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Confidence helps us to interact more decisively, in healthier ways in our relationships and helps keep us from overreacting.  Take time to affirm your value and worth as a person to help you feel stronger and better about yourself. Since others only treat you the way you allow them to, developing a stronger sense of self-esteem and confidence could positively affect the quality of your relationships. If you can understand that feelings of security originate within you, you can focus on strengthening your center and affirming that you are whole and complete–regardless of what happens outside of you.
Below are links on the subject from my previous blog posts.

Call me for a free consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

How do you feel when an understanding friend quietly listens to you with love and sincere interest? This may be the polarity of how it felt when you were really upset about something, began to share, and the “listener” shut you off or interrupted to give you suggestions.  A person who listens with loving interest […]

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Active listening is a gift of time and love. Active listening is actually reflecting back the content or emotions of what is being said., and truly listening with interested silence when not doing that.

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Emphasizing the positive traits in ourselves and others encourages the continuing development of our skills, abilities, and attributes and a successful relationship! Positive reinforcement is usually much more effective and inspiring than trying to force improvements by dwelling on the negative, which do not work anyway. By consciously emphasizing the positive traits and abilities that […]

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“Hope Springs” is an important relationship movie, not a “chick flick”.  That’s this gal’s opinion…  The actors take their time through the first half and we get it- the marriage isn’t working and hasn’t worked in many years.  Meryl Streep’s  role is very different from any   I’ve seen her in  previously and she does this […]

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How do you feel when an understanding friend quietly listens to you with love and sincere interest? This may be the polarity of how it felt when you were really upset about something, began to share, and the “listener” shut you off or interrupted to give you suggestions.  A person who listens with loving interest and respect helps us process our emotions.  When another accepts our emotions (without judgment) it has the effect of giving us permission to accept our own emotions and feeling empowered to process and resolve the issue.

Active listening is a gift of time and love.  Active listening is actually reflecting back the content or emotions of what is being said., and truly listening with interested silence when not doing that.  This applies to children and teens too!  Read more here   https://wordpress.com/post/balanceandpowerblog.com/3541

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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

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Read more here  https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/07/01/be-assertive-say-no-effectively/

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Your employees, managers and admin staff need to communicate effectively to avoid conflict and for optimal productivity.  Perhaps your organization can benefit with having a Sensitivity Training, Communicating Effectively in the Workplace, or Anger Management and Bullying Prevention in the Workplace.  Each training is customized and may be presented on your site or conference rooms in my Uniondale office.  Call for a  consult! http://www.balanceandpower.com  516 623 4353

https://balanceandpowerblog.com/2017/12/02/communicating-effectively-in-the-workplace/

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NAPW Bayside Chapter Networking Breakfast Meeting:
Bullying Awareness (More Info)

Speaker: Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.Ed, CEO, Balance & Power Inc.

NAPW: Keep your power network strong! Connect to an exclusive online community of dynamic, intelligent, accomplished women from varying backgrounds and fields to enhance your business and career success.

Bullying and cyber-bullying can leave anyone feeling hurt, angry, depressed or overwhelmed. Bullying is an aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or relational. Learn about why some (kids and adults) bully and why others are bullied, and how to develop the resilience and self-confidence to succeed in life.

The most damaging aspect of bullying is its repetition. Bullies are often relentless, bullying over and over again for long periods of time. Cyber-bullying can be even more painful because it can be witnessed by many more people and continue around the clock.
More about Bullying Awareness

When: Saturday, October 21, 2017 10:15am TO 11:55am

Location: Bayside Diner, 207-07 Northern Blvd., Bayside, NY 11361

Cost: RSVP from NAPW members. Non-members welcome.

Need help with this and related challenges? 

FREE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  http://www.balanceandpower.com 

More NAPW Info

PLEASE RSVP VIA E-MAIL
Celestina A. Akbar, MPA, President of Bayside Chapter.
Celestinaakbar@gmail.com

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Yes, when you feel bullied or “unfairly” attacked emotionally – verbally it is usually difficult to respond without anger or to walk away and release. Reacting with anger adds fuel to the fire and it’s best to leave and release – even if it’s temporary it interrupts the stress-adrenaline -cortisol cycle and hopefully can allow you to act responsibly and let go instead of actions that you may very well regret.  It can be helpful to realize the other’s thoughts-words-actions may have nothing to do with you! even though it seems that way.

When you leave the scent taking a few deep breaths, doing tapping EFT, taking a walk are all activities that help to feel better and regain personal energy balance.

I’ve helped many clients with this challenge in my Westbury, NY office and Skype as well as larger groups onsite and webinars.

Call me for a FREE consult: 516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

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Interview with Eileen

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CBC interviews Eileen about Anger Management and her new workshops for young people.
It’s now posted on my Media Page: http://www.balanceandpower.com/media.php 

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Bullying rates remain higher for children with disabilities, even as they mature.  

Studies point out the necessity for special education programs to teach appropriate response skills to children with disabilities.  I facilitate workshops and trainings for children, families, educators and parents with this topic as well as bullying prevention and anger management

Training Programs for Adults, Staff Development on site and my Uniondale, NY

    • Anger Management and Stress Release
    • Conflict Resolution and Anger Management: Understanding that bullies usually have low self-esteem and how it is best not to give up our power to these people.
    • Sensitivity Training/Character Education: Curriculum for Teaching Respect, Ethics And Tolerance. Promoting the understanding that self-esteem is not just about feeling good, but more importantly, it is about doing the right thing.
    • Effective Communication: Learn about different styles of communication, and how to be a good communicator. Take the frustration out of communication!
    • Stress Reduction: Includes relaxation techniques, relaxation breathing, positive visualization and guided imagery.
      More about Stress Reduction

 


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Bullying and cyber-bullying can leave anyone feeling hurt, angry, depressed or overwhelmed. Bullying is an aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or relational. Learn about why some kids bully and why others are bullied, and how to develop the resilience and self-confidence to succeed in life.

The most damaging aspect of bullying is its repetition. Bullies are often relentless, bullying over and over again for long periods of time. Cyber-bullying can be even more painful because it can be witnessed by many more people and continue around the clock.

    • Bullying/Cyber-Bullying Prevention Support Groups: Anti-bullying tactics and Techniques to stay positive, reduce stress and anger, stay focused and build self-esteem!

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Strategies for Conflict Resolution/Intervention and Bullying Prevention

Professional to professional, in the workplace, as well as educational facilities. Professional to student; and student to student. Strategies are based on psycho-educational models.

Learn About and Participate in EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques are a great tool for emotional release and stress management. Find out more about EFT: EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques.

The content, length and fees of each program are customized to meet your needs.

SOAR! with Resilience® Training Manual or Balance & Power Inc eBooks accompany the programs and may be purchased at a group discounted fee.

Contact Eileen Complimentary Phone Consult:  www.balanceandpower.com  

 516 623 4353

 

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Don Miguel Ruiz, author “The Four Agreements”

My client is has been having challenges with his 23 year old son, and thought they were over a few humps.  When the young man wasn’t joining Mom and Dad at the dinner table for a meal cooked with love- Dad went upstairs, knocked on the door- and walked in (without waiting for an “OK “ or who is it?”).

He was seated on the floor, crosslegged eating from his plate. Dad, historically known to have a quick temper, simply said (in a “normal” voice, according to him) “you don’t have to eat dinner like that – come down and join us”.  Son screamed out “Stop being angry and yelling Dad”.  Dad left, finding Mom eavesdropping in the hall. They went downstairs and she agreed with son and said he was angry and yelling. They didn’t discuss it further.

Upon relating this to me the next day at our session, Dad was very upset and we explored deeper.  Firstly, no waiting for knock response may have gotten Son angry – even though he may have over reacted.  Dad says he always enters this way…

Several additional issues here:

Dad was extremely upset that he was “accused” of losing his temper, screaming and angry when he didn’t think that he was behaving that way and his voice was within a good range.

How come son “over reacted”?

Mom eavesdropping – over protectiveness is another dynamic.

If all three of them  had gone with “Don’t take anything personally, it would have played out differently.

I then asked Dad client if Son had a history of being bullied or ordered around, given unpleasant directives (not at home)…perhaps triggering his response.  Maybe on the playground 3rd grade or?. . This got Dad thinking about how Son had 2 great semesters at college and then was miserable and had to be picked up.  There seemed to be an issue about his roomates – which he wouldn’t discuss, and wouldn’t allow parents in his room…

No answers – yet a really prime example of things may not be as you perceive them – so it’s best not to take anything personally – and often there may be deep rooted problems impacting current behavior that need to be addressed for optimal resilience and thriving.

FREE phone consult: Eileen Lichtenstein, Certified Anger Management Specialist

516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com

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