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Anger and Stress Management 5 hour Course Sat. AM 1/14, 1/28, 2/11 in Wantagh, NY

Eileen Lichtenstein — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 21:10:50 +0000

3 Dates Available:

When: Saturday Jan 14, 2012
When: Saturday Jan 28, 2012
When: Saturday Feb 11, 2012

Time: 9:00am to 3:00 PM (Noon to 1pm Lunch Break)

Enhance all aspects of stress and anger management
Communicate more effectively
Be happier

Explore strategies to release anger, reduce stress and deal effectively with others. Anger and communication issues are highly affected by stress levels. The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your problem and actions and have the intention to change patterns. Your anger and stress impacts your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

Pre-Registration Only.
Cost: $150
Group-couple rates 10% discount per person.
*Court mandated and non-mandated participants welcome!

Location: 775 Wantagh Avenue. Wantagh, NY.
Long Island exit 28N Southern State Parkway.

Individual stress and anger management are being facilitated in Wantagh, Baldwin and via telephone and Skype. These include EFT as a helping modality.

Contact Eileen now for details and to reserve your spot via PayPal:, money order or credit card.

Eileen Lichtenstein
PO Box 894
Baldwin, NY 11510
Ph: 516 623 4353
Email: eileen@balanceandpower.com

Credit Card payments accepted by telephone.

Saturday Jan 14:
Cost: $150

Saturday Jan 28:
Cost: $150

Saturday Feb 11:
Cost: $150

SOAR! & THRIVE! 9/10 AM series, 9/18 full day in Long Island

Eileen Lichtenstein — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 00:36:30 +0000

Hi Everyone!

Are you ready to thrive and soar?! I’ve added Chapter 5 Anger Management and other goodies to my book SOAR! with Resilience™ 2nd edition; it will be ready soon! The “R” in SOAR! becomes Reduce
Stress & Anger.

SOAR! with Resilience™ September Saturday AM small group series for stress and anger management, including court mandated as I’m a certified Anger Management Specialist

begins 9/10. Details and register

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4 Myths About Anger

Eileen Lichtenstein — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 20:29:58 +0000

Myth #1:

Anger is inheritedResearch has indicated that people are not born with set, specific ways of expressing anger. These studies show that because the expression of anger is learned behavior, more appropriate ways of expressing anger can be learned.

Myth #2: Anger Automatically Leads to Aggression

It is a misconception that athe only way to express anger is through aggression. Effective anger management involves controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hostile “self-talk”, challenging irrational beliefs and implementing a variety of behavioral strategies.Myth #3: People Must Be Aggressive to Get What They Want

Many people confuse assertiveness with aggression. The goal of aggression is to dominate, intimidate, harm or injure another person- to win at any cost. Conversely, the goal of assertiveness is to express feelings of anger in a way that is respectful of other people.Myth #4 Venting Anger Is Always Desirable

Anger is learned and can easily become a routine, predictable response, an inappropriate pattern, to a variety of situations, resulting in negative consequences. Venting anger in an aggressive way reinforces aggressive behavior.To break the anger habit, an awareness must be developed of the events, circumstances and behaviors that “trigger” your anger. In addition to becoming aware of anger, you need to learn and develop strategies to manage it.

I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist with offices in Long Island, NY and also have sessions via Video SKYPE and telephone.
Complimentary Consult: 516 623 4353 http://www.balanceandpower.com/angermanagement.php

Enjoy Summer-July 4-Yourself!!!

Eileen Lichtenstein — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 19:16:45 +0000

Happy July 4th week to my American friends! Enjoy all the wonderful outdoor activities with loved ones and friends…I hope you can get away for a few days, at least! If you are an entrepreneur you may want to refer to the Newsday articlethat I was interviewed for about this:Hear ye! Hear ye! Eileen Lichtenstein Now Has Her Own TV Show
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When: Sunday September 18, 2011
Time: 9:30 AM – 6:00 PM
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Launch and Reach Business Goals: Ask for what you need!

Eileen Lichtenstein — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 23:53:47 +0000

I sponsored a wonderfully facilitated an “Empowered Speed Networking” event with Lucy Rosen, Public Speaker, Author, Business Networking Expert …

and Donna Cariello of The LI Way, CEO of www.thelongislandway.com/ and got a lot of “takeaways” : including a reminder to be specific about what you need. We were asked to state 3 business “needs”/ goals as we moved along with each person, taking notes on the other’s for referrals. The follow-up is to focus on the stated goals for thirty days. I’m adding on a few more now for this blog:

1. Five people who need Peak Performance Success/Career coaching to help them to be more successful, productive and happier while reducing stress/anger levels and to be motivated-mentored-accountable for whatever life/work goals they want to achieve. I offer a complimentary consult and sessions may be arranged via telephone, video skype and face to face in Baldwin and various locations throughout LI. eileen@balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

2. Corporate and agency “gigs” re SOAR! with Resilience(TM) (my program and manual as well as stand alone publication: read about & purchase here) re goal attainment , stress management, anger management and effective communication. Mind/body modalities EFT , guided meditation/relaxation.

3. Intros to Judges & matrimonial attorneys and mediators for mutual referrals as I’m a court certified anger management specialist-educator.

4. Collaborative alliances and referrals

5. Participants for small groups anger-stress management groups location, dates, times tba. More info at www.balanceandpower.com

6. Biz card advertisers for The Pek-u-lators full day event Sept 18 ($100- contact me eileen@balanceandpower.com) and a full house for the workshops. Details & registration: http://www.balanceandpower.com/events.php

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Anger Management with EFT

Eileen Lichtenstein — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 01:37:34 +0000

We cannot deny our emotions as they are part of what makes us human. However, we can change the patterns, triggers and ways that we express them. We are not the victim of our emotions. There are patterns to every emotion that, if we can identify them, we can interrupt the pattern and change our behavior with EFT before it causes extreme damage in relationship or to society.

We each have a pattern of anger. Some of us express it when it is still small. Some push it down so deep, too scared to express it, and experience it as disease. And some bottle it up until it bursts like a volcano surprising everyone with the intensity. These individuals sometimes do not even have a clue that anything was wrong.

I’m going to focus on the last pattern, as this is what has happened with many of my clients, or with their partners or ex’es. The latter played the victim and need help with self-esteem issues. As children, some of the angry adults had been labeled as having “a bad temper”. Let’s take a look at how this pattern of anger develops.

Sometimes the anger has been brewing throughout the day from one incident early in the day which is annoying. Another a little later on that added fuel to the fire. So when receiving one more perceived assault, even an actually minor one, anger powerfully unloads, usually misdirected. Or, perhaps, one individual is progressively “getting to” the other in a negative way by “nagging”, being judgemental, overprotective, jealous, to name a few. That keeps happening until a “last straw” is reached.

When the anger outburst prone individual takes a “time-out” to apply EFT at the first perceived slight, the first inkling of annoyance or frustration and is able to get deep into and under the anger then the anger outburst prone individual may be able to voice concerns with out the associated outburst.

Here is an EFT script that I hope will help you or a loved one as it has helped my clients change an anger pattern. First you need to start with how you feel in yourself about the anger. Start and continue tapping on the EFT tapping points while saying the phrases:

Karate Chop:	I was so angry that I can’t accept myself. I’m disappointed in myself. I should be better than this. They didn’t deserve to be the brunt of my anger. I feel so ugly and ashamed at what I did. I don’t know if I will ever be able to change this. I feel like I have no control over my anger. I don’t know if I can ever accept myself when I can get so angry.
Head:	This anger feels more powerful than me
Eyebrows:	I don’t feel like I can control it
Side of Eyes:	Part of me likes the feeling of power that comes with the anger
Under Eyes:	Part of me is so ashamed
Under Nose:	I can’t really accept myself when I can get this angry
Chin Point:	I remember the look on their faces when I was angry
Collarbones:	The fear in their faces, I don’t want them to be afraid of me
Under Arms:	I’m so afraid that the damage done can’t be undone. I don’t know if I deserve to be free of this guilt
Wrist Points:	I don’t believe anyone can really love me when I have this anger within me; I can’t really love myself when I know it’s there.

Continue to tap for a few rounds to cover everything you feel and say about and to yourself about how you behaved.

Now we will use EFT to work on the pattern around the anger.

Karate Chop:	Even though it feels like I have no control over my anger, I choose to notice the way it develops. I have a pattern of anger than can be changed. Even though I have a habit of being angry, I choose to bring to my conscious mind the way my anger develops, so that I can heal it.
Head:	What is the first thing that happens in my body when I’m starting to feel angry?
Eyebrows:	What do I say to myself that tells me I’m getting angry?
Side of Eyes:	Where in my body do I notice the fire of my anger building?
Under Eyes:	There are a number of steps to my anger and I choose to pay attention and notice them
Under Nose:	What is the very first thing that happens that tells me I’m getting angry
Chin Point:	I give my self permission to stop a conversation when I notice the first indicators of anger so that I can do some EFT and deal with the feeling
Collarbones:	As I notice my anger pattern, I gain power over it
Under Arms:	There are a number of things that occur before my anger bursts out, and I choose to notice each of them
Wrist Points:	This pattern has been unconscious until now but I’m making it conscious so that I can change it.

Notice how your anger builds helps to unravel the mystery of full blown explosions that nobody sees coming. You then have the ability to notice what is triggering your anger and clear those individual triggers. Maybe it’s a tone of voice or a look you receive which starts to get you angry. So do some tapping on the trigger e.g.

Karate Chop:	I felt put down by their sarcastic tone of voice. I felt put down and disrespected by their tone of voice. It reminds me of being talked down to as a child. I don’t want to be talked to like that because I’m now an adult
Head:	Feeling talked down to like a child
Eyebrows:	Feeling disrespected
Side of Eyes:	That tone of voice that gets me angry
Under Eyes:	I want to release all reference events for this trigger
Under Nose:	I’m clearing this trigger for my anger
Chin Point:	That tone of voice that still gets me angry
Collarbones:	I won’t let anyone talk to me that way
Under Arms:	I want to stand up for myself without having to get angry. I am an adult who can express myself
Wrist Points:	As I clear this trigger, I beginning to accept myself even more.

There may be more than one trigger to your anger so continue to tap on each trigger that contributes to your anger pattern.

You may still have shame, guilt, and regret about what happened so here is a final round to do some more clearing.

Karate Chop:	Even though I’m still ashamed at getting so angry, I’m beginning to accept myself. Even though I regret what I did and wish that I could go back and change things, I’m open to accepting myself and the mistakes I made as part of being human. I’m doing my best to improve my behavior, identifying patterns of anger, and clearing the triggers.
Head:	Remaining shame for what happened
Eyebrows:	Remaining regret for how I said what I did
Side of Eyes:	Remaining sadness at the hurt I caused
Under Eyes:	Remaining shame, regret, and sadness
Under Nose:	I choose to notice my anger patterns and diffuse them as soon as I do
Chin Point:	I choose to be forgiving of myself as I do my best to change my behavior
Collarbones:	I’m glad I know how to tap so that I can clear my anger patterns
Under Arms:	I’m learning to access the power within my anger and express it in constructive ways
Wrist Points:	I’m noticing and celebrating even the smallest of improvements in my behavior and I’m becoming even more loving and accepting of myself.

This tapping session is an in depth exploration and release of negative feelings that are often surrounding angry outbursts. You may need further guidance; this may have only opened a door and there is still lots more to acknowledge and release, which is what EFT is about. Contact me about a complimentary consult for sessions via video skype, telephone, or face to face in Long Island or Queens, NY. I incorporate EFT into my Anger-Stress Management Groupsat several locations in Long Island and Queens.

Anger Provoking Events

Eileen Lichtenstein — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 22:27:35 +0000

Anger provoking events are all around us; like stress it is in the perception of each individual as to how one responds. When you get angry, it is beacause an event has provoked your anger. Everyday events such as these are anger provoking in the moment or because it has reminded you of a similar situation in the past that was anger provoking:

Being cut off on the road
Traffic congestion
Long waiting in a doctor’s office
Long lines in the store, post office, bank to wait on
Crowded buses and trains
Being wrongly accused
A friend joking about a sensitive topic
Having an untidy roomate or family member
Having to clean up someone else’s mess
Being placed on hold for long periods of time while on the telephone
Having difficulty understanding someone on the telephone in customer service
Being given wrong directions
Having anything stolen from you
Rumors spread about you
Having a neighbor who plays the stereo too loud, etc.

It is also possible for specific events to touch on sensitive areas in your life. These “red flags” usually refer to long standing issues that can easily lead to anger. For example, even though you may be a good reader as an adult, a childhood slowness sensitivity may be evoked when someone rushes us or becomes impatient re completing an application or form, or when someone calls us “slow” or “stupid”.

As an anger coach and being US Court certified as an Anger Management Specialist I help individuals and groups to learn how to deal with anger provoking events and triggers. You may contact me to find out how we can work together via telephone, skpe or face to face in Long Island, NY.

Seeking your help..

Eileen Lichtenstein — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 17:16:00 +0000

In addition to Balance & Power facilitations and coaching in many areas hopefully you know I am now certified to help in anger and stress management. I also can facilitate powerful learning programs with a colleague that get measurable results in all of these six areas :

You get RESULTS in these areas:

1. Personal Organization

2. Increased Productivity

3. Development of Key Personnel

4. Superior Communication

5. Increased Focus on Priorities

6. Greater Teamwork

Likely you know a sizable number of people who would like to increase productivity and profitability for their organizations especially in these challenging times. How about helping one or two of your colleagues or contacts by referring me? Since you haven’t experienced these multi-sensory behavior changing materials, although I would be thrilled to give you the opportunity to do so, I know you cannot recommend the programs. All I ask is for you to either speak to them or send an email asking them to take my phone call and provide me with their name and number. I can assure you that since achievement of the goals set before beginning the process are guaranteed, you will be doing a favor for these people. Your assistance would be greatly appreciated and I thank you, in advance for your help.

Happy Spring & Holidays to you & your family~

Warmly,

Eileen

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed.

CEO, Balance & Power, Inc.

Peak Performance Success & Career Coach

www.balanceandpower.com

Author, Facilitator SOAR! with Resilience™

Stress & Anger Management Specialist

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)

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Transform Stress into Success!

Eileen Lichtenstein — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 02:06:02 +0000

You are absolutely ready to transform stress into success if you say or think the following:

“I can’t cope!”

“I’m tired of being angry!”

“I never have enough time for my family, forget about myself:)!”

“I don’t have enough energy to go out or to exercise.”

“I don’t seem to get anything accomplished.”

“I spend too much time working.”

“My relationship (marriage) is in trouble…”

These are statements that I hear everyday from my clients and at small business networking meet-ups. When you attend my interactive virtual or in person trainings and Motivational Whisperer Master Mind (TBA!), and as an individual client, you will learn strategies and techniques to help you cope with daily stress, increase productivity, enhance relationships and boost your bottom line and empower you. Miscommunications at home and among staff will lessen, complex demands juggling home and work will balance and frustration-anger thresholds will rise, as will productivity.

When you are in this group or work with me individually, you will:

Learn to identify blocks keeping you stuck in negative patterns
Learn to recognize triggers which cause blocks
Learn how to be proactive in dealing with stressors
Experience and practice techniques that increase productivity and reduce stress: Visualizations for Success, Positive Languaging, Relaxation Breathing , EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, meridian tapping see demo videos, Goal Setting, Time Management and Prioritizing Strategies.
“SOAR! with Resilience”

Contact me for a Complimentary Consult!:

516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com

Anger-Stress Management Long Island April Groups

Eileen Lichtenstein — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 00:49:36 +0000

Saturdays, April 9.16, 30 1st, May……10AM-Noon

Growell Healing Center Merrick

and Thursdays April 7, 14, 28, May: 7-9PM Glory Beezz, Baldwin

Research (and my clients) have proven that when you are personally motivated to change and have the intention to learn and practice strategies and techniques to reduce negative stress and transform anger into effective communication for working relationships, then you will with this course!

If you want to change your behavior and attitude, you need to experience how it feels to do it differently. Your mind-body intelligence, which has a memory, will work well when guided in the “right” direction.

Just imagine how positive and unstoppable you can be when you join together with others and focus your attention creating new and positive mind-body patterns. Break through your negative patterns and be able to let go of anger and stress!

This program will enable you to:

* Collapse the patterns of self sabotage

* Unleash the power to self-heal your body, mind and spirit

* Control the barrage of limiting thoughts

* Create sustainable change

During this workshop series Eileen creates a safe space filled with trusted sharing, non-judgment and powerful learning that you will be able to apply in your life.

Do you frequently feel out of control or overwhelmed?

Do you have physical distress symptoms indicating a high stress level?

Have your friends-family-coworkers suggested that you get help with anger control?

Are you living in a state of combustible irritation?

Do you want to get along better with your family and coworkers?

If you’ve answered yes to any of the above, you will experience powerful benefits and transformational result in this 6 hour course.

Techniques and knowledge are shared that create lasting results that are tangible. Reserve your space now!!

Questions? 516 623 4353 eileen@balanceandpower.com

Eileen is a certified Anger Management Specialist, recognized by the US Court System, as well as a Career and Mid-Life Coach and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique ) Practitioner. She has been featured extensively in print, TV and radio media and has her own Blog Talk Radio Show:The Balance & Power Network.

“SOAR! with Resilience™” is Eileen’s interactive manual that is the core curriculum for her programs.

She is a former biofeedback therapist, faculty at Hofstra University and National Alliance for the Mentally Ill Community Outreach Queens-Nassau.

Not in Long Island? Eileen is organizing groups and taking on new individual clients to work with over the internet, telephone and skype.
Contact Eileen for a FREE Consult! 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com