Are you a frequent “second guesser?” There are many possibilities of why, which I’m not going to focus on here. The important thing now is to stop questioning practically every decision you make, do the best you can – believing that you are – to make confident choices.
Frequent words-phrases of second guessing are could have, should have, if only, why didn’t I, I would have. These are usually used as a way of expressing tension before or after having made a decision. Adding to the negative situation, you may feel angry with yourself and berate yourself for having created a stressful situation. Perhaps you do not do anything, being ambivalent about your choices, and feel stuck and powerless.
Here are some tips to help break a pattern of “second guessing” and making confident choices:
• Think about why you lack trust in your judgment.
• Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen if you say no to someone…
• Know that we aren’t perfect. Learn something from your mistakes and move on.
• Eliminate the phrases and words that indicate uncertainty and second guessing, (2nd paragraph).
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