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We can  find joy in the chores and tasks we don’t especially like – sometimes all we need is a change of attitude, a different approach, a little music, or some help from friends or family, and the tasks or responsibilities that we perceive as tedious ie: washing dishes, fixing the car, cleaning a closet, can become a source of satisfaction.

Most of us tend to put off what it is that we don’t want to do. Yet, one of the best approaches to an unpleasant task or dull chore is to dive right in and be fully mindful of what it is that you are doing.

Playing your favorite music, dancing while you work, or creating a mental list of everything you are grateful for are just a few ways to turn an unexciting activity into a fun event. Look for joy in doing your mundane activities, and they’ll become a source of enjoyment rather than a tolerable duty.
Need help in getting started? If you are procrastinating, it is based on one or more of the fears below.   EFTtapping can help light the fire and transform procrastination into action!
~fear of failure
~fear of being judged
~fear of success
~fear of being controlled
Need help? Call 516 623 4353   Sessions in Uniondale, NY., Skype and onsite.
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Anger is a natural human emotion.  “Is my anger working for me?” is a question you can ask yourself.  When anger is mild and infrequent,  is expressed assertively (directly to the problem person, in a non-accusatory manner) and without aggression, and the individual is able to “let it go” quickly, then anger may serve the role of simply highlighting your annoyance and it can lead to problem resolution.

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However, if your anger is moderate to intense, experienced frequently, endures to the point where you are holding a grudge and are planning to get even, and is expressed in aggressive verbal and physical actions, then there is cause for alarm. You are likely at risk for the negative relationship, health and sometimes legal repercussions related to inappropriate anger expression.  Professional help is indicated.

A by-product of an unacceptably angry person is low self-esteem and often shame.
Anger management programs work to address managing anger as well as building self-confidence.  Recently there have been six large-scale analyses of adult anger management programs that show this!  If you,  a loved one or colleague has a serious anger problem and wishes to gain control over the emotion, I invite you Contact me for a 15-minute consult: 516 623 4353   www.balanceandpower.com 

My sessions are in Uniondale, NY, Skype and on your site.

I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist by NAMA (National Anger Management Association), life-career coach and EFT practitioner.

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You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.

Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.  Do you know that only 8% of what we worry about is over legitimate concerns (worry!).
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty-nine years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.

Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.  CONSULT 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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 Stretching mentally is a willingness to change  in order to accommodate new circumstances.  It allows for shifting course when indicated and is possible when not being overly attached to outcome.  We are actually more in tune with reality when we are flexible- since reality is ever changing,

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it doesn’t make sense to be rigid or to cling to any one idea of what is happening or what is going to happen.

Being in tune enables us to adjust to the external environment and other people as they change and grow.  Every day we have the opportunity to exercise our flexibility.  We can stretch our minds by imagining several different possibilities for how events will unfold. As we do this, our minds become more supple and open, and when changes come our way, we can be more confident to accommodate and flow with the new reality.

Need help with mental flexability?: www.balanceandpower.com   EFTtapping helps!

Complimentary 20 minute consult: 516 623 4353

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One of the reasons that forgiveness can be so challenging is that we feel we are condoning the actions of the person who caused our suffering, but this is a misunderstanding of what is required. In order to forgive, we simply need to get to a place where we are ready to stop identifying ourselves with the suffering that was caused us. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, and our forgiveness of others is an extension of our readiness to let go of our own pain. Getting to this point begins with fully accepting what has happened. Through this acceptance, we allow ourselves to feel and process our emotions.  EFTtapping can help!!!

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I was researching the fear of not knowing in relation to medical diagnosis, aging-death concerns for family members and current safety issues with terrorism.  Several clients are currently experiencing these challenges… I  learned that this is an actual “phobia”:  “Agnosiophobia” that is quite prevalent in these times, not only to the above-mentioned issues, also in applying for work, having an interview, presenting a proposal, online dating, meeting someone new and more.

For some, the “not knowing” is extremely anxiety producing, as is any phobia.  The good news is that a modality I am certified in, in the field of energy psychology is EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as tapping, researched backed to reverse and transform fear!  I have successfully worked with client’s transforming fear of flying, heights, water and more! View testimonials and find out more here  My book and ebook provide these examples.  I’m excited to share this transformation more actively, now that folks are being more open about the fear of not knowing.  I find life and executive coaching, mindfulness strategies, creative positive visualizations and affirmations when combined with EFT is the formula for successful outcomes.

Complimentary 20 minute consult: 516 623 4353   www.balanceandpower.com

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Next time you get angry or frustrated, don’t focus on your circumstances. Ask yourself what belief about the circumstances you are clinging to. And think about how that might be incorrect or not useful. Everyone sees things from their own lens… you may want to try to reframe and learn EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping to release the old beliefs fully.

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