I hear the expression “it is what it is” quite frequently. Sometimes I wonder if the speaker is simply stating a fact or is resigned to an unhappy outcome. We cannot change many circumstances and certainly not the perception or behavior of others. However, I do feel strongly that for most folks there is often a way to adjust the things we are in control of – including our own perceptions – and use tools to shift our attitude and way of coping- so the “it”changes a bit and is perceived in a more positive light. Personally, I stay away from using this expression and often cringe internally when I hear another say it. When it’s a client, it can become a discussion about additional possibilities and doors to open. The combination of being intuitive and a great problem solver – looking at myriads of possibilities has helped many clients to see things from a different, more hopeful perspective.
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