Emphasize the Positive for Successful Relationships

TRANSFORM BURN-OUT TO BALANCE

Choose Happiness!

Being Happy (Can) Make You Look Great!

Ask for What You Want… Otherwise Don’t Wonder Why You don’t Get You Always Have a Choice!

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“Hope Springs” is an important relationship movie, not a “chick flick”.  That’s this gal’s opinion…  The actors take their time through the first half and we get it- the marriage isn’t working and hasn’t worked in many years.  Meryl Streep’s  role is very different from any   I’ve seen her in  previously and she does this part justice.  I don’t want to give away the movie;  I simply am stating that I agree, effective communication is the integral piece of any working relationship.  If yours isn’t going well, then examine the communication (or lack of) and see if it’s about saying what you mean, expressing feelings, or simply relating well (empathetically, sympathetically) to your other.  It may be about stepping outside your “comfort zone” to accomplish this.  It may be about doing things differently or breaking habits.   It’s always helpful to learn about other styles of communication and behavior so you will be able to relate better to each one.  A long term relationship takes a lot of work, believe me, I know! I share a lot about this in my book,  SOAR! with Resilience™  , as well as effective communication strategies.  I  facilitate on site trainings; a popular title is “Eliminate the Frustration From Your Conversation”.  I also coach  individuals and couples in Wantagh, Long Island and via Skype.  

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Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

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