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1.  Listen to and follow your intuition.

During these trying and difficult times it’s been shown that it’s often necessary to reprioritize to get best outcomes.   Your intuition is most often correct when it comes to your life, work and relationships.  So even if it’s an inkling feeling – a tiny revelation- take a moment to recognize that and then move forward.

2.  Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

No reason or person is important enough to ever stray.  If you have  tried this over the years, whether intentionally or not, then you know it always backfires.

 3.  Love and laugh!

Both are proven stress reducers.  Happiness is contagious – many need more of that now while surrounded by global negativity, difficult times, chaos and immersed in “the new normal”.

 4.  Forgive yourself for mistakes; let go and move on. 

Self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive anyone else.  Forgiveness is essential to let go of anger.  Letting go of anger is essential to be happier.  Especially in “the new normal” this is a no-brainer :).

5.  Take time each day to relax, to dream.

We need our “down” time more than ever now, living in these difficult times.  Honor your method of relaxation and allow dreams to surface.  Be open to learning additional relaxation techniques and give them a try.. whatever works for you whenever you do it is OK as long as it has no negative effects on health or  overlaps with personal or work responsibilities.  If things are unmanageable – get help.

 6.  Be a great listener.

Listening is the most important part of communication.  If you do not understand what is being said, ask. Listen well and your response will  be more on target.

7.  Stay healthy by practicing self-care. (diet, sleep, exercise, relaxation techniques).

Stress takes its toll on health and may exacerbate conditions already in existence.  Therefore we need to be more diligent in this realm in order to   “Thrive Amidst Chaos” (the title of a workshop I co-presented with two colleagues recently).

8.  Stop procrastinating and take action- move forward or drop the project.

We all procrastinate; acknowledgement of being in this mode is the firststep in moving forward.  All procrastination is fear based and manifests itself through negative statements such as:

“not the right time now”
“why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”
Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

 What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing and Peak Performance Success Coaching   and the intention to do just that!

The following are a few common phrases/excuses people use when they are procrastinating: The task is:
“too boring”
“too time consuming”
“I just don’t feel like it”
“I just don’t want to”.

The Good news is that   EFT ( The Emotional Freedom Technique) is wonderfully successful in reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  It is based on the simple statement that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system. It involves tapping on meridian points while making statements about the issue.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward. When you use EFT and stimulate the acupressure points (see chart) the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdalia, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, set-up phrase (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, which I am, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.

9.  Begin each day with a short meditation positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

Oh! I am so much a believer in this!  Research has shown fantastic results.

10.  Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.

I’ve witnessed an amazing escalation in self-esteem, happiness, productivity and success with the implementation of these tips for my clients.

SOAR! with Resilience(R) is my interactive manual that stands alone and also accompanies customized individual and group coaching and training programs that encompass the material presented in this article.

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The subconscious is incredibly powerful, representing five-sixths of our brain’s thinking and power. To achieve success consistently and effortlessly, you must align your subconscious mind with what you want to create in your life and let go of past programming. If your subconscious beliefs conflict with the outcomes you’re consciously affirming, you’re guaranteed to fail. The subconscious wins … every time.  An ideal time to visualize is in the morning and before sleep, perhaps after meditating.

Visualize what you want. Your subconscious can’t tell the difference between a real and imagined event. When it “sees” what you want to achieve, it will find ways to make your dreams come true.  The same works regarding stress.  “Act as if” and visualizing “it” daily works wonders.  For instance, if you are stressed that you are overweight and a goal is to lose 10 pounds, visualize yourself at that weight- in those clothes.  Act as if you are already losing the weight and do not go on the scale.  Simply smile, exercise and eat well to “maintain” your lost weight.

Here’s another example: You know you need a vacation and can’t imagine taking the time off. Well, do exactly that in your mind, and in real time act as if you are going- soon!

Let me know how visualization works for you!  You may contact me for a complimentary phone coaching consult: www.balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

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These tips are tried and true! :

1.  Listen to and follow your intuition.

During these trying and difficult times it’s been shown that it’s often necessary to reprioritize to get best outcomes.   Your intuition is most often correct when it comes to your life, work and relationships.  So even if it’s an inkling feeling – a tiny revelation- take a moment to recognize that and then move forward.

2.  Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

No reason or person is important enough to ever stray.  If you have  tried this over the years, whether intentionally or not, then you know it always backfires.

 3.  Love and laugh!

Both are proven stress reducers.  Happiness is contagious – many need more of that now while surrounded by global negativity, difficult times, chaos and immersed in “the new normal”.

 4.  Forgive yourself  for mistakes; let go and move on. 

Self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive anyone else.  Forgiveness is essential to let go of anger.  Letting go of anger is essential to be happier.  Especially in “the new normal” this is a no-brainer :).

5.  Take time each day  to relax, to dream.

We need our “down” time more than ever now, living in these difficult times.  Honor your method of relaxation and allow dreams to surface.  Be open to learning additional relaxation techniques and give them a try.. whatever works for you whenever you do it is OK as long as it has no negative effects on health or  overlaps with personal or work responsibilities.  If things are unmanageable – get help.

 6.  Be a great listener.

Listening is the most important part of communication.  If you do not understand what is being said, ask. Listen well and your response will  be more on target.

7.  Stay healthy by practicing extreme self-care. (diet, sleep, exercise, relaxation techniques).

Stress takes its toll on health and may exacerbate conditions already in existence.  Therefore we need to be more diligent in this realm in order to   “Thrive Amidst Chaos” (the title of a workshop I co-presented with two colleagues recently).

8.  Stop procrastinating and take action- move forward or drop the project.

We all procrastinate; acknowledgment of being in this mode is the first step in moving forward.  All procrastination is fear based and manifests itself through negative statements such as:

“not the right time now”
“why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”
Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

 What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties.  No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing and Peak Performance Success Coaching and the intention to do just that!

The following are a few common phrases/excuses people use when they are procrastinating: The task is:
“too boring”
“too time consuming”
“I just don’t feel like it”
“I just don’t want to”.

The Good news is that   EFT ( The Emotional Freedom Technique) is wonderfully successful in reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved.  It is based on the simple statement that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system . It involves tapping on meridian points while making statements about the issue.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior.  You can use The EFT Technique to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward. When you use EFT and stimulate the acupressure points (see chart) the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdalia, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected.  Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, set-up phrase (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, which I am, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.

9.  Begin each day with a short meditation positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

Oh! I am so much a believer in this!  Research has shown fantastic results.  It’s all up to you – and your connection to a higher power/the universe.

10.  Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.

I’ve witnessed amazing escalation in self-esteem, happiness, productivity and success with the implementation of these tips for my clients.

SOAR! with Resilience(R)   is the interactive manual that stands alone and also accompanies customized individual and group coaching and training programs that encompass the material presented in this article.

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2. Challenge your belief! Write down, and take time to acknowledge, all the life experiences that you have had that actually PROVE your old belief is not true. This may be in the form of compliments that you have received, promotions at work, loving relationships, etc.
3. Identify your desired outcome.  Write down all your desired outcomes relating to replacing the old belief. Choose one outcome that most powerfully represents who you would be if you had that outcome.

4. Ask yourself: “What am I willing to do to make these changes?” You can always get ideas and reinforcement from professional guidance and support in one-on-one sessions or group programs. You really don’t have to go it alone in your life, and the belief that “you should” is in itself a disempowering belief!

5. Learn EFT and “tap on it”.  ebook-cover-eft-web

Love, respect yourself and believe you deserve…and  the challenges will actually help you learn and grow, not wear you down. Remember, you are lovable, capable and worthwhile.  You are enough!

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It is best to address negative thoughts as they arise, rather than suppressing-repressing (or pushing them down) only to resurface later, often when we least expect it – sometimes in angry inappropriateness.

 On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to be fully human, honoring all the thoughts, feelings, and moods that pass through us on a given day, we create a more conscious relationship with ourselves. Instead of blocking out thoughts and feelings that we label as negative, we can simply observe them and then let them go. They only get stuck when we react to them negatively, pushing them down and out of sight where they get lodged in our unconscious minds.

TRY:

~Develop a practice of following any negative thought with a positive thought. This works well because positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative thoughts!

~Develop a friendlier attitude toward yourself and trust your inherent goodness.

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Less Stress, Anger, Optimal Happiness & Productivity using EFT and Mindfulness. 

It’s important in this ever changing and fast paced world with extreme negative events taking place on a regular basis to implement strategies that consistently work (research based) keeping us personally centered and focused. We must be able to prioritize, be efficient, communicate well, be compassionate and empathetic to be our most productive, loving selves – no matter what circumstances outside of ourselves may be.

Less stress and anger, optimal productivity and happiness usually go together. Regular use of these two modalities will help to achieve these goals: EFT and Mindfulness. They may be applied wherever you are at home, work, on the street, at the airport.

Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and restoring it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.

Sometimes when we feel anger, to ourselves or others, it is coming from a deep place that demands acknowledgment and expression. At these times, it is important that we find healthy ways to honor our anger, remembering how dangerous it is to repress it. However, anger can also become a habit, our go-to emotion whenever things go wrong. Often this is because, for whatever reason, we feel more comfortable expressing anger than we do other emotions, like sadness. It can also be that getting angry gives us the impression that we’ve done something about our problem. In these cases, our habitual anger is inhibiting both our ability to express our other emotions and to take action in our lives.

If it’s true that anger is functioning this way in your life, the first thing you might want to try is to notice when you get angry. You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that it is always your first response or that it comes up a lot in one particular situation. If the pattern doesn’t become clear right away, you could try keeping a journal or log about when you get angry and see if you can find any underlying meaning.

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Do you believe you are loveable? 

If you believe you are not loveable, I’m asking you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down on post-its and place in conspicuous-to-you places.  You may also want to keep a  notepad with them handy.

Many attractive, successful single people have some very negative, limiting beliefs that sabotage finding a soul mate or being in a healthy relationship. The list usually goes something like this:

-I’m too old.
-I’m too fat.
-I’m too damaged.
-I have too much baggage.
-I am too successful.
-I am not successful enough.
-All the good ones are taken.
-Nobody I want, wants me.

There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. No matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still able to wake up every day and be able to start again.

Perhaps you need some help with this as well as being “accountable” to someone other than yourself.  Perhaps you want to add EFT tapping to your self-help “toolkit.

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Keep in mind the following strategies to help you stay well and happy:

    • Do things to bring you a sense of fulfillment, joy and purpose, that validate your worth. See your life as your own creation and strive to make it a positive one.
    • Pay close and loving attention to yourself, tuning in to your needs on all levels.
    • Take care of yourself: nourish, support and encourage yourself.
    • Release all negative emotions–resentment, envy, fear, sadness, anger. Express your feelings appropriately; don’t hold onto them.
    • Hold positive images and goals in your mind, pictures of what you really want in your life. When fearful images arise, re-focus on images that evoke feelings of peace and joy.
    • Love yourself and make loving the purpose and primary expression of your life.
    • Create fun, loving, honest relationships that allow for the expression and fulfillment of needs for intimacy and security. Try to heal any wounds in past relationships and with parents.
    • Make a positive contribution to your community, through some form of work or
service that you value and enjoy.
    • Make a commitment to health and well being, and develop a belief in the possibility of total health – physically and emotionally.
    • Accept yourself and everything in your life as an opportunity for growth and learning. Be open to possibilities. Be grateful.
    • When you make mistakes, even “bad” ones, forgive yourself, learn what you can from the experience and move on.
  • Keep a sense of humor.

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EFT Emotional Freedom Technique Intro Workshop
Hosted by Epione Clinic for Integrated Healing and Balance & Power, Inc.

Weekend training for EFT practitioners:
When: 3 hours Sat and Sun May 19-20th, 9:30am – 1:30pm

Interactive training to learn about EFT(Emotional Freedom Techniques, tapping), experience it and understand patient applications.

EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, is often described as the tapping technique and is a powerful stress reduction tool that is proving to be extremely effective in a wide variety of conditions in which stress can be a causative or aggravating factor.

This interactive training for healthcare professionals will provide background and understanding of the modality, provide opportunities for personal application and to learn about patient applications. As you may know and most of the medical industry is now discovering, when we have physical problems they are almost always connected with our emotions. Emotional Freedom Technique comes to the rescue and is showing astounding results; in some cases after one or two sessions!

As a Certified level 2 EFT practitioner Eileen Lichtenstein uses amazing techniques in her Private Life Coaching Sessions as well as her Anger Management Seminars and Stress Management Seminars with overwhelming success!

Cost: Eileen Lichtenstein Workshop: $250 for 2 day workshop 5/19 and 5/20

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  • Balance in your life and a healthy and well-adjusted mind and body
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You will embark on a transformative journey of self-development that will guide you to amazing levels of happiness and abundance in your life.

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It’s easy for parents to feel overwhelmed, especially in today’s world. This program shares stress and anger management strategies and how to become proficient Active Listeners and Conflict Resolution Practitioners essential in our busy home lives today.

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Parenting Skills Series: 4 Hr Group
4hr Feb/March Group: Tuesdays Feb 27 & March 6  Times: 6:30 – 8:30pm

Parenting Skills Series: 2 Hr Groups
Please determine which available group work best for you:

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  • Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
  • Communicate more effectively
  • Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. 

The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

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