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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

study in the Journal of Consumer Research by Professor Patrick and Henrik Hagtvedt found that saying “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t” allowed participants to extract themselves from unwanted commitments.  While “I can’t” sounds like an excuse that’s up for debate, “I don’t” implies you’ve established certain rules for yourself, suggesting conviction and stability and are more effective in getting your point across.

There are a few other ways you can get more comfortable with saying no.

It’s a lot easier to be assertive with a stranger selling you something than it is when, say, your pleading co-worker asks for a ride to the airport. Get comfortable with your assertiveness when it’s easy so you’ll be prepared when there’s more pressure.

 It’s easier to say no when you know exactly how to say it, so come up with a few anchor phrases for different situations. “No, I don’t buy from solicitors” for door-to-door salespeople, for example. “No, I don’t go out during the week” for co-workers who want to go on a drinking binge on a Monday night.

When you have these phrases ready, you don’t have to waste time wavering over an excuse. And you start to develop a reflexive behavior of saying no.

Still, sometimes we’re afraid to say no because we fear missing out. We want to take on new opportunities and adventures, so we say yes to everything instead.  But all of those yeses can lead to burnout.

It can help to understand your own long-term goals This way, you can say yes to opportunities that most reflect your values. Second, try to build free time in your schedule so there’s room for new, interesting opportunities you might otherwise overlook.

Some worry that your no might seem threatening.  Research from Columbia University found that our perceptions of our own assertiveness are often unreliable. In mock negotiations, people who thought they were adequately assertive or even over-assertive were seen by others as under-assertive. So if you feel confrontational, there’s a good chance the other party doesn’t see you that way. It’s about operating at the most optimal level.  For most of us, that means living a happier and less stressful life, which is easier to do from the driver’s seat.

Being assertive is a core communication skill. Being assertive means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and earn others’ respect.  
Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills.  Do you need help learning assertive behavior and communication? 
FREE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  one to one, group sessions in Westbury, NY. and Skype
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Please determine which available date works best for you.
Saturday, May 20  Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, June 24  Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, July 15  Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, August 12  Time: 9am – 12pm

3 Hour Anger Management Completion Certificates accepted by the courts will be given if requested. Advance Registration only.

Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590

Cost: $150 [Small groups, Limited seating ]

Register with Paypal eileen@balanceandpower.com  Credit Cards accepted via telephone.

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels.

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impact your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
516 623 4353  eileen@balanceandpower.com

10% discount for Veterans and their families

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Anger Management Group 3 Hrs
(*Accepted by Courts)

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Saturday, May 14  Time: 10am – 1pm
Saturday, June 11  Time: 10am – 1pm
Saturday, July16  Time: 10am – 1pm

3 Hour Anger Management Completion Certificates accepted by the courts will be given if requested. *Pre registration only through noon Thursday before date of group.

Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590

Cost: $150 each [Small groups, Limited seating ]

Register with Paypal   Credit Cards accepted via telephone.

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. 

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
516 623 4353               eileen@balanceandpower.com

10% discount for Veterans and their families
Register Now: *Credit Cards accepted via telephone. (516) 623-4
**Pre registration only through noon Thursday before date of group.

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How to Heal the Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Bodies Naturally

When: Thursdays, 4 Nights: April 7th through May 5th, 2016

[No class on 4/28/16] 7:30 PM-9:00 PMWhere: Weber Middle School, 52 Campus Dr, Port Washington, NY 11050

 A very talented holistic network presents the following fascinating and important holistic health topics:

Healing suppressed wounds through Inner Child Work and Past Life Regression, How to Lift Mood with Food, Anger Management and It’s Ability to Improve Health, Emotional Freedom Technique, with a special emphasis on Weight Loss, Detoxing Naturally and Safely, Alleviating Seasonal Allergies with Homeopathy, Dream Therapy, Somatic Therapy for Deep and Profound Healing, the Importance of Whole Food Nutrition for the Brain and Body, How to Determine What Your Life’s Purpose is, and more!!

Eileen Lichtenstein on April 7th:
Anger Management and Communication Styles
Certified Anger Management Specialist, CEO, Balance & Power, Inc. www.balanceandpower.com/events.php 

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier
  • The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness and intention to change patterns.

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. Being happier is a wonderful by-product of communicating effectively!

Learn about distinctions among communication styles and behavior so that you can communicate more effectively at work and at home, be listened to, and respected. Learn how not to “take things personally” and reduce stress / frustration! Stress release techniques to help you cope with “difficult” people are included in this interactive workshop.

Your communication, anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation. Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success, and Eileen Lichtenstein has specialized for over 20 years in personal development coaching and training, including stress and anger reduction/ management, relationship and leadership building, sensitivity training, communicating effectively and career issues.

 a very talented holistic network presents the following fascinating and important holistic health topics.

Healing suppressed wounds through Inner Child Work and Past Life Regression, How to Lift Mood with Food, Anger Management and It’s Ability to Improve Health, Emotional Freedom Technique, with a special emphasis on Weight Loss, Detoxing Naturally and Safely, Alleviating Seasonal Allergies with Homeopathy, Dream Therapy, Somatic Therapy for Deep and Profound Healing, the Importance of Whole Food Nutrition for the Brain and Body, How to Determine What Your Life’s Purpose is, and more!!

This is a Port Washington Adult Ed course, Only 60 dollars for all 4 nights!

Register Now: Click on the link, then click on Adult Enrichment, then on Health and Wellness.
https://portwashington.revtrak.net

Please contact caroleitner1@gmail.com if you need any help with registration.

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How to Heal the Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Bodies Naturally

April 7 is Eileen’s class in this Port Washington Continuing Ed. Series:

When: Thursdays, 4 Nights: April 7th through May 5th, 2016
[No class on 4/28/16] 7:30 PM-9:00 PM

Where: Weber Middle School, 52 Campus Dr, Port Washington, NY 11050

Eileen Lichtenstein on April 7th:
Anger Management & Communication Styles, with Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed.  Certified Anger Management Specialist, CEO, Balance & Power, Inc.

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier
  • The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness and intention to change patterns.

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. Being happier is a wonderful by-product of communicating effectively!

Learn about distinctions among communication styles and behavior so that you can communicate more effectively at work and at home, be listened to, and respected. Learn how not to “take things personally” and reduce stress / frustration! Stress release techniques to help you cope with “difficult” people are included in this interactive workshop.

Your communication, anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation. Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success, and Eileen Lichtenstein has specialized for over 20 years in personal development coaching and training, including stress and anger reduction/ management, relationship and leadership building, sensitivity training, communicating effectively and career issues.

This is a Port Washington Adult Ed course, Only 60 dollars for all 4 nights!

Register Now: Click on the link, then click on Adult Enrichment, then on Health and Wellness.
https://portwashington.revtrak.net

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When: Wednesday, February 25, 2015 – 8:00 PM (EST)
PRICE: FREE

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. has specialized for 20 years in personal development coaching and training, including stress reduction management, communicating effectively and career issues. She helps women and men to access the power already within.  She is a certified Anger management Specialist.

Register Here Free

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Anger Management Group: 2 Hour Session in Westbury, Long Island
(*Accepted by Courts)

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When:
Saturday, March 7, 2015  Time: 10am – 12pm
Sunday, March 29, 2015  Time: 2pm – 4pm
Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590
Cost: $70
Register with Paypal www.balanceandpower.com/events.php  or to eileen@balanceandpower.com 

Credit Cards accepted via telephone.

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels.

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
 516 623 4353
eileen@balanceandpower.com

Register Now: with Paypal

Mar 7: Cost: $70
March 29: Cost: $70

*Credit Cards accepted via telephone. 516 623 4353

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There is no reason to let a difficult person or situation have power over your state of being. Sometimes we encounter those individuals who, for whatever reason, can be difficult to deal with.  The behavior/words of difficult people can even make you feel like losing your temper.  Keeping your cool and staying calm is important, especially if/when you are ready to confront them.

Avoiding a difficult person is not always in your best interest, especially if you live or work together, this can become a source of stress and anxiety. In these situations, it is best to kindly address the problem while not letting their actions or mood affect you. You may want to think about what you want to say to a difficult person before you actually talk to them to express your feelings directly, ie: tell the person how their actions/words make you feel (without taking on the role of a victim) and when possible encourage them toward a more positive course of action. Another approach for dealing with a difficult individual is to gain a deeper understanding of who that person is by asking them why they do or say certain things, and perhaps guide them to a shift in perspective.

Often a lot can be accomplished when you take the time to listen actively and perhaps offer up alternative perspectives.  Try to approach the conversation objectively without being judgmental or defensive. If the person is open to the idea, try coming to an agreement. If approaching them fails, let it go and move on. When this is impossible to do it’s important to find help and get support.

Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

Download The 10 Tips to Building a Strong Relationship (pdf)

Contact me today for a Free 1:1 Consultation and for interactive workshops-trainings www.balanceandpower.com  516 623 4353

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