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Mindfulness is defined as paying attention and being fully in the moment. Multi-tasking cannot be included in this definition, as most people cannot fully focus on more than one thing at a time. The influence of technology in our fast paced world has often caused the problem of lack of focus on a particular task. This has translated into the modern workplace, especially those who are not used to the fastest paced technology. Those used to it, mostly millennials, often inadvertently miss important details. In our modern often chaotic world, frustration levels rise quickly, giving way to stress and anger. Impatience and frustration often go hand-in-hand. A workplace culture of mindfulness, geared to all generations and cultures can be beneficial to all.
Another tool that is helpful in focusing as well as to reduce stress and anger is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), also known as tapping. It is recognized in the field of Energy Psychology and has become globally popular. The physical tapping on meridian points releases cortisol, a stress hormone and sends serotonin – a feel good hormone – to the section of the brain dealing with emotions, the amygdala. Most of us are not born with the recommended amount of serotonin for optimal functioning and it may be found as an ingredient in some anti-depressants.
Here are a few additional tips to help focus in the workplace:
- Stay on task by not reading emails throughout the day; have two specific times to check and designate some to be addressed at a future time
- Keep cell phone sound off
- Take frequent stretch breaks, being “mindful of physical toll of computer and phones.
- Keep a “worry list” to address late afternoon each day for ten minutes.
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Posted in affirmative self talk, anger, empowering affirmations, empowerment, self esteem, stress management, stress reduction, stress resilience, Uncategorized, tagged anger, empowering affirmations, stress management, stress reduction on December 23, 2016| 2 Comments »
Affirmations have been shown to improve education, health and relationship outcomes, with benefits that sometimes persist for months and years. Here are some I’ve created; what are yours?
I am passionate about my goals.
My passion drives me forward to live the life of my dreams.
I know what I want in life and I set goals to get me there. I know that each goal I achieve brings me in union with what I desire.
Meeting a goal, no matter how big or small, strengthens my confidence and self-esteem.
Setting and achieving goals is a never-ending circle of positivity that fuels my passion even more.
My passion enables my success. I use tools to ignite and refuel my passion on a daily basis, even when I face challenges that try to smother it.
My tools include affirmations to transform negative thoughts into positive ones, meditation to relax and rejuvenate my energy, and notes and pictures to inspire and remind me of my goals.
Today, I choose to feel inspired by my passions and let the excitement propel me forward to achieve my goals, regardless of any challenges that may arise
People notice their anger levels lowering when feelings of empowerment and self esteem rise. It feels great knowing you are “in charge” of your response; the opposite of feeling “overwhelmed” or highly stressed, which contributes to high levels of frustration and can easily lead to anger. Anger is a natural human emotion – we all get angry- and that’s okay- it’s about coping with it before it becomes inappropriate. Learning to how to be more flexible in how we deal with the frustrations and stresses of our lives has many advantages. Stress and anger are not good to our immune system and can cause conditions and disease. Effective relationships are based on good communication without inappropriate anger coming through; a feeling of empowerment from the communicator is necessary for that to occur.
We’ve all heard people say “My friends tell me I am just too hard on myself”, ”I’m such a loser”, or “I’m so stupid to make these mistakes.” This negative self-talk can and needs to be turned around to eradicate feelings of shame, which may stem from childhood- perhaps a parent, teacher or peers saying these negative statements. An important tool in dealing with angry feelings and growing feelings of empowerment is that of eliminating that negative conversation with yourself. An alternate response when someone “puts you down” is not to take it personally – difficult to do and very attainable. It takes conscious effort and practice. Don Miguel Ruiz discusses this strategy in his self-help book “The Four Agreements”.
Holding a grudge, against another or yourself, is letting the offender (or your “dark side”) live rent free in your head. Making the decision to “let go” (while still creating a protective shield/filter for ourselves) is often a process of forgiveness—or at least acceptance—and is a major step toward anger control, increased self-esteem and empowerment.
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One common denominator among my anger management clients is impatience.
Impatience is more prevelant these days as pace is so fast and time seems to be wasted if things do not happen quickly-smoothly. Waiting on line, waiting for anything-anyone is more of a chore than ever before. Everone’s frustration tipping point is
individual – and when levels are too high topples over into anger-violence or suppression-depression. This season – holidays – is even more important than ever to be mindful of being tolerant and patient. Good luck!!
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