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Resilience defined in Webster’s New World Dictionary © 1982:

1. “springing back into shape, position, etc. after being stretched, bent or compressed.”
2. “recovering strength, spirits, etc. quickly.”

Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key to being happy and successful in all areas of life. Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive. Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times. It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

So, you may be asking yourself, how does one maintain emotional-spiritual equilibrium and resiliency when things can be unpredictable and often in crisis mode? It’s not easy, and takes some work. It’s easy to create positive patterns and habits when life is going smoothly. It can be quite challenging while being swept away by negative forces. A good mentor/coach and practice is important, and the practice will create a “spill-over” effect into life situations.

Many people, including myself, have learned how to be more resilient. There are skill sets of meditation, relaxation breathing, visualization and “tapping” that all add into helping an individual maintain focus and be positive. Exercising, eating healthfully and having healthy relationships are naturally fortifying. Most people are not born resilient, but do have the capacity to learn how to be this way
You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar.

You are the only one who can control your attitude. By focusing on what is strong and enduring and seeing your potential, you can take calculated risks and overcome challenges. It takes an open, creative mind free from anxiety to pick up on opportunities. They are out there ready to be accessed by your positive and resilient radar. Being resilient in body, mind and spirit is key to being happy and successful in all areas of life. Emotionally, it’s the opposite of being “stuck in a rut” and it’s about being positive. Physically, it can translate to strength and flexibility. Spiritually it can indicate faith with the ability to maintain hope in tumultuous times. It’s about staying centered and grounded and making “right” choices.

 

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Compromise can be within yourself – adapting to circumstance, perhaps lowering expectations and being more flexible- within yourself-  which will positively affect your mood and subsequently better your attitude and communications with others.  It’s truly a flow effect and good funnel!  Realizing things may not go according to plan or time is different is the first step.  Being in the moment and mindful of your emotions as well as circumstances is always helpful in problem solving and challenges.

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We can  find joy in the chores and tasks we don’t especially like – sometimes all we need is a change of attitude, a different approach, a little music, or some help from friends or family, and the tasks or responsibilities that we perceive as tedious ie: washing dishes, fixing the car, cleaning a closet, can become a source of satisfaction.

Most of us tend to put off what it is that we don’t want to do. Yet, one of the best approaches to an unpleasant task or dull chore is to dive right in and be fully mindful of what it is that you are doing.

Playing your favorite music, dancing while you work, or creating a mental list of everything you are grateful for are just a few ways to turn an unexciting activity into a fun event. Look for joy in doing your mundane activities, and they’ll become a source of enjoyment rather than a tolerable duty.
Need help in getting started? If you are procrastinating, it is based on one or more of the fears below.   EFTtapping can help light the fire and transform procrastination into action!
~fear of failure
~fear of being judged
~fear of success
~fear of being controlled
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Anger is a natural human emotion.  “Is my anger working for me?” is a question you can ask yourself.  When anger is mild and infrequent,  is expressed assertively (directly to the problem person, in a non-accusatory manner) and without aggression, and the individual is able to “let it go” quickly, then anger may serve the role of simply highlighting your annoyance and it can lead to problem resolution.

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However, if your anger is moderate to intense, experienced frequently, endures to the point where you are holding a grudge and are planning to get even, and is expressed in aggressive verbal and physical actions, then there is cause for alarm. You are likely at risk for the negative relationship, health and sometimes legal repercussions related to inappropriate anger expression.  Professional help is indicated.

A by-product of an unacceptably angry person is low self-esteem and often shame.
Anger management programs work to address managing anger as well as building self-confidence.  Recently there have been six large-scale analyses of adult anger management programs that show this!  If you,  a loved one or colleague has a serious anger problem and wishes to gain control over the emotion, I invite you Contact me for a 15-minute consult: 516 623 4353   www.balanceandpower.com 

My sessions are in Uniondale, NY, Skype and on your site.

I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist by NAMA (National Anger Management Association), life-career coach and EFT practitioner.

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Eileen Lichtenstein Interview with All Business Media FM in Studio 2 

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Events Don’t Create Emotions — Your Beliefs Do

Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find more positive alternatives. Perhaps your thoughts go like this: Meetings at work make you bored. Receiving criticism makes you frustrated. Traffic makes you angry. Talking to people you don’t know at a social or business event makes you nervous.

If you want to change your feelings about a situation, you don’t actually have to change the situation itself (which isn’t always possible), or try to avoid it entirely (which can be detrimental).  Instead, you simply have to change your beliefs about it.

How to Reframe for Resilience

So how do you go about changing your beliefs/perspective about something?

Ask yourself: In what context could this be useful?  What else could this mean?

Want to know more about this and how to have optimal happiness and productivity?  Consult: 516 623 4353       www.balanceandpower.com

 

 

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“The silent treatment” is the most common form of withholding and encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings, including an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

When you are feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space and get some help…

Take time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.   If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. ~ and can take time.

Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking in safe places.  Praise those you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become.    

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Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

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