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1.  Listen to and follow your intuition.

During these trying and difficult times it’s been shown that it’s often necessary to reprioritize to get best outcomes.   Your intuition is most often correct when it comes to your life, work and relationships.  So even if it’s an inkling feeling – a tiny revelation- take a moment to recognize that and then move forward.

2.  Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

No reason or person is important enough to ever stray.  If you have  tried this over the years, whether intentionally or not, then you know it always backfires.

 3.  Love and laugh!

Both are proven stress reducers.  Happiness is contagious – many need more of that now while surrounded by global negativity, difficult times, chaos and immersed in “the new normal”.

 4.  Forgive yourself for mistakes; let go and move on. 

Self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive anyone else.  Forgiveness is essential to let go of anger.  Letting go of anger is essential to be happier.  Especially in “the new normal” this is a no-brainer :).

5.  Take time each day to relax, to dream.

We need our “down” time more than ever now, living in these difficult times.  Honor your method of relaxation and allow dreams to surface.  Be open to learning additional relaxation techniques and give them a try.. whatever works for you whenever you do it is OK as long as it has no negative effects on health or  overlaps with personal or work responsibilities.  If things are unmanageable – get help.

 6.  Be a great listener.

Listening is the most important part of communication.  If you do not understand what is being said, ask. Listen well and your response will  be more on target.

7.  Stay healthy by practicing self-care. (diet, sleep, exercise, relaxation techniques).

Stress takes its toll on health and may exacerbate conditions already in existence.  Therefore we need to be more diligent in this realm in order to   “Thrive Amidst Chaos” (the title of a workshop I co-presented with two colleagues recently).

8.  Stop procrastinating and take action- move forward or drop the project.

We all procrastinate; acknowledgement of being in this mode is the firststep in moving forward.  All procrastination is fear based and manifests itself through negative statements such as:

“not the right time now”
“why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”
Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

 What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing and Peak Performance Success Coaching   and the intention to do just that!

The following are a few common phrases/excuses people use when they are procrastinating: The task is:
“too boring”
“too time consuming”
“I just don’t feel like it”
“I just don’t want to”.

The Good news is that   EFT ( The Emotional Freedom Technique) is wonderfully successful in reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  It is based on the simple statement that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system. It involves tapping on meridian points while making statements about the issue.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward. When you use EFT and stimulate the acupressure points (see chart) the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdalia, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, set-up phrase (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, which I am, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.

9.  Begin each day with a short meditation positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

Oh! I am so much a believer in this!  Research has shown fantastic results.

10.  Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.

I’ve witnessed an amazing escalation in self-esteem, happiness, productivity and success with the implementation of these tips for my clients.

SOAR! with Resilience(R) is my interactive manual that stands alone and also accompanies customized individual and group coaching and training programs that encompass the material presented in this article.

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These tips are tried and true! :

1.  Listen to and follow your intuition.

During these trying and difficult times it’s been shown that it’s often necessary to reprioritize to get best outcomes.   Your intuition is most often correct when it comes to your life, work and relationships.  So even if it’s an inkling feeling – a tiny revelation- take a moment to recognize that and then move forward.

2.  Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

No reason or person is important enough to ever stray.  If you have  tried this over the years, whether intentionally or not, then you know it always backfires.

 3.  Love and laugh!

Both are proven stress reducers.  Happiness is contagious – many need more of that now while surrounded by global negativity, difficult times, chaos and immersed in “the new normal”.

 4.  Forgive yourself  for mistakes; let go and move on. 

Self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive anyone else.  Forgiveness is essential to let go of anger.  Letting go of anger is essential to be happier.  Especially in “the new normal” this is a no-brainer :).

5.  Take time each day  to relax, to dream.

We need our “down” time more than ever now, living in these difficult times.  Honor your method of relaxation and allow dreams to surface.  Be open to learning additional relaxation techniques and give them a try.. whatever works for you whenever you do it is OK as long as it has no negative effects on health or  overlaps with personal or work responsibilities.  If things are unmanageable – get help.

 6.  Be a great listener.

Listening is the most important part of communication.  If you do not understand what is being said, ask. Listen well and your response will  be more on target.

7.  Stay healthy by practicing extreme self-care. (diet, sleep, exercise, relaxation techniques).

Stress takes its toll on health and may exacerbate conditions already in existence.  Therefore we need to be more diligent in this realm in order to   “Thrive Amidst Chaos” (the title of a workshop I co-presented with two colleagues recently).

8.  Stop procrastinating and take action- move forward or drop the project.

We all procrastinate; acknowledgment of being in this mode is the first step in moving forward.  All procrastination is fear based and manifests itself through negative statements such as:

“not the right time now”
“why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”
Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

 What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing and Peak Performance Success Coaching and the intention to do just that!

The following are a few common phrases/excuses people use when they are procrastinating: The task is:
“too boring”
“too time consuming”
“I just don’t feel like it”
“I just don’t want to”.

The Good news is that   EFT ( The Emotional Freedom Technique) is wonderfully successful in reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  It is based on the simple statement that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system . It involves tapping on meridian points while making statements about the issue.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward. When you use EFT and stimulate the acupressure points (see chart) the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdalia, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, set-up phrase (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, which I am, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.

9.  Begin each day with a short meditation positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

Oh! I am so much a believer in this!  Research has shown fantastic results.  It’s all up to you – and your connection to a higher power/the universe.

10.  Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.

I’ve witnessed amazing escalation in self-esteem, happiness, productivity and success with the implementation of these tips for my clients.

SOAR! with Resilience(R)   is the interactive manual that stands alone and also accompanies customized individual and group coaching and training programs that encompass the material presented in this article.

FREE consult  WWW.BALANCEANDPOWER.COM DSC02197

516 623 4353

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2. Challenge your belief! Write down, and take time to acknowledge, all the life experiences that you have had that actually PROVE your old belief is not true. This may be in the form of compliments that you have received, promotions at work, loving relationships, etc.
3. Identify your desired outcome.  Write down all your desired outcomes relating to replacing the old belief. Choose one outcome that most powerfully represents who you would be if you had that outcome.

4. Ask yourself: “What am I willing to do to make these changes?” You can always get ideas and reinforcement from professional guidance and support in one-on-one sessions or group programs. You really don’t have to go it alone in your life, and the belief that “you should” is in itself a disempowering belief!

5. Learn EFT and “tap on it”.  ebook-cover-eft-web

Love, respect yourself and believe you deserve…and  the challenges will actually help you learn and grow, not wear you down. Remember, you are lovable, capable and worthwhile.  You are enough!

FREE 20 minute phone consult: 516 623 4353   eileen@balanceandpower.com 

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Are you a frequent “second guesser?” There are many possibilities of why, which I’m not going to focus on here. The important thing now is to stop questioning practically every decision you make, do the best you can – believing that you are – to make confident choices.

Frequent words-phrases of second guessing are could have, should have, if only, why didn’t I, I would have. These are usually used as a way of expressing tension before or after having made a decision. Adding to the negative situation, you may feel angry with yourself and berate yourself for having created a stressful situation. Perhaps you do not do anything, being ambivalent about your choices, and feel stuck and powerless.

Here are some tips to help break a pattern of “second guessing” and making confident choices:

• Think about why you lack trust in your judgment.
• Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen if you say no to someone…
• Know that we aren’t perfect. Learn something from your mistakes and move on.
• Eliminate the phrases and words that indicate uncertainty and second guessing, (2nd paragraph).

Do you need help and encouragement taking “risks” and trusting yourself, in changing old patterns to make confident choices and take confident actions?
You may Contact me for a Free Consult-Strategy session via telephone.
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DeStress Tip: Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to…

DeStress Tip: Emotional eating-stress a vicious cycle. You have the power to stop it!

DeStress Tip: Listen well instead of reacting in anger.

DeStress Tip: Be grateful always!!

DeStress Tip: Make your Goals Realistic & Reachable!

DeStress Tip: Exercise! Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life can have an overall negative effect on

DeStress Tip: Exercise and you will feel better about yourself and the more likely you are to live a healthy…

De-Stress Tip: Stop emotional eating! Feel confident, healthy & in control.

DeStress Tip: If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of life every now and then, things won’t seem…

DeStress Tip: Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and reassures us that when all is…

DeStress Tip: We need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit!…

DeStress Tip: Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy.

DeStress Tip: Laugh More!: A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult-…

DeStress Tip: Acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel…

DeStress Tip: Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute.

DeStress Tip: Did you know that the brain is stimulated by surprise?

DeStress Tip: Self-love is the one most important thing to create your best life.

DeStress Tip: Focus is a skill you can develop. Do you know you can rewire negative patterns??
DeStress Tip: Transition = Opportunities

DeStress Tip: Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity and productivity. You don’t even have to be creating…

DeStress Tip: “Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” – Bob Proctor

DeStress Tip: A great appreciation of nature and our connection to it enhances our spirit and helps to connect us…

DeStress Tip: Meditating can help develop the art of patience.

DeStress Tip: Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed rather than jumping in with your…

DeStress Tip: Take time to access what you have in front of you, take a break and re-evaluate.

DeStress Tip:  Stop Smoking with EFT!  DeStress Tip: Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it.

~Want to discuss any of these, or need help,? Call me for a FREE PHONE CONSULT: 516 623 4353~ www.balanceandpower.com 

 

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Believing in yourself is the most powerful affirmation you can give to yourself!
Having trust in ourselves helps motivate us to take risks and go the extra mile. It is easier to take initiative and action when we feel capable and self-assured.  Self-trust in our actions tends to result in success. Consider having giving yourself a supportive little talk if you feel self-doubt to reinforce your belief in yourself and boost your self-confidence.
When you go above and beyond the norm in some aspect of your life or are allowing those around you to see more of your emotions than you’re used to showing, you may feel that you are taking a risk. Hopefully, those in your sphere are meeting your efforts with more support or trust than you might have expected.  Others may be reacting positively to your actions today or perhaps communicating strong faith in your abilities.  
Trust yourself today when you take risks, and your actions will be self-affirming and create positive results.  I have helped many Peak performance success coaching and  EFT
Need help building confidence and taking action?
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Always acknowledge your emotions- even if they’re not positive so that they’re not suppressed-repressed leading to negativity.  When they are acknowledged, only then , can you transform anxiety and stress to well being and success, being resilient!!!

Here are three strategies for being happy in today’s crazy world:

  • Connect With People: Just being around others isn’t enough. Join groups that you share something with. You need to be “in it together” to tackle challenges better than when loneliness is a true emotion.
  • Connect With Your Intrinsic Values: More doing what you love because you love it. Chasing status (including on social media – counting “likes” often) –  places happiness outside your control.  Feeling “out of control” is a true definition of stress.
  • Connect with Nature: Go outside for a reason other than to pick up that box from Amazon.  *Research shows people who exercise in nature are even happier than people who exercise indoors.*  Perhaps you’ll have a personal “reframe” while doing this – without even thinking about the situation!

Please comment below to let me know how this goes.  I’m always available for a free consult via phone.  Sessions in Skype and Uniondale, NY ; also on your site.  

http://www.balanceandpower.com   516 623 4353

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