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The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment.  How to do it most effectively?

study in the Journal of Consumer Research by Professor Patrick and Henrik Hagtvedt found that saying “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t” allowed participants to extract themselves from unwanted commitments.  While “I can’t” sounds like an excuse that’s up for debate, “I don’t” implies you’ve established certain rules for yourself, suggesting conviction and stability and are more effective in getting your point across.

There are a few other ways you can get more comfortable with saying no.

It’s a lot easier to be assertive with a stranger selling you something than it is when, say, your pleading co-worker asks for a ride to the airport. Get comfortable with your assertiveness when it’s easy so you’ll be prepared when there’s more pressure.

 It’s easier to say no when you know exactly how to say it, so come up with a few anchor phrases for different situations. “No, I don’t buy from solicitors” for door-to-door salespeople, for example. “No, I don’t go out during the week” for co-workers who want to go on a drinking binge on a Monday night.

When you have these phrases ready, you don’t have to waste time wavering over an excuse. And you start to develop a reflexive behavior of saying no.

Still, sometimes we’re afraid to say no because we fear missing out. We want to take on new opportunities and adventures, so we say yes to everything instead.  But all of those yeses can lead to burnout.

It can help to understand your own long-term goals This way, you can say yes to opportunities that most reflect your values. Second, try to build free time in your schedule so there’s room for new, interesting opportunities you might otherwise overlook.

Some worry that your no might seem threatening.  Research from Columbia University found that our perceptions of our own assertiveness are often unreliable. In mock negotiations, people who thought they were adequately assertive or even over-assertive were seen by others as under-assertive. So if you feel confrontational, there’s a good chance the other party doesn’t see you that way. It’s about operating at the most optimal level.  For most of us, that means living a happier and less stressful life, which is easier to do from the driver’s seat.

Being assertive is a core communication skill. Being assertive means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self-esteem and earn others’ respect.  
Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills.  Do you need help learning assertive behavior and communication? 
FREE CONSULT: 516 623 4353  one to one, group sessions in Westbury, NY. and Skype
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Mindfulness is defined as paying attention and being fully in the moment.  Multi-tasking cannot be included in this definition, as most people cannot fully focus on more than one thing at a time.  The influence of technology in our fast paced world has often caused the problem of lack of focus on a particular task.  This has translated into the modern workplace, especially those who are not used to the fastest paced technology. Those used to it, mostly millennials, often inadvertently miss important details. In our modern often chaotic world, frustration levels rise quickly, giving way to stress and anger.  Impatience and frustration often go hand-in-hand.  A workplace culture of mindfulness, geared to all generations and cultures can be beneficial to all.

Another tool that is helpful in focusing as well as to reduce stress and anger is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), also known as tapping.  It is recognized in the field of Energy Psychology and has become globally popular.  The physical tapping on meridian points releases cortisol, a stress hormone and sends serotonin – a feel good hormone – to the section of the brain dealing with emotions, the amygdala. Most of us are not born with the recommended amount of serotonin for optimal functioning and it may be found as an ingredient in some anti-depressants.

Here are a few additional tips to help focus in the workplace:

  • Stay on task by not reading emails throughout the day; have two specific times to check and designate some to be addressed at a future time
  • Keep cell phone sound off
  • Take frequent stretch breaks, being “mindful of physical toll of computer and phones.
  • Keep a “worry list” to address late afternoon each day for ten minutes.

FREE CONSULT: www.balanceandpower.com  516 623 4353

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I’m in a newly formed collaborative with 3 colleagues in the wellness field for facilitation of corporate/organizational wellness seminars and workshops, each of us experts in our field:

Stress/Anger Management and Reduction

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed.www.balanceandpower.com

Chiropractic and Applied Kinesiology
Dr. Bruce Kesten  www.kestenchiro.com

Acupuncture, Women’s Health and Chinese Medicinal Herbs
Sharon McDermott, L.Ac www.healthyhealingli.com

Dietician
Prevention and Treatment of Disease through Diet and Nutrition: Steve Della Croce MS, RD, CDN   www.stevedellacroce.com

We’ll have more information soon – feel free to contact me with inquiries
516 623 4353 eileen@balanceandpower.com

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How to Heal the Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Bodies Naturally

When: Thursdays, 4 Nights: April 7th through May 5th, 2016

[No class on 4/28/16] 7:30 PM-9:00 PMWhere: Weber Middle School, 52 Campus Dr, Port Washington, NY 11050

 A very talented holistic network presents the following fascinating and important holistic health topics:

Healing suppressed wounds through Inner Child Work and Past Life Regression, How to Lift Mood with Food, Anger Management and It’s Ability to Improve Health, Emotional Freedom Technique, with a special emphasis on Weight Loss, Detoxing Naturally and Safely, Alleviating Seasonal Allergies with Homeopathy, Dream Therapy, Somatic Therapy for Deep and Profound Healing, the Importance of Whole Food Nutrition for the Brain and Body, How to Determine What Your Life’s Purpose is, and more!!

Eileen Lichtenstein on April 7th:
Anger Management and Communication Styles
Certified Anger Management Specialist, CEO, Balance & Power, Inc. www.balanceandpower.com/events.php 

  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier
  • The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness and intention to change patterns.

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. Being happier is a wonderful by-product of communicating effectively!

Learn about distinctions among communication styles and behavior so that you can communicate more effectively at work and at home, be listened to, and respected. Learn how not to “take things personally” and reduce stress / frustration! Stress release techniques to help you cope with “difficult” people are included in this interactive workshop.

Your communication, anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation. Inner strength and being centered are keys to life and business success, and Eileen Lichtenstein has specialized for over 20 years in personal development coaching and training, including stress and anger reduction/ management, relationship and leadership building, sensitivity training, communicating effectively and career issues.

 a very talented holistic network presents the following fascinating and important holistic health topics.

Healing suppressed wounds through Inner Child Work and Past Life Regression, How to Lift Mood with Food, Anger Management and It’s Ability to Improve Health, Emotional Freedom Technique, with a special emphasis on Weight Loss, Detoxing Naturally and Safely, Alleviating Seasonal Allergies with Homeopathy, Dream Therapy, Somatic Therapy for Deep and Profound Healing, the Importance of Whole Food Nutrition for the Brain and Body, How to Determine What Your Life’s Purpose is, and more!!

This is a Port Washington Adult Ed course, Only 60 dollars for all 4 nights!

Register Now: Click on the link, then click on Adult Enrichment, then on Health and Wellness.
https://portwashington.revtrak.net

Please contact caroleitner1@gmail.com if you need any help with registration.

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 UTUBE INTRO  I can help with personal and work based relationship and goal attainment challenges as a certified anger management specialist (recognized by the courts), which includes stress reduction/management, as a life/career coach and an EFT/tapping practitioner. I work with individuals and small groups in my Westbury, Long Island office and via SkypeVideo and facilitate interactive trainings/workshops and motivational speaking on site, webinar and media.  Recently I’ve “branched out” facilitating parenting groups as well as working with ADD/ADHD related professionals, individuals and families.  Have Fantabulous Holidays and Keep SOARing!                                             

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed. CEO, Balance & Power, Inc. 

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