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“The silent treatment” is the most common form of withholding and encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings, including an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

When you are feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space and get some help…

Take time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.   If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. ~ and can take time.

Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking in safe places.  Praise those you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become.    

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Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

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Yes, research shows it’s possible! with actively choosing new ways to think, new ways to behave, and new environments that best suit your emotional style.   We can change how the brain responds to emotional stimuli with researched strategies that include:

    • Find out what your “hot buttons” are – what triggers your negative emotions.
    • Observe your emotions in the moment, without labeling good or bad.
    • Investigate emotions by asking yourself questions like, “Why do I feel this way?” or “What are my emotions trying to tell me?” Sometimes there is a logic and pattern of our emotions than we can learn from and improve.
    • Practice responding to emotions in new and constructive ways (for example, dancing, writing, or painting).

I work successfully with clients and groups to do this with Peak Performance Success and Life Coaching that may include stress and anger management, guided meditation and the modality EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping – that speed up this process!

Need help and guidance? FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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Did you know that
40% of worrying is about things that will never happen
30% of worrying is over things that can’t be changed
10% of worrying is over health (which only gets worse when you worry)
We spend 92% of our time an energy worrying about things that:
1. We have no control over
2. We can’t possibly change
3. Have misperceived

Make a list of things you worry about. Divide your list intocategories listed at the top of this outline. How do you want to redirect your focus?
What would happen if we channeled this energy and effort contructively rather than adding “fuel to the fire”? Worrying is like steeping on the gas pedal while the car is in neutral: we create a lot of noise, use op energy and don’t go anywhere!

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/ Meridian Tapping) works extraordinarily well to overcome anxiety, fear and worry.  more..http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

Did you know that all procrastination is fear based?

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DeStress Tips III by Eileen Lichtenstein, CEO www.balanceandpower.com 

~Want to discuss any of these, or need help,? Call me for a FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353~

DeStress Tip: Honor your boundaries and say no~ ow.ly/xgBS5

DeStress Tip: Hold Hope ow.ly/xgBaV fb.me/346z3XGXc

DeStress Tip: Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success! ow.ly/xgCsZ fb.me/2d1K8H98k

DeStress Tip: Be fearless!~! ow.ly/xgBmd fb.me/31nXwCSsV

DeStress Tip: Disconnect from technology, from work related stuff for an hour, a half day, weekend, week… fb.me/6TIlRfRqR

DeStress Tip: Stop second guessing! ow.ly/xgAwD fb.me/2OBt465UV

DeStress Tip: See the whole chessboard when u play chess! ie: Don’t lose your temp[er on the road!~… fb.me/455zqB7Nu

DeStress Tip: “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that… fb.me/2UDm0FAhQ

DeStress Tip: Get in front of a mirror and practice smiling. While working your grin, take a minute to… fb.me/3C1AWxonO

DeStress Tip: Stop negative self talk. Switch the thoughts of negativity to positive mantras, such as “I am a strong woman (man)!”

DeStress Tip: Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to… fb.me/3h1nJWuiQ

DeStress Tip: Emotional eating-stress a vicious cycle. You have the power to stop it! ow.ly/xf4Pc fb.me/3sk80z8Oj

DeStress Tip: Listen well instead of reacting in anger. ow.ly/xf4uBfb.me/1b10oe99r

DeStress Tip: Be grateful always!! It’s more important ever on this day of rememberance- ow.ly/xf4Iv fb.me/35VD7TKcc

DeStress Tip: Make your Goals Realistic & Reachable! ow.ly/wXQAXfb.me/3tNCZ4vY1

DeStress Tip: Exercise! Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life can have an overall negative effect on… fb.me/3imdJ7YUT

DeStress Tip: Exercise and you will feel better about yourself and the more likely you are to live a healthy… fb.me/3tuGlB7S1

De-Stress Tip: Stop emotional eating! Feel confident, healthy & in control. 🙂ow.ly/wXPWj fb.me/18dYfHsOH

DeStress Tip: If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of life every now and then, things won’t seem…

DeStress Tip: Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and reassures us that when all is… fb.me/3ILcRMkSn

DeStress Tip: We need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit!…

DeStress Tip: Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy.

DeStress Tip: Laugh More!: A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult-… fb.me/2SuM58kiI

DeStress Tip: Acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel… fb.me/3ShSe4ZAe

DeStress Tip: Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute. fb.me/1tKKZilEF

DeStress Tip: Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?ow.ly/wHgMO fb.me/2BGHJEHj9

DeStress Tip:  8 Tips for Feeling Happier wp.me/poyvn-PN

DeStress Tip: Self-love is the one most important thing to create your best life. ow.ly/wHgyM fb.me/2nJvGczED

DeStress Tip: Focus is a skill you can develop. Do you know you can rewire negative patterns??
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DeStress Tip: 10 Tips to Stop Self-Sabotage fb.me/1iORMVSRd

DeStress Tip: Transition = Opportunities ow.ly/ws5oa

DeStress Tip: Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity and productivity. You don’t even have to be creating… fb.me/6LtLacATj

De-Stress Tip: “Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” – Bob… fb.me/6TjurOU0a

DeStress Tip: A great appreciation of nature and our connection to it enhances our spirit and helps to connect us… fb.me/3rBKOuWdn

DeStress Tip: Meditating can help develop the art of patience.

DeStress Tip: Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed rather than jumping in with your… fb.me/1bz1T3ZuL

DeStress Tip: Take time to access what you have in front of you, take a break and re-evaluate. ow.ly/wdrSX

DeStress Tip:  Stop Smoking with EFT! ow.ly/wdt0u

DeStress Tip: Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it.

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You will encounter obstacles when you want to achieve greater success, and you can be unstoppable!Getting laid off, losing a key contract to a competitor, receiving a rejection letter, facing a serious illness, losing your home in a natural disaster, experiencing the heartache of having a romantic relationship end are just a tiny handful of the obstacles you could encounter.

What matters is how you approach these obstacles; how you react and cope.

Sadly, most people regard obstacles as the end to their dreams or a serious impediment to their happiness.

And while it’s normal and okay to experience sadness, frustration and even anger at the obstacles you face, you can’t let obstacles stop you or drag you down.

That’s why  you can be unstopable and achieve your goals when adversity presents itself with my help: contact me now to arrange  a complimentary consult via phone or Skype. we’ll discuss the proven ways successful people tackle obstacles …so you become an unstoppable success!

*I can help and empower you to SOAR! to your greatest heights of happiness, productivity and success!  interactive manual: New-Soar-for-Amazon.JPG
  •  Re-frame adversity … so you can grow and benefit from every experience
  •  Cope with obstacles (most people stop when they hit a roadblock … but successful people have 3 proven ways for achieving success despite the obstacles they encounter)
  • Create ideas for maintaining a positive attitude even when nothing seems to be going your way
  •  Plow through the overwhelming obstacles you are facing  and relate stories of others to help you gain perspective
  • And much more!

I look forward to hearing you  from you for a complimentary consult via telephone or skype~

Keep Soaring!
Eileen

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Time to make temporary adjustments temporarily permanent.
Here are a few of what I see as “New Rules”. If you or anyone you know is having difficulty moving forward in this economy, please contact me for a complimentary consult via phone or Skype (which are also amazingly effective venues for coaching sessions). And what are your “new rules”? Please comment-share!
– be OK with “changing things up”
– learn new technology
– ask for help learning new technology
– become active on social media
– take several balance & power breaks throughout your day to
reprioritize
– cultivate patience
– stay connected with friends and support groups
– network face-to-face in your community

You may want to explore The EFTtapping Technique to facilitate any of the above. I integrate the

The EFTtapping Technique into my coaching and training sessions.


View my EVENTS to see upcoming EFT group sessions and more in Long Island.

Call me anytime for a FREE consult for individual sessions re video skype or in Westbury, Long Island.

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I was chatting with a huggable local friend on the phone today  about  journaling, diary entries-blogging .. and said ” one of the things so wonderful about diary entries-journaling is the edit-delete factor- you are truly the editor of your life!”   You can choose your direction- turn around and look the other way – delete/add and no one knows- except you! … I recently added  dream journaling-recording to my personal repetoire which adds deeper insights and direction to waking hours. Thanks, Jason Levitt,  Dream  Guide http://www.moontempledreaming.com.  We had a great tete-a-tete (please excuse me French speakers, there are no accents on my computer :))  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/eileen-lichtenstein/2010/08/11/the-balance-power-network

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