Anger can easily become a go-to emotion; to remedy, start noticing when and why you get angry.
The first thing you might want to try in lessening episodes of anger and to identify and harness your anger is to notice when you get angry, to identify your triggers and when/how your buttons get pushed. You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that it is always your first response or that it comes up a lot in one particular situation. If the pattern doesn’t become clear right away, you could try keeping a journal about when you get angry and see if you can find any underlying meaning. The good thing about keeping a journal is that you can explore your anger more deeply in it—from examining who in your family of origin expressed a lot of anger to how you feel when you encounter anger in others.
Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and harnessing it to restore it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.
If you need help with this, you may contact me for a complimentary consult. I am a certified anger management specialist and have groups in Long Island and work with individuals face to face and via telephone and skype.