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Affirmations to Release Shame – Fear – Negativity – Stress – Anger and to EMPOWER

I see life as a process ever unfolding
I release my fear and resistance to change as appropriate
I release and forgive everyone who didn’t support my changes
I release and heal all the changes that caused me pain
I forgive myself for making changes that didn’t work
I forgive myself for not making changes that would have worked
I dissolve all past agreements that no longer serve me
I create new agreements that serve my new directions
I release all distress and worry
I release all negative thoughts and feelings
I release all fear and anxiety
I release all stress and tension
I am flexible and easygoing
I am in a state of ease and flow
I am relaxed and calm
I am serene and peaceful

I control my responses to stressful situations

I dissolve negative responses to stressful situations
I respond to stressful situations in healthy and healing ways
I replace stress with calming thoughts
I replace stress with peaceful feelings
I replace stress with healthy habits
I am at peace whether or not I am in control
I am tranquil whether or not I know the future
I am calm whether or not things are going my way
I face every situation clear, free and unafraid
I am now willing to move beyond my past
I release and forgive who I have been in the past
I release and forgive each person for who they have been in my past
I grieve for my past as appropriate
I am safe and protected when I acknowledge all things in my life
I process my anger in healthy and healing ways
I release my depression quickly in grace
I move to acceptance in powerful new ways
I release my past and live in my present
I release and forgive everyone who created chaos in my life
I forgive myself for creating chaos
I have faith in my future and  myself
I move boldly forward with complete trust and faith
I dissolve all blocks to communicating clearly
I speak up for myself at the right times about the right things
I release and forgive everyone who put me down when I spoke up
I increase in assertiveness daily
I say what I mean and I mean what I say

I dissolve my aggressive characteristics as appropriate
I increase in effective listening daily
I am open and honest about my feelings and express them well
I recognize and acknowledge when I am feeling anger
I dissolve all confusion around what I want and need
I am honest about what I want and need and I ask for it simply and clearly
I forgive everyone  (to some extent if not completely) who didn’t meet my needs
I take responsibility for my own needs
I make meaningful agreements and I keep them
I set appropriate limits and boundaries and I keep them
I put my needs first as appropriate
I ask for what I want and need simply and clearly
I balance my needs with the needs of others in perfect ways
I make meaningful agreements and I keep them
I accept myself completely without qualifiers
I have a solid sense of self-identity
I find deep inner peace with myself as I am
All my false images of myself from the past are dissolved
I love and accept all parts of myself
I love and accept all of my thoughts and feelings
I have positive self-esteem apart from others thoughts and criticisms
I love and approve myself without pleasing others
I accept, honor and value myself completely as I am, though I recognize areas for improvement.

I maintain my self-confidence in all times and places

I forgive myself for any and all past mistakes
I dissolve all fear around making mistakes
My self-confidence is in who I am not what I do
I move forward, feeling self-confidence every step of the way
I open my heart to allow love in at all times
I reclaim my childlike ability to love without fear
I dissolve all guard and shields I have around my heart
I surround myself with people with open, loving hearts
I accept myself completely as an imperfect person
I recognize criticism for what it is and I acknowledge it
Being criticized and feeling attacked and inadequate are separate for me now
I am assertive and clear when I handle criticism
I remain calm, centered and balanced while I handle criticism

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There is no reason to let a difficult person or situation have power over your state of being. Sometimes we encounter those individuals who, for whatever reason, can be difficult to deal with.  The behavior/words of difficult people can even make you feel like losing your temper.  Keeping your cool and staying calm is important, especially if/when you are ready to confront them.

Avoiding a difficult person is not always in your best interest, especially if you live or work together, this can become a source of stress and anxiety. In these situations, it is best to kindly address the problem while not letting their actions or mood affect you. You may want to think about what you want to say to a difficult person before you actually talk to them to express your feelings directly, ie: tell the person how their actions/words make you feel (without taking on the role of a victim) and when possible encourage them toward a more positive course of action. Another approach for dealing with a difficult individual is to gain a deeper understanding of who that person is by asking them why they do or say certain things, and perhaps guide them to a shift in perspective.

Often a lot can be accomplished when you take the time to listen actively and perhaps offer up alternative perspectives.  Try to approach the conversation objectively without being judgmental or defensive. If the person is open to the idea, try coming to an agreement. If approaching them fails, let it go and move on. When this is impossible to do it’s important to find help and get support.

Relationship coaching is intended to help people in any relationship such as married couples, unmarried couples, family members or co-workers. A relationship is always, like our lives, in a state of movement and change. A relationship coach helps you maximize that change in a positive way, places you more in control of it and of how you feel. Looking at events and what a person says in a different way, creating a new perspective or re-framing can help you reconnect with the positive aspects in a relationship and empower you to let go of the old patterns and perhaps, the relationship.

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DeStress Tips III by Eileen Lichtenstein, CEO www.balanceandpower.com 

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DeStress Tip: Honor your boundaries and say no~ ow.ly/xgBS5

DeStress Tip: Hold Hope ow.ly/xgBaV fb.me/346z3XGXc

DeStress Tip: Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success! ow.ly/xgCsZ fb.me/2d1K8H98k

DeStress Tip: Be fearless!~! ow.ly/xgBmd fb.me/31nXwCSsV

DeStress Tip: Disconnect from technology, from work related stuff for an hour, a half day, weekend, week… fb.me/6TIlRfRqR

DeStress Tip: Stop second guessing! ow.ly/xgAwD fb.me/2OBt465UV

DeStress Tip: See the whole chessboard when u play chess! ie: Don’t lose your temp[er on the road!~… fb.me/455zqB7Nu

DeStress Tip: “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that… fb.me/2UDm0FAhQ

DeStress Tip: Get in front of a mirror and practice smiling. While working your grin, take a minute to… fb.me/3C1AWxonO

DeStress Tip: Stop negative self talk. Switch the thoughts of negativity to positive mantras, such as “I am a strong woman (man)!”

DeStress Tip: Write down five things that you are proud about and stick the list in your wallet to pull out to… fb.me/3h1nJWuiQ

DeStress Tip: Emotional eating-stress a vicious cycle. You have the power to stop it! ow.ly/xf4Pc fb.me/3sk80z8Oj

DeStress Tip: Listen well instead of reacting in anger. ow.ly/xf4uBfb.me/1b10oe99r

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DeStress Tip: Make your Goals Realistic & Reachable! ow.ly/wXQAXfb.me/3tNCZ4vY1

DeStress Tip: Exercise! Ditching exercise for a more sedentary way of life can have an overall negative effect on… fb.me/3imdJ7YUT

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De-Stress Tip: Stop emotional eating! Feel confident, healthy & in control. 🙂ow.ly/wXPWj fb.me/18dYfHsOH

DeStress Tip: If you are able to take a step back and laugh at yourself and the absurdity of life every now and then, things won’t seem…

DeStress Tip: Regardless of the outcome, following through boosts confidence and reassures us that when all is… fb.me/3ILcRMkSn

DeStress Tip: We need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit!…

DeStress Tip: Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy.

DeStress Tip: Laugh More!: A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult-… fb.me/2SuM58kiI

DeStress Tip: Acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel… fb.me/3ShSe4ZAe

DeStress Tip: Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute. fb.me/1tKKZilEF

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DeStress Tip:  8 Tips for Feeling Happier wp.me/poyvn-PN

DeStress Tip: Self-love is the one most important thing to create your best life. ow.ly/wHgyM fb.me/2nJvGczED

DeStress Tip: Focus is a skill you can develop. Do you know you can rewire negative patterns??
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DeStress Tip: 10 Tips to Stop Self-Sabotage fb.me/1iORMVSRd

DeStress Tip: Transition = Opportunities ow.ly/ws5oa

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DeStress Tip: A great appreciation of nature and our connection to it enhances our spirit and helps to connect us… fb.me/3rBKOuWdn

DeStress Tip: Meditating can help develop the art of patience.

DeStress Tip: Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed rather than jumping in with your… fb.me/1bz1T3ZuL

DeStress Tip: Take time to access what you have in front of you, take a break and re-evaluate. ow.ly/wdrSX

DeStress Tip:  Stop Smoking with EFT! ow.ly/wdt0u

DeStress Tip: Studies show that expressing anger only aggravates it.

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by Eileen Lichtenstein


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 Myth #1:

Anger is inheritedResearch has indicated that people are not born with set, specific ways of expressing anger.  These studies show that because the expression of anger is learned behavior, more appropriate ways of expressing anger can be learned.

Myth #2:  Anger Automatically Leads to Aggression
It is a misconception that athe only way to express anger is through aggression.  Effective anger management involves controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hostile “self-talk”, challenging irrational beliefs and implementing a variety of behavioral strategies.Myth #3: People Must Be Aggressive to Get What They Want
Many people confuse assertiveness with aggression.  The goal of aggression is to dominate, intimidate, harm or injure another person- to win at any cost.  Conversely, the goal of assertiveness is to express feelings of anger in a way that is respectful of other people.Myth #4  Venting Anger Is Always Desirable
Anger is learned and can easily become a routine, predictable response, an inappropriate pattern, to a variety of situations,  resulting in negative consequences.  Venting anger in an aggressive way reinforces aggressive behavior.To break the anger habit, an awareness must be developed of the events, circumstances and behaviors that “trigger” your anger.  In addition to becoming aware of anger, you need to learn and develop strategies to manage it.I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist with offices in Long Island, NY and also have sessions via Video SKYPE and telephone.
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I just got a preview look at the Tapping
Insiders Club 2.0 from Nick and Jessica Ortner
and I have to say: WOW! 

If you haven’t heard about the club (it’s been
all the buzz!), it’s an incredible resource
designed to bring you information on a huge
variety of topics regarding tapping.  

More importantly, it’s designed to get you results
in your life. 

There is a TON of content in the club, in both
video and audio format.  It ranges from in-depth
hour long interviews, to shorter 20-30 minute
interview, to 5-7 minute tap along videos.  

They’ve lowered the regular price for their
2.0 celebration and I don’t know how
long that will last!

Check it out here now:
 http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Whatever challenges or obstacles you’re facing,
I know the answer is in one of the resources
inside the club.  

And if it’s not, you can have your questions
answered in the “Ask the Experts” section or
you can request an interview topic or video
tap along topic! 

There are so many exciting features that I can’t
get into them all in one short email, so take a
look for yourself:
 http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Take care,

Eileen Lichtenstein

P.S. Here’s a list of the topics already inside
the club.  I know it’s long! 

Beginners Corner Intro – Learn the Basics and get Tapping Right Away!
Common Beginner Mistakes
How to Know What To Say
The Power of Questions  

Understanding the Choices Method
Clearing Your Resistance to Tapping
Simple vs. Complex
Speaking Your Truth
Using Tapping 

The Most Effective Strategies for Weight Loss and Tapping
Quickly Eliminate Cravings Tap Along
Eye-popping case studies on Tapping and TMJ Disorder
Tapping for Cancer Support – A Healing Journey
Back Pain Tapping- Find Relief Fast

Using Tapping For Cold Hands and Feet
Tapping for Muscle Cramps – Sleep at Last!
Find Relief from Arthritis Pain with Tapping Now

Click her to learn more now: 

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Here’s More!

An Inside Look at Using Tapping To Quit Smoking
Quick Tips for Using Tapping to Improve Your Vision
Knee Pain and Tapping – Understanding the Messages from your body

Overcoming Insomnia Video Tap Along
OCD symptoms and Tapping
Using Tapping for PTSD – A Hopeful Look at the Possibilitie
Tapping for Parents with children with ADD/ADHD

Tapping for Insomnia – A Fresh Start
Using Tapping To Control Panic Attacks – Finding Peace Within
Your child with ADD/ADHD and Tapping

Tapping for Spouses of Veterans – A Forgotten Group Gets Help
Working with Developmentally Delayed Adults – Creative Solutions
Healing the Addicted Heart
Simple Energy Techniques for Addictions 

Click her to learn more now: 

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Even More!
Healing Mother Issues with Tapping – An Emotional Journey Of Healing
The Vital Importance of Healing Mother Abandonment Issues
Tapping for Expecting Mothers – A New Paradigm Shift
Using Tapping With Children

Instantly Improve Challenges Faced by Step-Parents
Using Tapping To Help Your Child Fall Asleep – Peace At Last!
The Importance of Clearing Previous Birth Traumas

Using Tapping for Anger – Gaining Emotional Control
The Good Side of Anger Tap Along
Tapping for Gratitude

Using Tapping for Holiday Stress
Using Tapping to Attract Abundance

Click her to learn more now:
 http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Find a topic that would help you yet? :)

The Power of Using Tapping To End Procrastination
Raise your Self-Esteem with EFT
How Your Identity Impacts Your Life

Using Tapping to Quickly Clear Clutter
Feeling Safe To Change
Personal Peace Procedure

Attracting Money Tap Along
Release the Fear of Failure Tap Along
The Easiest Way to Tap Away Marketing Fears
Overcome your Fear of Success with Tapping

Click her to learn more now: 

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

Last bit! 

Tapping and Corporate Success
Tapping to Find Peace While Changing Jobs
Tapping for More Clients In Your Business

Clearing Blocks Around Money – Tap Along Sessio
Understanding the Money Blocks Holding You Back
Reaching Your Goals Tap A Long – Find a Clear Path To Your Dreams 

And there’s footage never before seen footage from
the film “Try It On Everything”, Ask the Expert interviews, teleclasses and much more!

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4315133

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