It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected. Perhaps expectations are not met, or relationships fail and we grieve for the loss. Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass.
Anger and resentment must fade or will be transformed into bitterness. Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain. When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it.
Being bitter is, in essence, cutting ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt. When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, the veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls. Coaching helps! EFTtapping helps!
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Celebrate possibilities and let go of bitterness…
Posted in anger, anger coach, anger management specialist, bitterness, eft coach, forgiveness, happiness, letting go, Uncategorized, tagged #lettinggo, EFT, forgiveness, opportunity, personal development on March 21, 2018| Leave a Comment »
Are You a Good Role Model?
Posted in anger, anger coach, anger management, anger management and conflict resolution training, anger management specialist, business owner, communication, court mandated, educators, frustration, impatience, High Stress Parenting, life coach, mindful parenting, proactive parenting, overwhelm, parenting classes long island NY, Parenting Skills, strategy, stress management, stress reduction, time management, tolerance, Uncategorized, tagged #activelistening, #angermanagement, #parentingskills, #rolemodels, #selfdevelopment, #selfhelp on October 15, 2017| Leave a Comment »
I’m talking to parents, older siblings, grandparents, teachers, business managers/ceo’s and politicians.
We are each leaders, even if (now) your domain is simply your home. Do you curse? Smile enough? Speak and act assertively? Listen actively? Demonstrate good time skills? Step away from devices on a regular basis? Mindful and considerate of others in household, office, neighbors?
My clients often see me for help with #angermanagementstrategies and/or #parenting skills. How you cope with #stress, #frustration and #anger impacts directly on #communication, #relationships and your #patience quota.
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Be Assertive: Say No Effectively
Posted in anger, anger coach, anger management, anger management specialist, anger managemewnt, assertive, attitude, communication, effective communication, goals, stress management, stress reduction, success coaching, Uncategorized, tagged assertive communication, communication on July 1, 2017| Leave a Comment »
The ability to communicate ‘no’ really reflects that you are in the driver’s seat of your own life, and can give gives you a sense of empowerment. How to do it most effectively?
A study in the Journal of Consumer Research by Professor Patrick and Henrik Hagtvedt found that saying “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t” allowed participants to extract themselves from unwanted commitments. While “I can’t” sounds like an excuse that’s up for debate, “I don’t” implies you’ve established certain rules for yourself, suggesting conviction and stability and are more effective in getting your point across.
There are a few other ways you can get more comfortable with saying no.
It’s a lot easier to be assertive with a stranger selling you something than it is when, say, your pleading co-worker asks for a ride to the airport. Get comfortable with your assertiveness when it’s easy so you’ll be prepared when there’s more pressure.
It’s easier to say no when you know exactly how to say it, so come up with a few anchor phrases for different situations. “No, I don’t buy from solicitors” for door-to-door salespeople, for example. “No, I don’t go out during the week” for co-workers who want to go on a drinking binge on a Monday night.
When you have these phrases ready, you don’t have to waste time wavering over an excuse. And you start to develop a reflexive behavior of saying no.
Still, sometimes we’re afraid to say no because we fear missing out. We want to take on new opportunities and adventures, so we say yes to everything instead. But all of those yeses can lead to burnout.
It can help to understand your own long-term goals This way, you can say yes to opportunities that most reflect your values. Second, try to build free time in your schedule so there’s room for new, interesting opportunities you might otherwise overlook.
Some worry that your no might seem threatening. Research from Columbia University found that our perceptions of our own assertiveness are often unreliable. In mock negotiations, people who thought they were adequately assertive or even over-assertive were seen by others as under-assertive. So if you feel confrontational, there’s a good chance the other party doesn’t see you that way. It’s about operating at the most optimal level. For most of us, that means living a happier and less stressful life, which is easier to do from the driver’s seat.

Anger Management Group 3 Hrs (*Accepted by Courts)
Posted in anger, anger management, anger management and conflict resolution training, anger management specialist, communication, conflict resolution, court mandated, happy, health, stress, stress management, stress reduction, Uncategorized on May 13, 2017| Leave a Comment »
Please determine which available date works best for you.
Saturday, May 20 Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, June 24 Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, July 15 Time: 9am – 12pm
Saturday, August 12 Time: 9am – 12pm
3 Hour Anger Management Completion Certificates accepted by the courts will be given if requested. Advance Registration only.
Location: 433 Maple Avenue, Westbury, New York 11590
Cost: $150 [Small groups, Limited seating ]
Register with Paypal eileen@balanceandpower.com Credit Cards accepted via telephone.
- Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
- Communicate more effectively
- Be happier
Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels.
The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impact your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.
Questions? Contact Eileen Now for a Complimentary Telephone Consult
516 623 4353 eileen@balanceandpower.com
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Can you change the wiring in your brain?
Posted in anger, anger management, anger management specialist, coaching, emotional flexibility, meditation, mindful meditation, resilience, Self Help, stress, stress management, stress reduction, stress resilience, success coaching, tapping, Uncategorized, tagged EFT, meditation, self-development, tapping on May 5, 2017| Leave a Comment »
Yes, research shows it’s possible! with actively choosing new ways to think, new ways to behave, and new environments that best suit your emotional style. We can change how the brain responds to emotional stimuli with researched strategies that include:
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- Find out what your “hot buttons” are – what triggers your negative emotions.
- Observe your emotions in the moment, without labeling good or bad.
- Investigate emotions by asking yourself questions like, “Why do I feel this way?” or “What are my emotions trying to tell me?” Sometimes there is a logic and pattern of our emotions than we can learn from and improve.
- Practice responding to emotions in new and constructive ways (for example, dancing, writing, or painting).
I work successfully with clients and groups to do this with Peak Performance Success and Life Coaching that may include stress and anger management, guided meditation and the modality EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping – that speed up this process!
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Catching up -snow day?!
Posted in anger, anger coach, anger management, anger management specialist, networking, personal development, stress management, tagged angermanagement. networking on March 14, 2017| Leave a Comment »
We all were braced for a few days in – and yay! enough to close everything for one day – and gave most of us I hope – time to catch up!-
I prepared materials for my Anger Management Group (2 seats available if you want to register now), was on a great networking call with Adrian’s Network and more…
What did you do?
Stay safe and warm all my NE US friends :)-
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