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It is fairly common to experience a number of irritating situations in a single day. And if we don’t know what to do with our irritation, annoyance, or frustration, it blossoms into the oh-too-common ‘power struggle’.

Wherever anger arises in your life, it is always in relationship to something or someone: your boss, partner, children, computer, the internet, driving in rush hour traffic, sales clerks when shopping, or waiting on the phone in the hope you’ll finally get through to an actual person. Your ability to transform anger and its accompanying urge to argue, rests in the relationship you create between you and these kinds of events. This is the key to your freedom from HAVING to express your powerful life energy in bursts of negativity. You can dramatically increase your joy in living when you know the secret of redirecting anger toward a positive and graceful communication filled with your presence, awareness, acceptance, and love.

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Give yourself the freedom – permission to speak your mind (within assertive guidelines) without being a people pleaser!  Trusting initial thoughts and speaking your truth without too much refinement or rearranged words is often the best choice.

There may be a fine line between thinking before speaking and being overly self-critical in analyzing thoughts into words.  Give yourself credit for good communicative skills and intelligence!  Always keep “in mind” and “be aware” of the general distinctions among assertive, passive and aggressive communication-behavior styles for your best communication!

Assertive

  • Honest
  • Expressive
  • Use of “I” statements
  • Confrontation is OK
  • Compromise

Passive

  • Avoids conflict
  • Laid back
  • Taken advantage of
  • Indecisive
  • People Pleaser

Aggressive

  • Dominate
  • Manipulate
  • Goes beyond personal boundaries
  • Takes a stand at the expense of others

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Anger is a natural human emotion.  “Is my anger working for me?” is a question you can ask yourself.  When anger is mild and infrequent,  is expressed assertively (directly to the problem person, in a non-accusatory manner) and without aggression, and the individual is able to “let it go” quickly, then anger may serve the role of simply highlighting your annoyance and it can lead to problem resolution.

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However, if your anger is moderate to intense, experienced frequently, endures to the point where you are holding a grudge and are planning to get even, and is expressed in aggressive verbal and physical actions, then there is cause for alarm. You are likely at risk for the negative relationship, health and sometimes legal repercussions related to inappropriate anger expression.  Professional help is indicated.

A by-product of an unacceptably angry person is low self-esteem and often shame.
Anger management programs work to address managing anger as well as building self-confidence.  Recently there have been six large-scale analyses of adult anger management programs that show this!  If you,  a loved one or colleague has a serious anger problem and wishes to gain control over the emotion, I invite you Contact me for a 15-minute consult: 516 623 4353   www.balanceandpower.com 

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I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist by NAMA (National Anger Management Association), life-career coach and EFT practitioner.

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This article is adapted from the Nikkei Asian Review and found in NAMA (National Anger Management Association, my certifying organization) Newsletter JUNE 2018 

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Japan programs

TOKYO — Aware that they may become irritated too often amid the demanding duties of work, household chores and child care, a growing number of Japanese women are seeking ways to relax and be more kind by participating in seminars focusing on a serene mind.

At an introductory anger management seminar on a January weekend in Tokyo, participants were reminded that a fit of anger actually does not last very long, and that knowing this goes a long way in suppressing vitriol.

“The peak of anger lasts six seconds at most. So you want to deal [with your anger] after you know you’re past that peak,” Kyoko Mabashi told the participants.

The anger management movement, which started in the U.S. in the 1970s, aims to teach people how to manage anger in a positive way when necessary while suppressing the emotion when there is no need to fume.

The movement has grown quickly in Japan in the past few years. According to the Japan Anger Management Association (Japan Chapter of NAMA), participants in its seminars has totaled over 180,000.

“Biologically speaking, men are more prone to anger, and that’s why anger management seminars are basically for men in the U.S.,” said Shunsuke Ando, head of the association. “But in Japan, many participants are women in their 30s and 40s.” Currently, about 60% of the participants are women, he added.

According to a survey by the Institute of Statistical Mathematics in Tokyo, about 70% of female respondents in their 20s to 40s said they had felt irritated in the past month, far exceeding the ratio for men.

“The Japanese share a very similar set of values, which can be both good and bad. But our values are fast diversifying, including on attitudes toward work,” Ando said. “This has made it more likely for different values to clash, which can lead to anger.”

Thinking about what you are thinking about

Mindfulness seminars are also becoming popular.

“I know I want to be kind to people every day, but I find it hard to do so,” said a 52-year-old female Tokyo resident participating in a mindfulness seminar in the metropolis in late January. “I think my body has become stronger through training, but I think my mind still remains weak.”

Mindfulness uses meditation to help one cultivate the discipline to stop and look at oneself and what is happening around them. At the seminar, Ikuko Yamaguchi, a member of the Japanese Association of Mindfulness, which organized the event, instructed the participants, “Distracting thoughts may pop into your head, but just watch yourself having such thoughts.”

It was 8 p.m., and the room was so quiet that participants’ breathing was audible.

The ratio of men and women taking part in the association’s seminars is about equally split, Yamaguchi said.

“In terms of female participants, we’re seeing a growing number of individuals in their 30s and 40s who have limited time for themselves due to the daily grind of work and child care,” she added.

Mindfulness has recently been in the spotlight after Google introduced an internal training program on it. In Japan, it has grown in popularity quickly as it found its way into corporate training programs and yoga studios.

This article is adapted from the Nikkei Asian Review 

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