“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” - Brian Tracy
Gratitude has been getting a lot of press in self-help/development curriculums because it is essential to acknowledge personal gratefuluness in several categories to help up your forgivess quotient and helps transition you into the happiness realm! Try this: Sit back, close your eyes and visualize everything you are grateful for including several of these categories:
- personal attributes and abilities
- people in your life
- material things in your life
- a lifestyle
Let it free flow and then write them down in columns. Review this whenever you are feeling down, first thing in the morning and before bed.
Gratitude, Forgiveness, Happiness and Stress, Anger, Depression
Forgiveness of one’s self for wrong doings and poor attitudes is necessary before you can forgive others, as loving oneself must happen before you are able to love others. Forgiveness of heinous crimes is not possible for most people and not necessary. You do not need to let go of 100% anger/guilt to let go and move on. Try forgiving a percentage, and “work on it” through EFT, guided imagery and de-sensitization techniques, hypnosis, life coaching, therapy to get the percentage higher. It can be helpful in acknowledging that those in question may have been doing the best they knew how or were capable of (due to personal history, mental capacity, mental illness).
Depression is almost always supressed, repressed, not communicated (or communicated partially) anger, with or without genetic tendencies.
Anger expressed at over-the-top levels results in socially unacceptable aggressive behavior that steps over physical and/or emotional boundaries (hitting-pushing-punching-pulling, property damage including throwing things, slamming doors and name calling, cursing-yelling. Health related symptoms of high anger and stress levels include high blood pressure, headaches, racing pulse, difficulty breathing, tight muscles.
Stress levels elevate when feeling out of control or “overwhelmed” and may cause someone to exhibit angrily acting out or be irritable. The flip side is a depressive episode.
It is important to remember that human beings are not perfect and we all “mess-up” at times. If you or someone you are close to experience any of the above on an ongoing basis or regularly, it is time to get help! Often learning simple coping strategies and techniques as well as how to communicate effectively is all you need to do- in conjunction with a practitioner you feel comfortable with and can create a trusting relationship with.
I am a certified Anger Management Specialist, EFT Practitioner, Peak Performance Success Coach and (former) biofeedback practitioner (this training includes relaxation techniques, de-sensitization techniques, guided imagery and self-trance). I work with individuals and groups via telephone, skype and face to face in Wantagh, Long Island and go on site for corporate and organizational trainings. Currently, a hot topic (unfortunately) is Workplace Bullying.
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