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Identifying and Harnessing Your Anger

Posted in cathartic emotion, coaching, energy, journaling, long island on April 28, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

Anger can easily become a go-to emotion; to remedy, start noticing when and why you get angry.
The first thing you might want to try in lessening episodes of anger and to identify and  harness your anger  is to notice when you get angry, to identify your triggers and when/how your buttons get pushed.  You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that it is always your first response or that it comes up a lot in one particular situation. If the pattern doesn’t become clear right away, you could try keeping a journal about when you get angry and see if you can find any underlying meaning. The good thing about keeping a journal is that you can explore your anger more deeply in it—from examining who in your family of origin expressed a lot of anger to how you feel when you encounter anger in others.

Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and harnessing it  to restore it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.

If you need help with this, you may contact me for a complimentary consult.  I am a certified anger management specialist and have groups in Long Island and work with individuals face to face and via telephone and skype.


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Balance Your Body and Emotions – An Evening of Stress Release and Relaxation

Posted in entrepreneurs, happy, health, holistic, life coach, long island, Long Island Networking, New York, self- care, self-help, stress, stress release, success, work-life balance, tagged , , , , on April 27, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

Wednesday, April 27 and May 11 at 7:30 – 9:30 PM

Le Look Hair Studio Ltd. - 

191 Atlantic Ave – Freeport, NY 11520 

 516 857 3576   FREE!

Enjoy a free consult and mini-session with VAN (Value Added Networking) wellness and stress management practitioners. Take time and give yourself a gift of health & happiness!  

Maria Antonopoulos - Balanced Health Acupuncture: Offering a mini acupuncture treatment for relaxation with essential oils 516 395 0966

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.Ed. will guide you through a peak performance success coaching conversation session that may include EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and relaxation-stress release techniques! Be ready to “SOAR! with Resilience™.   

Bruce Kesten, D.C., Certified in Applied Kinesiology. Kesten Family Chiropractic, Baldwin, NY  - Offering a complimentary spinal stress exam 516 536 6806 

Eugene Wood, LMT  - Offering a complementary consultation and mini-massage   917 952 8052

Gift Certificates available!

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Manage stress to help your business thrive! April 19, 20116:54 PMBy JAMIE HERZLICH jherzlich@aol.co

Posted in long island, media, positive energy, self-help, small business, SOAR!with Resilience, stress, success, tagged , , , on April 25, 2011 | 4 Comments »

Jamie Herzlich writes the Small Business column in Newsday.

“Manage stress to help your business thrive”

The article on stress busting tips for small business owners is in today’s Newsday. Here is the link:

Manage stress to help your business thrive

April 19, 2011 by JAMIE HERZLICH / jherzlich@aol.com

You’re running your business day after day, week after week.

All the important decisions fall on your shoulders and there never seem to be enough hours in the day to get everything done.

It’s no wonder you might be feeling a bit stressed. The challenge is learning how to deal with it so it doesn’t impact your health or take over your life, say experts.

“Stress typically leads to burnout, sickness, unhappiness and reduced productivity,” says work-life/career coach Sharon Teitelbaum of Sharonteitelbaum.com and author of “Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued” (Wonder Works Publishing; $15). “You need to manage your stress levels in order to thrive.”

There are several ways to do this and here are just a few:

Cut a deal with your inner perfectionist: Entrepreneurs feel like they have to do everything fabulously, says Teitelbaum of Watertown, Mass. Oftentimes they become a slave to their high standards in every part of their lives, she says. “Find a place in your life where you can lower a standard without serious consequences,” she says. Perhaps, it means outsourcing less-critical tasks.

Acknowledge yourself: Business owners/managers can be their own worst critics, says Teitelbaum. Acknowledge your own good work so you’re not always focusing on the negative. It doesn’t have to be momentous achievements, even something like handling a difficult conversation with a customer, she notes.

Take time off:Designate clear time off and stick to it. Turn off your BlackBerry and adhere to some downtime. “You can return to work refreshed,” says Teitelbaum.

Reduce distractions:If you keep getting sidetracked or distracted, you’ll feel like you’re accomplishing nothing and get more stressed, explains Eileen Lichtenstein, chief executive of Balance & Power Inc. in Baldwin, a work-life peak performance success coach. Force yourself to not check email every two seconds or, if working from home, don’t start doing chores, she says.

Optimize peak performance times: Understand when your personal energy is at its peak, says Lichtenstein, author of “SOAR! with Resilience” (Balance & Power Press; $19.99). Plan your work accordingly, she says. For instance, if you’re working on Excel spreadsheets, you might not save that for the evening when your eyes have been straining all day.

Change scenery:Take a quick walk outside or set up your computer in a shady spot outdoors, says Lichtenstein. “It’s extremely peaceful,” she says.

Delegate: You don’t need to do everything yourself, says Rosalie Moscoe, owner of Health

inHarmony.com in Toronto and author of “Frazzled, Hurried Woman! Your Stress Relief Guide to Thriving . . . Not Merely Surviving” (Create Space; $18.95). Focus on tasks you can really add value to and delegate some of the other more mundane tasks, says Moscoe, who did this herself after spending too much time designing booklet covers for her speaking engagements. “You’ve got to get people to help you,” says Moscoe, who now has a student do that task for her so she can work on more pressing activities.

Eat right:Don’t skip meals or eat junk food, but instead choose high-energy foods with protein like eggs and fish, says Moscoe. “That’s brain food,” she says.

Get physical:Do something physical and get your body moving, says Moscoe. It will get your blood flowing and you’ll feel energized, she says. That’s what Katherine Heaviside, president of Epoch 5 Public Relations in Huntington, does each morning before her work day begins. “I run five to six days a week,” says Heaviside. “I find when I run, by the end of it, I’m thinking more clearly.” She even leaves her cellphone behind. “There’s a sense of aloneness I really treasure,” notes Heaviside.

Fast Fact:

Entrepreneurs certainly do lead busy lives. A survey last year by U.S. Bancorp of more than 2,700 small business owners found that 65 percent say they are almost always on the go.

Find skills and strategies to help with stress reduction: Image (155) (3)

http://balanceandpower.com/soarwithresilience.php

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Powerful Phrasing for Resilience!

Posted in communication, energy, positive thinking, tagged , , , , on April 22, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

 We have heard about LOA (Law of Attraction) & visualizing positive outcomes to manifest who and what we want. Most importantly, we need the action/practice component for ultimate productivity powerful positive language to become a happy habit! I’ve been revisiting this aspect of positive thinking and LOA, and am encouraging you to take this challenge and change your low energy phrases to high-energy phrases with your own words.

Here are some examples:

  • “That’s not bad” becomes “That’s quite good.”
  • “No problem” becomes “You’re very welcome, sure, I’ll be happy to!”
  • “That’s bad” becomes “That’s not good.”
  • “Don’t worry” becomes “You’ll be fine.”
  • “Put some effort into it” becomes “Let’s put some energy into it.”
  • “It’s too hard” becomes “It’s not easy.”
  • “I’m sick” becomes “I don’t feel well.”
  • “I forgot” becomes “I didn’t remember.”
  • “I’ve been working hard” becomes “I’ve been working well.”
  • “Don’t cry” becomes “That’s OK..”

This switch is most easily facilitated with a buddy- someone whom you’re often with and agrees to do this for a while with a smile! Do you have some additional phrases to switch-up? Please share them with your buddy this week.

Negative language conveys a poor image to those around us. 

Sometimes it causes conflict and confrontation where none is necessary or desired. The first place to start using positive language is with written material. Once you have developed the knack of writing positively, it will be easier to change your spoken language to present a more positive tone.

Your subconscious picks up on the negative word, no matter what context you use.

Negative phrasing and language often have the following characteristics:

  • tells the recipient what cannot be done.
  • has a subtle tone of blame.
  • includes words like can’t, won’t, unable to, that tell the recipient what the sending agency cannot do
  • does not stress positive actions that would be appropriate, or positive consequences.

Positive phrasing and language have the following qualities:

  • tells the recipient what can be done
  • suggests alternatives and choices available to the recipient
  • sounds helpful and encouraging rather than bureaucratic
  • stresses positive actions and positive consequences that can be anticipated.

Common Negative Language/Phrasing 

If you want to move to more positive communication, the first task is to identify and eliminate common negative phrasing. The following are quite common, and should be avoided whenever possible.

1. Expressions that suggest carelessness:
a) You neglected to specify…
b) You failed to include…
c) You overlooked enclosing…

2. Phrases that suggest the person is lying:
a) You claim that…
b) You say that…
c) You state that…

3. Expressions that imply that the recipient is not too bright: 
a) We cannot see how you…
b) We fail to understand…
c) We are at a loss to know…

4. Demanding phrases that imply coercion/pressure:
a) You should…
b) You ought to…
c) You must…
d) We must ask you to…
e) We must insist…

5. Phrases that might be interpreted as sarcastic or patronizing:
a) No doubt…
b) We will thank you to…
c) You understand, of course…
d) Please respond soon…

 Practice!!

It works  to have someone you are around with often so that you can give each other a “signal” when a negative phrase or word is used.  All the best with this!! As with every new habit – it takes at least 21 days of “getting it right”.

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Stress – Anger Management Groups and Wednesday Wellness Nights in Long Island: Stress Release & Relaxation

Posted in Uncategorized on April 17, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

Stress – Anger Management Long Island Group 3 Week Series


When: Saturdays May 7, 14 and 21 (6 hours)
Time: 9AM-11AM

Cost: $150 to reserve your space for 3 Group Sessions.
10% family discount for 2nd person registration: $135

Location: Groh Well Healing Center,www.grohwellhealingcenter.com
389 Merrick Avenue
Merrick, NY 11566
516 867 5132

Also on: Thursdays May 12 and 19 (4 hours)
And: Thursdays June 2, 9 (4 hours)
Time: 7-9 PM
Cost: $100 (4 hours) or $175 (8 hours)
10% family discount for 2nd person registration
Location: Glory Beezz, Baldwin NY
2419 Grand Ave., Baldwin, NY 11510
(516) 567-4013

[Participants must be at least 18 years of age]

Paypal below or or mail check to:
Eileen Lichtenstein, Balance & Power, Inc.
PO Box 894
Baldwin, NY 11510

This class will explore strategies to release anger and deal effectively with others. Because anger is highly affected by stress levels, this course also deals with stress reduction and management. The best predictor of a positive outcome is your willingness to honestly examine and admit the consequences of your anger problem. Think for a moment what your anger has cost you in terms of your relationships, health, work life and financial situation.

The focus of the course is to develop skills that will enhance all of these area. You will have assignments and attend 3 consecutive sessions (6 hours) to be awarded a certificate. There will be the opportunity to continue into additional sessions and for individual sessions at this location (Sat. AM following the group) and at other locations-times. You may contact me for further information and view my website for an overview of my work and background.

More Information Here: Anger Management Long Island Group at www.meetup.com

Individual sessions may be arranged in Merrick and other locations.

Questions? Please contact Eileen:
(516) 623-4353
eileen@balanceandpower.com

Groh Well Healing Center: $150 to reserve your space for 3 Group Sessions, 6 hrs:

Cost: $150

Groh Well Healing Center: 10% family discount for 2nd person registration:

Cost: $135

Glory Beezzz in Baldwin, NY – 4 hours: $100 to reserve your space:

Cost: $100

Glory Beezzz in Baldwin, NY – 4 hours: 10% family discount for 2nd person registration:

Cost: $90

Glory Beezzz in Baldwin, NY – 8 hours: $175 to reserve your space:

Cost: $175

Glory Beezzz in Baldwin, NY – 8 hrs 10% family discount for 2nd person registration:

Cost: $157

Balance your Body and Emotions
An Evening of Stress Release and Relaxation
Free Event Presented by VAN (Value Added Networking)

When: Wednesday, April 27 and Wed May 11th at 7:30 PM
Location: Le Look Hair Studio Ltd.
191 Atlantic Ave
Freeport, NY 11520
(516) 867-3576
Cost: FREE!

Enjoy a free consult and mini-session with VAN wellness practitioners Take time and give yourself a gift of health & happiness!

Maria Antonopoulos – Balanced Health Acupuncture: Maria will give you the opportunity to experience The Magic of Essential Oils, aromatic compounds of plants that help release tension, calm and relax you, help you have a deeper and more rejuvenating sleep, and keep you energized during the day. She also is offering a mini acupuncture treatment for relaxation on site. www.acupuncture.li 516 395 0966

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS.Ed., EFT-ADV. will guide you through a peak performance success coaching conversation session that may include EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and relaxation-stress release techniques! Be ready to “SOAR! with Resilience™.
www.balanceandpower.com 516 623 4353

Bruce Kesten, D.C., Certified in Applied Kinesiology. At this office our mission is to improve the quality of your life. We know that health is so much more than just not feeling pain. We strive to have our patients reach their fullest innate potential. Experience the difference as we “Change the World, One Adjustment At A Time!”
Kesten Family Chiropractic, Baldwin, NY (516) 536-6806

Eugene Wood, LMT educates the client (tissues heal – muscles learn) and becomes a partner in the client’s well-being. Techniques used include Swedish strokes, stretching, neuromuscular re-education, deep tissue, CranioSacral, Visceral manipulation, and the use of heat and cold. Massage has been proven to alleviate stress, reduce pain, and restore muscle energy.
www.eugenelmt.com 917 952 8052 [Offering a complementary consultation and mini-massage]

Gift Certificates available!

Don’t Miss It!

 presented by  Value Added Network  

   vantastic@groups.facebook.

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Anger Provoking Events

Posted in anger coach, anger management and conflict resolution training, Certified Anger Management Specialist, long island, New York, road rage, stress, tagged , , , , on April 15, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

Anger provoking events are all around us; like stress it is in the perception of each individual as to how one responds.  When you get angry, it is beacause an event has provoked your anger.  Everyday events such as these are anger provoking in the moment or because it has reminded you of a similar situation in the past that was anger provoking:

  • Being cut off on the road
  • Traffic congestion
  • Long waiting in a doctor’s office
  • Long lines in the store, post office, bank to wait on
  • Crowded buses and trains
  • Being wrongly accused
  • A friend joking about a sensitive topic
  • Having an untidy roomate or family member
  • Having to clean up someone else’s mess
  • Being placed on hold for long periods of time while on the telephone
  • Having difficulty understanding someone on the telephone in customer service
  • Being given wrong directions
  • Having anything stolen from you
  • Rumors spread about you
  • Having a neighbor who plays the stereo too loud, etc.

It is also possible for specific events to touch on sensitive areas in your life.  These “red flags” usually refer to long standing issues that can easily lead to anger.  For example,  even though you may be a good reader as an adult, a childhood slowness sensitivity may be evoked when someone rushes us or becomes impatient re completing an application or form, or when someone calls us “slow” or “stupid”.

As an anger coach and being US Court certified as an Anger Management Specialist I help individuals and groups to learn how to deal with anger provoking events and triggers.  You may contact me to find out how we can work together via telephone, skpe or face to face in Long Island, NY.

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Seeking your help..

Posted in anger management and conflict resolution training, collaboration, communication, prioritizing, tagged , , , , , , on April 15, 2011 | Leave a Comment »

In addition to Balance & Power facilitations and coaching in many areas hopefully you know I am now certified to help in anger and stress management.   I also can facilitate powerful learning programs with a colleague that get measurable results in all of these six areas :

You get RESULTS in these areas:

1. Personal Organization

2. Increased Productivity

3. Development of Key Personnel

4. Superior Communication

5. Increased Focus on Priorities

6. Greater Teamwork
Likely you know a sizable number of people who would like to increase productivity and profitability for their organizations especially in these challenging times. How about helping one or two of your colleagues or contacts by referring me? Since you haven’t experienced these multi-sensory behavior changing materials, although I would be thrilled to give you the opportunity to do so, I know you cannot recommend the programs. All I ask is for you to either speak to them or send an email asking them to take my phone call and provide me with their name and number. I can assure you that since achievement of the goals set before beginning the process are guaranteed, you will be doing a favor for these people. Your assistance would be greatly appreciated and I thank you,  in advance for your help.
Happy Spring & Holidays to you & your family~
Warmly,
 Eileen 

Eileen Lichtenstein, MS. Ed.

CEO, Balance & Power, Inc.

Peak Performance Success & Career Coach

www.balanceandpower.com 

Author, Facilitator SOAR! with Resilience™  

  Stress & Anger Management Specialist

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) 

associate/affiliate www.JASBMangement.com

www.motivationalwhisperers.com 

Board Member www.longislandwomeninpower.com 

516 623 4353   Skype


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Finding Your Purpose

					

						Posted in inspirational quote, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , ,  on April 9, 2011 | 
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An article published in today’s Sunday April 9 Newsday written by Rabbi Marc Gellman of the “God Squad” titled “Finding your purpose on life’s solitary journey” included a few powerful inspirational quotes that I will share with you here:


“Lonliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”

- Mother Teresa


“Many persons have the wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness.  It is not attained through self-gratification but thtough fidelity to a worthy purpose.”   – Helen Keller


“You never find happiness until you stop looking for it.”  - Chuanf Tzu, the 5th century BCE Chinese Philosopher


“Happiness is having having a large, loving, close knot family- in another city.”   - George Burns


“For there is hope of a tree.  If it be cut down,that it wqill sprout again, and its tender branches will not die.  If it’s roots are old in the earth, even if the trunk dies in the ground, at the first scent of water it will bud and bring forth boughs like a plant.”    - Job (14:7-9)


“God is the healer of shattered hearts.”  -Rabbinic teaching

					
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Transform Stress into Success!

					

						Posted in anger management and conflict resolution training, balance, coaching, communication, EFT, emowerment, energy, entrpreneurs, guided imagery, networking, relaxation breathing, self-help, small business, SOAR!with Resilience, stress, success, tapping, time management, transformative, work-life balance, workshops and trainings, tagged , , , , , , , , , , ,  on April 3, 2011 | 
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You are absolutely ready to transform stress into success if you say or think the following: 



“I can’t cope!”


“I’m tired of being angry!”


“I never have enough time for my family, forget about myself:)!”


“I don’t have enough energy to go out or to exercise.”


“I don’t seem to get anything accomplished.”


“I spend too much time working.”


“My relationship (marriage) is in trouble…”


These are statements that I hear everyday from my clients and at small business networking meet-ups.  When you attend my interactive virtual or in person trainings and Motivational Whisperer Master Mind (TBA!), and as an individual client, you will learn strategies and techniques to help you cope with daily stress, increase productivity, enhance relationships and boost your bottom line and empower you.  Miscommunications at home and among staff will lessen, complex demands juggling home and work will balance and frustration-anger thresholds will rise, as will productivity.


When you are in this group or work with me individually, you will:


    

  • Learn to identify blocks keeping you stuck in negative patterns
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  • Learn to recognize triggers which cause blocks
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  • Learn how to be proactive in dealing with stressors
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  • Experience and practice techniques that increase productivity and reduce stress:  Visualizations for Success, Positive Languaging, Relaxation Breathing , EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, meridian tapping  see demo videos, Goal Setting, Time Management and Prioritizing Strategies.
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Contact me for a Complimentary Consult!:


516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 



					
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