Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and harnessing it  to restore it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.

If you need help with this, you may contact me for a complimentary consult.  I am a certified anger management specialist and have groups in Long Island and work with individuals face to face and via telephone and skype.

We have heard about LOA (Law of Attraction) & visualizing positive outcomes to manifest who and what we want. Most importantly, we need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit! I’ve been revisiting this aspect of positive thinking and LOA, and am encouraging you to take this challenge and change your low energy phrases to high-energy phrases with your own words.
Here are some examples:

• “That’s not bad” becomes “That’s quite good.”
• “No problem” becomes “You’re very welcome, sure, I’ll be happy to!”
• “That’s bad” becomes “That’s not good.”
• “Don’t worry” becomes “You’ll be fine.”
• “Put some effort into it” becomes “Let’s put some energy into it.”
• “It’s too hard” becomes “It’s not easy.”
• “I’m sick” becomes “I don’t feel well.”
• “I forgot” becomes “I didn’t remember.”
• “I’ve been working hard” becomes “I’ve been working well.”
• “Don’t cry” becomes “That’s OK..”

This switch is most easily facilitated with a buddy- someone whom you’re often with and agrees to do this for a while with a smile! Do you have some additional phrases to switch-up? Please share them with your buddy this week.

Negative language conveys a poor image to those around us. 

Sometimes it causes conflict and confrontation where none is necessary or desired. The first place to start using positive language is with written material. Once you have developed the knack of writing positively, it will be easier to change your spoken language to present a more positive tone.

Your subconscious picks up on the negative word, no matter what context you use.

Negative phrasing and language often have the following characteristics:

• tells the recipient what cannot be done.
• has a subtle tone of blame.
• includes words like can’t, won’t, unable to, that tell the recipient what the sending agency cannot do
• does not stress positive actions that would be appropriate, or positive consequences.

Positive phrasing and language have the following qualities:

• tells the recipient what can be done
• suggests alternatives and choices available to the recipient
• sounds helpful and encouraging rather than bureaucratic
• stresses positive actions and positive consequences that can be anticipated.

Common Negative Language/Phrasing 

If you want to move to more positive communication, the first task is to identify and eliminate common negative phrasing. The following are quite common, and should be avoided whenever possible.

1. Expressions that suggest carelessness:
a) You neglected to specify…
b) You failed to include…
c) You overlooked enclosing…

2. Phrases that suggest the person is lying:
a) You claim that…
b) You say that…
c) You state that…

3. Expressions that imply that the recipient is not too bright: 
a) We cannot see how you…
b) We fail to understand…
c) We are at a loss to know…

4. Demanding phrases that imply coercion/pressure:
a) You should…
b) You ought to…
c) You must…
d) We must ask you to…
e) We must insist…

5. Phrases that might be interpreted as sarcastic or patronizing:
a) No doubt…
b) We will thank you to…
c) You understand, of course…
d) Please respond soon…

 Practice!!

It works  to have someone you are around with often so that you can give each other a “signal” when a negative phrase or word is used.  All the best with this!! As with every new habit – it takes at least 21 days of “getting it right”.

EFT is sweeping the world. Healthcare Professionals and Coaches are welcome! There is an emotional underpinning to almost all “dis-ease” and EFT can help.

The cost of the workshop is $99 and it is limited to 12 people so that everyone will get personalized attention throughout the day. This workshop usually sells out quickly, so if you want to attend, please make sure to make your reservations as soon as possible.

Find out more: http://www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php

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I want to thank each of you in our Long Island Networking community for the wonderful venues and events provided this year and look forward to additional opportunities to build a strong network of caring business owners and colleagues.

I am offering a workshop series in Baldwin to kick-off 2010, details below, as well as a “SOAR™” Teleclass Mastermind Series on the telephone which you will be hearing more about. I’ve just completed a teleclass series that was wonderful- and am excited about this next one.

Give yourself the gift of less stress, increased focus, clarity, creativity, improved health and a terrific attitude!:

Set Goals, Be Fearless & SOAR™ : When: Weds: Jan 13, 20, 27 Feb 2, 10, 17 at 7pm – 8:30pm in Baldwin

MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction): Breathwork, guided meditation and discussion
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques): Energy Meridian Tapping with powerful languaging and discussion. Find out more: Emotional Freedom Techniques

Reduce anxiety, tension, fear, procrastination. Take Action and move forward with your goals!
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Improve back and muscle weaknesses
Reduce mood swings and cravings
Facilitate weight management
Motivate toward a healthy lifestyle
Boost immune system
Improve sleep patterns

Where: The Balance & Power Center, Baldwin: a newly renovated, comfortable-cozy group setting. Register to receive address and directions.

Reserve your space now – small groups!

Cost: $145 or register for two: $249

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Are the employees and leadership in your company ready to demonstrate and experience optimal:
• Performance
• Communication
• Creativity
• Stress Levels
• Anger and Conflict Management
• Health and Wellness

We’ve spent over a year in economic limbo- and now is the time to move forward with energy and conviction! Eileen Lichtenstein, CEO Balance & Power, Inc. and her team facilitate trainings, coaching and retreats that foster Significant Positive Change in productivity, health and stress levels with an increase in:
• Assertiveness: Ability to express thoughts and feelings in a confident and non-aggressive manner.
• Optimism: Ability to be positive and hopeful about the future in the face of stress, setbacks or disappointments.
• Motivation: Ability to begin and sustain behaviors to accomplish goals
• Adaptability: Ability to solve problems by being flexible, creative, and translating ideas into action, while working well with others.
• Self-Regulation: Ability to control one’s thoughts and feelings in times of stress and remain calm under pressure.
• Self-Actualization: Ability to live up to potential through the pursuit of challenging goals, setting high personal standards and pursuing tasks outside of one’s comfort zone.
• Self-Acceptance: Ability to recognize and accept both positive and negative aspects of one’s self.

Balance & Power, Inc. www.balanceandpower.com offers strategic interventions and preventative programs and coaching to align individual development with organizational competency and business strategy. Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed., EFT-ADV is a Success Coach trained by Corporate Coach University and a Professional Speaker. She is a former biofeedback therapist, fitness trainer and Hofstra University adjunct professor for Health and Physical Education and is currently on staff with CUNY MEC for Leadership and Team Building. Her private practice is in Baldwin, NY where she sees individuals and small groups. On-site and telephone coaching-training may be arranged.

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