I’ve been viewing PBS : The Buddha”. It’s a wonderful narrative-visual with intelligent modern people coming on to comment and Richard Gere in charge. Interesting and not surprising that today blah-blah-blah and I said “I’m not perfect, you know” and Mom said 1/2 in jest- “I thought you are”. Huge aha! I’ve known this “all along” and to have it reinforced on the same day via media is wonderful.
Being judgemental is about expecting perfection. Being non-judgemental is the opposite.
An attitude of “expecting pefection” from anyone – even yourself- breeds judgement.
Zen philosophy teaches no expectations- detached from outcome=no judgement.