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You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.

Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.  Do you know that only 8% of what we worry about is over legitimate concerns (worry!).
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty-nine years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit.

Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.  CONSULT 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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Mindfulness is about living in the moment and being fully aware of what is going on at all times.  When we “practice” this while mindfully meditating – following the breath and not allowing any thoughts in…letting them float by like clouds on a windy sky…then there is a “spillover effect” into everyday life: being able to be mindful while doing (almost) anything and having clearer focus, greater calm and enhanced creativity-productivity!

It’s easy to forget to live in the moment while keeping the big picture in sight.  It’s helpful to remember that life is transient;  many “unfortunate” or “worrisome”  things are temporary and that the only time that truly exists ever is right now. RIGHT NOW is the ONLY time you can do or change anything in your life. And NOW is the only time you have. There are few of us that live in the present, we are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.

I’ve been trained in the practice of mindfulness by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn and co-facilitated  MBSR groups with a local medical doctor.  Mindfulness is in the curriculum for Anger Management, and is highly effective in helping to create good choices in all areas of life and career.  Corporate and organizational seminars and classes onsite are available.

Need help getting started? Contact me for a free consult:516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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image008You always have a choice even though you may not realize it in the moment. Circumstances may be beyond your control; your attitude is your choice.
Going to the places that scare you, being fearless and choosing to be resilient, that’s what this blog is about.

I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides…:
Walking on hot coals while on a mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.

Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!

Para sailing Puerto Vallarta: This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.

Forty years ago: Steve & I rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings – and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was 9/11 and the period following that. Were we really OK? Then it became more than me and being empty nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it was much more than getting off the coach and back onto the treadmill and back into the gym- even that was scary after a dark period.
• Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
When things get scary look straight ahead and focus. Be in the moment as much as times permit. Be Present. Be Happy.
Be Resilient!
We’ve got the Now! Only once.  CONSULT 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com 

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 a Guest Post:

Imagine the Internet without the gazillion articles and blog posts about how to make money, how to be happy, how to lose weight, or how to win back your girlfriend or boyfriend. The above scenario would never exist because as humans, we are constantly searching for ways to feel good. The web is a mirror held to humanity, and the endless self-help content is a reflection of our perceived desires as humans. Whether or not we follow the advice and work toward what we want is another thing. Basic needs, of course, are essential to happiness, but many of the desires are artificial. Focusing on excessive details of success like making millions of dollars or having a flawless body is only a distraction.

related article: Ten Tips to Increase Happiness and Build Confidence

There’s no doubt that happiness is tied to more than just emotional and spiritual health. Physical and financial health are absolutely essential to health and well being. Things go wrong, however, when there’s more emphasis on one type of health than the other types.   We should also analyze our “wants”, and ask ourselves whether they are leading us into an endless pursuit of “more, more, more”, or toward true, lasting happiness.
Pastor, author and relationship guru  Ed Young  has an interesting outlook in his book “Outrageous, Contagious Joy: Five Big Questions to Help You Discover One Great Life”. Instead of uncovering ways to improve your life like saving money, working out or eating right (which many self-help books address), Ed Young opts for a different strategy in the 352 pages of his book. He encourages you to ask questions first.
What I find to be one of the more interesting questions, as listed on his book description on his website, is “Does God want you to be happy?” Whether you believe in any kind of higher power whether it’s the religious notion of God, or “the universe as one” or anything really, it would seem intuitive that a higher power would want us to succeed, flourish and be happy. To think that we should feel guilty, ashamed or that we should not take full advantage of the happiness that our lives can bring us seems quite foolish. However, the truth is, many people carry around this false guilt all through out their lives. They punish themselves with their addiction to negativity and emotional chaos. Breaking down assumptions and preconceived notions of what this life is “all about” is something Young does in “Outrageous, Contagious Joy” which outlines the search for real happiness. Some of the other questions he asks his readers are “Why are you here?” and “What are you working for?”

Ed Young of Grapevine, Texas is a pastor at Fellowship Church. He is also a New York Times best selling author with 14 books under his belt, including Sexperiment, The Marriage Mirror and Kid CEO. His charismatic presence has led to speak at conferences around the world about relationships, sex and marriage, happiness and life. Young, a non-typical pastor, is heavily praised and considered hip and progressive for his relaxed and youthful style of communication.
Asking yourself important questions can force you to take a hard look at the path of life you are on. It’s possible that your current process is holding you back from being truly happy. For example, you want to spend more time with your wife and kids, but you’re also staying late every day at work in the hopes of a promotion. You want to satisfy your wife and kids with more money to spend on groceries and   but you’re sacrificing quality time with them by not coming home for dinner each night. Is it possible that the time spent with your loved ones is more important than being able to reward them with more of their favorite food items or that trip to Seaworld? Prioritizing your basic needs and wants is a must if you are searching for.  Often times, the solution is simpler than it seems, but you need to get away from your daily patterns and slip into deconstruction mode to see it more clearly. 

Authored By:  Bryan Ferguson Bryan has worked with several celebrity entertainment blogs and sources, making him an expert on entertainment news. He also enjoys lacrosse and recently learned how to swim.

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Finding the balance of spontaneity with intuition helps us make choices that benefit our lives. Notice when you are feeling impulsive or spontaneous and then ask yourself, “Will this really benefit me?”  The answer comes in the form of a verbal response or simply an instinctual feeling. Try to pay attention to your feeling; that is your intuition guiding you to make the right choices. It is important to remember that making spontaneous decisions doesn’t necessarily mean being hasty. Acting with energy and spontaneity is a wonderful way to live our lives, as it means we are being in the moment. However, it can lead us to make decisions that may not be the best for us  and may lead to stress, frustration, anger, anxiety, depression.  I know my that SOAR! with Resilience™ Book can help with these issues and challenges.

A must read for anyone struggling to take their personal or professional life to a higher level of success and satisfaction.
 A high level of energy may leave you feeling stimulated and not completely aware of the effects of the choices you make.  This may be a good time to work on balancing your spontaneity with intuition.Taking a moment or two to think about the effects of our choices, we are still acting on the spur-of-the-moment, but we also act using our intuition as a guide. This prevents us from making decisions we may later regret. We respect and pay attention to both our desire for the unstructured and our natural instincts.   Be attuned to your intuition! Balancing spontaneity with intuition is your best manifestor.Need help with this? You may contact me  516 623 4353

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